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Anonymous
>>53205 This. Take twenty goddamn minutes and feel around, massaging, probing, teasing, kissing, groping all over a new partner to feel out all their erogenous zones.
Ask them how they masturbate, what sort of touches they like and don't like, what their kinks are, et al. Share your own personal info with them, too, so you both know exactly what the other expects. Turn it into dirty talk if you're that goddamn impatient.
If you're really smart, you'll talk a week before (if you're not committed yet) and get full-spectrum blood tests for STIs done at the hospital, because it's better to know 100% with no questions than to find out years later you've been spreading. You are not implying someone's filthy for asking for exchanges of sexual history and medical information--you are smart and mature. Sex isn't without risk, ever, so you might as well be smart about it unless you know for a fact your partner has never had unprotected sex/is a virgin. Fumbling around five minutes before you fuck without knowing the other person's body, history, preferences, etc. at all is just fucking retarded. Drunken fratboy clones do that shit, not real people deserving of pleasure. Put in effort, receive intense, mind-boggling pleasure and fun with someone you at least like. It's that simple.
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