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Some serious advice, /hc/... Anonymous
So, I recently got a new girlfriend. It's a very recent thing, and we've had sex a few times. I won't be coy, I was a virgin. But I feel pretty terrible: She can't get me to cum. Our first night, I got her to but couldn't myself. It's continued on from there.

Now, do not get me wrong: I love this girl. I would rather spend the rest of my life having unfilled sex with her than getting my rocks off with any other chick, and it's not like I don't enjoy doing it. But she seems pretty disappointed that she can't really compete. I dunno, I guess I'm just not that sensitive.

I'd like some serious advice, and before it is given, no, she will not take it in her pooper.

Yet.
>> Anonymous
Hm, it might help to have a bit more insight:

I don't know. My dick ain't that sensitive, it seems, though I can usually get myself off fine. I kinda had to do the whole jack myself off into her mouth bit.

Also, small penis. Not like minuscule, but it keeps annoyingly popping out and that really kills everything. *shrug*

Did I come to the wrong board for advice? (in before every board is the wrong board)
>> Anonymous
You need to cut your own hea...oh wait, this isn't /b/.
Try KY or a rippled condome, you need stronger stimulation.
>> Anonymous
you are probably gay!!!!
>> Anonymous
well believe me alot of guys have the same problem; and my investigations yield 2 possibilities: 1. too much pr0n thus making you "numb" to other things 2. underlying anxiety for one reason or another
>> Anonymous
i also suspect the way you normally wank may have rendered you less sensitive; thats what i think happened to me
>> Anonymous
Fuck her ass if her cunt can't do the trick.
>> Anonymous
Hmmm. Thanks for the advice.

I'll have to try the rippled condoms. Honestly, uh...we haven't been using any. Bad idea, I'm sure. The lube worked a'ight at first...

Also, yeah, I fear that the way I normally wank, which is just dry handed, may've killed my sensitivity. As for porn, I'm kinda desensitized, but I still get off to it. I dunno.

Think if I just take a break from it all for a while, I may get it back?
>> Anonymous
>...the way I normally wank, which is just dry handed, may've killed my sensitivity.

I beat it barehanded nearly daily and I've never had a problem cumming in my wife. If you haven't been together very long, maybe it's just that you're not 100% comfortable yet. Anxiety can do strange things to your body. Give it time and it'll work out.
>> Anonymous
>>222799

Hmmm. Thanks for the advice.
>> Anonymous
you were a vigin before you started with this girl.
she's your first.

YOU'RE JUST NERVOUS.
Seriously man, don't worry about it, just try to loosen up if possible.
>> Anonymous
It's anxiety. When you become more relaxed with her and in that situation, you will cum.

I've had sex with two girls, and it's happened both times. The second wasn't nearly as bad though.
>> Anonymous
If your going to have sex, don't jerk off within 24 hours of it. A lot of guys have that problem because of this. It's good if you want to go longer or are having trouble not cumming like right away but for you it might be whats making you unable to.
>> Anonymous
>>222810
Try a no-fap week. Not only will you fire a Peter North-esque load when you do cum, it'll be much harder than you're used to and it should be easier to achieve.
>> Anonymous
it happens to most of us, first time, you don't really know her intimately and that leaves you nervous.

just give it time, i know it's frustrating.
>> Anonymous
Happened on my first attempt too. As others have pointed is mostly anxiety. Maybe you're trying too hard to prove yourself, just relax and talk with your girl. Take it slowly and experiment until you get the hang of it.
>> Anonymous
Happend to me on my first time too, its anxiety mate. Just relax, have some foreplay and all that. do what you wanna do besides fuck her brains out and cum in her vagoo.

Ive fapped 3 times a day every day for the past 4 years and i still manage to have good sex :P
>> Anonymous
also, stop wanking altogether.

after a long time you may find it beneficial to resume doing so. your judgment.
>> Anonymous
Just don't fap for weeks and have her tease the shit out of you before you fuck.
You'll cum buckets in no time.

It's all mental, OP.
>> Anonymous
i personally take 2-4hrs when fucking my wife , as long as ur not going limp you should feel proud of urself and just keep fucking her till u eventually cum. If you or she are get bored , ur not doing it right.
>> Anonymous
just don't think of it as fucking your girlfriend, think of it as getting yourself off. i was pretty nervous when i first fucked my girlfriend and i had some problems cumming too so i think it may also be your problem. have her lay there in missionary position and let you work away on your own. not to say you she can't kiss you etc but you just need to not think about the situation at all.

also, don't pull out too much if you're popping out. obviously you wanna pull out as far as possible but start with small thrusts and work your way up.
>> Anonymous
>>222880
same anon here, obv as other people have said stop masturbating, and for now stop looking at porn (so yeah, wrong board lol) spend some time on foreplay, also. dryhumping, bj's etc. something i like to do with my gf is be in the spooning position and rub my cock along her buttcrack. feels good man
>> Anonymous
Like others have said, stop the wank. Also, don't drink or take drugs or medication. Take it slow, it's also a matter of finding the rhythm. I didn't 'nail' it on the first couple of tries either ;)
>> Anonymous
you are such a fag for falling in love with the first chick you ever boned
>> Anonymous
if the chick in the op is ur girlfriend, send her to me so she wont get disappointed for not making the guy cum, ill fap all over that broad
>> Anonymous
cut or uncut op?
I have a similar problem and my cut dick just doesn't seem to like company. no-fap week didn't work thus far, but maybe I just fapped for too many years to pron so my brain blew a fuse. I get really close most of the times I am fucking my girlfriend but then I seem to hit a mental brick wall and once the disappointment kicks in I can't cum for sure.
>> Anonymous
I have never cum with a woman. Can cum in 30 second through wanking though. Sucks!
>> Anonymous
Drugs.
>> Anonymous
Loosen the muscle between your balls and your ass. Once you get to fucking her fast, just release it, as if you were trying to Pee, and keep going for like, 10 secs.
>> What the fuck is this shit...
>>222917

Same here.

OP: Have sex, then get her to wank you.
>> Anonymous
Try cocaine. It won't help with your problem but at least you'll be happier.
>> Anonymous
>>222801
>>222803
>>222810
>>222824

these. A good wank will kill your libido for 24-36 hours. If she's a good lay, then you'll find that sometimes you need to wank, and sometimes you need to fuck her. There are different reasons for each. But you can't do both at the same time.
>> Anonymous
Fake it
>> Anonymous
My advice is to just relax, and stop thinking about it. Trying to fix the problem only made it worse for me. Just focus on being in the moment, not getting off and you'll be all the better for it.
>> Anonymous
probably from jacking off too much for too long a period of time when you are actually doing it. you can try holding your balls as you fuck her or slip a bit of your pinky finger in your asshole, seriously.
>> Anonymous
Are you using a condom? Because if you do, you know, it sort of kills the sensations. (If you don't, enjoy your AIDS.)

I had the same problem the only time I had sex, it was with a hooker. The setting was comfortable, and obviously I didn't care about impressing her. I just couldn't come, even by fapping by myself in the end. When I came back to my hotel room, I had a shower, and I fapped and came in five minutes.

So yeah, pretty much anxiety.
>> Anonymous
Same problem here. Anxiety kills boners. Medication for anxiety makes you fuck for hours and still you won't cum, not even jacking off. People who suffer from it are pretty much fucked (in a bad sense).
>> Anonymous
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Ok, I've recently lost my virginity as well and I had the same exact 'problem' as OP. We did it a few times and I just couldn't come, she asked me about it and if I could when I jerked off, I answered yes...

A few weeks later, when I saw this girl again, I'm gonna confess that I did come (thank god for anonymity) but I was totally thinking of another girl I had this huge crush on... I pretended I was doing the other chick and jizzed all inside her pretty quick.

Anyway, I have another question... The girl I was having sex with would just stop me after a while (I don't really know how long, maybe 20-30 minutes) saying it "hurt" her... Now, I have a pretty small penis, I was always embarassed by it... and since I didn't come I thought I could make it up by going at it for at least 2 hours but she would always stop me after a little while, wtf guys? Do they all do that or was she just getting bored?
>> Anonymous
I've recently come off a rather heavy couple of years of substance abuse and I can't cum either. It's infuriating.
>> Anonymous
>>223039

She was not aroused by it, she probably was going very dry and by pumping her you made her more uncomfortable.
>> Anonymous
>>223039
thinking of another girl to help u cum is entirely standard. and try using moar lube. some girls get dry after too much fuckin.
>> Anonymous
>>223043

fuck... we did use lube once and the same thing happened though? was I really that terrible? Q_Q oh god...
>> Anonymous
>>223046

She's got too many shit on her mind, so her libido went down.
>> Anonymous
>>223046
she's just not that into you
>> Anonymous
>>223042

Tell me about it. If I'd know that those years of abuse would affect my sex life I would've been a choir boy.
>> Anonymous
I had the same problem, but your like me. you have to do your own thing to get off, after shes fulfilled you have to go really fast almost like masturbation and then you can get off. actually we're lucky, we wont prematurely cum.
>> Anonymous
>>222940

Hah, 2 anons who have never met came to the same conclusion. This is exactly how I do it, it works perfectly for me. Trust me OP, even if your bladder is overflowing it's pretty hard to piss if you've been boning a chick for a good 20 minutes. Don't believe me, try it while wanking. Simplest shit EVER but it works.
>> Anonymous
Bah, dont worry. you just need practice. Do her from behind and youll come in no time.
>> Anonymous
>>223068
Would've been a different kind of abuse. Just be glad she doesn't have to shave her head to a widow's peak and wear a white collar.
>> Anonymous
I suggest hold out till she lets you do anal
>> Anonymous
>>223089

Don't get it. Please explain, kind anon, the process in detail.
>> Anonymous
>>223084

So when you have problems cumming you act like you're going to take a piss?
>> Anonymous
>>223118

Well that's one way to word it... but yeah, pretty much, use those particular muscles
>> Anonymous
she's damn lucky to be able to cum all the time. ): are you sure that she's not pretending? lol
>> Anonymous
i would just recommend doing it multiple times. Idk if someone else suggested it (topic is tl;dr) but i would go with that, and then try some of the stuff that other people have said too
>> Anonymous
look man

tits or GTFO
>> Anonymous
>>222904
>> Anonymous
>>223043
agreed. I had this problem with my ex. I would fuck and fuck and fuck and at the end of it, shed be dry as a bucket of sand. Could come through every other way, just not sex w/ condom.
>> Anonymous
This happened to me. Like, exactly. Just make sure you are really comfortable around her and just keep fucking her. Don't make it a big deal.

Just stick it in her and have some fun, don't worry about accomplishing shit. You'll have fun and one day you'll pop, and after that there will be less trouble.
>> Anonymous
Ok, I used to be in the same boat, at the beginning of my current relationship. Trust me, keep at it, it'll get better. I pretty much don't need to fap anymore.
>> ~
It's all a subconscious anxiety thing. You could for example feel really up to the task and horny and hard during foreplay, but when it gets to the point where you have to stay hard and get that condom on and start having sex, trouble starts. It seems pretty common when there's not a deep level of comfort and security felt with the other person. Over time it will most probably get better.
>> Anonymous
simmilar here, since im an internetsuperhero i sometimes fap 2-3 time a day, so when my girl gets that demanding look on her face i sometimes fail too keep the booner till the end, and believe me she's hot. does lots of sports and shit and i really love her. bottom line: ure defenetly not alone! thats just something guys dont admit to ppl they know in RL.
as sed above relax its mental, or maybe u just fap to godamn much like i do ^^