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/hc/'s worst nightmare Anonymous
Hey guys.

I keep have this recurring thought in my head that because of me masturbating so much to porn, when I finally have sex with a girl I won't feel it. Does this happen, anon? What would you do ( especially you saved it until marriage )?

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>> Anonymous
to much porn will kill some of the romantic qualitys of a relaionship. its probably the reason I never get involved in anything serious
>> Anonymous
Saved it time marriage.....lolz

Stupid religious bitch
>> Anonymous
Too much fapping (especially roughly) will desensitize you a bit to sex, but you'd have to fap yourself raw on a daily basis to not enjoy sex.

Insensitivity is a bitch though in its own way, it makes every fuck a goddam workout & there's no such thing as a quickie.

My advice is to avoid the death-grip on your johnson & use lube to prevent insensitivity/ nerve damage. As for too much porn killing the romance, never had that problem.
>> Anonymous
This is just stupid unless your jerking off 10 times a day (in which case you may want to shut off the computer and go outside for a while)
Your emotional attachment to someone will dictate your sexual experience.
And don't wait time your married to have sex with the person you want to marry, that is just poor planning, and usually results in divorce.
God fags don't know how, lose your religion it's stupid and makes the world a shitter place
>> Anonymous
because we are complex creatures we require two basic components in a sexual experience: the fantasy and the reality.
The fantasy exists in our own mind and the reality is, in a sense, secondary and supplemental to the fantasy. We use the reality to provide reference for the fantasy so that when, in your mind, the filthy cheerleader is stroking your member, your own hand provides the stimulation, and you allow yourself to be fooled on a visceral level and complete the experience.
There are occasions where pure fantasy leads to orgasm, such as a wet dream, but this complete dissociation is rare for a normal person.
Now, pornography provides a framework for fantasy which is largely complete. For the most part all we need do is insert ourselves in the sceneraio presented in the video/picture/story and the prepackaged fantasy works effectively.
Were we can run into difficulty is this: persistent use of pornography can create a considerable distance between the fantasy world and the real one to a point were the real world can provide fewer and fewer anchor points to perpetuate the fantasy. Realization of fantasy becomes less and less realistic and soon nothing ion reality can provide a sufficient supplement to the fantasy to fool us long enough to provide satisfaction; no real person or sensation can compete with the fantasy, and this must lead to dissatisfaction.
>> Anonymous
>>44500So Sad
That your fantasy is better then your reality.
Try living here (real world) instead.
Find a girl that will fulfill your fantasies.
>> Anonymous
>>44500

Impressive explanation. I will now steal it and save it in my quotes.
>> Sadayoshi [POLSKA R0X]
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>> Anonymous
>>44492
I'm not fucking religious. I'm an ugly faggot and I'm positive I won't have the pleasure of having meaningless sex.
>> Anonymous
It can. It's a bitch - but in my case it's not that I can't feel it, it's that I get 'stuck' just before climax and don't cum through intercourse easily.

If you get the right girl you can fuck for hours though, so it's not all bad.
>> Anonymous
>>44500
Good. I'm not that bad yet. I try to abstain for the more hardcore stuff like rape ( specifically rape ). The stuff I watch is pretty normal, but I still have these fucking ideas in my mind of rape, wanting to rape people, like when I'm in the shower sometimes the only way I can finish is rape or something like rape.

What the fuck? How do I fix myself?
>> Anonymous
>>44574


Meh, a fantasy is just a fantasy, there are sick fucks who fantasize about even sicker stuff than you do probably.

Just as long as you still get turned on by real women (hint: the women you see in porn aren't real), you'll be fine.

Maybe AbbyWinters is something for you, hhaha.
>> Anonymous
Didn't ever seem to have any problems with it, just been good takin' a wank before going to a party where you feel you might score. It makes you superman!
>> Anonymous
>>44500
There's a catch, you can inverse the way of thinking: anchor the fantasy to the reality, or make reality the fantasy.
>> Anonymous
>>44633

explain
>> Anonymous
>>44634
In this case : Rape.
>> Anonymous
>>44637

i don't want to rape, just have healthy normal sex with my girl
>> Anonymous
>>44639
But you don't watch rape porn 24/7, right? The fantasy of most porn is just healthy sex.
>> Anonymous
To be honest, I WANT to jerk off all the fucking time.

My girlfriend is hot. She's tiny, fun to fuck, very cute. I love having sex more than jerking off, but I can't always fuck.

I can, however, almost always jerk off.

If I jerk off every day for an entire week, the jerking is good and the sex on the weekend is good.

If I jerk off maybe once, and then don't do it for a few days before we fuck, the sex is fucking amazing and I feel like a GOD of SEX.


tl;dr don't jerk off too much, makes sex better
>> Anonymous
>>44642

how can you say that when you wank everyday?
>> Anonymous
>>44641
Which is only a fantasy because obviously, you're not usually not having sex at the time of you masturbating and watching porn.
>> Anonymous
>>44643

What?
>> Anonymous
>>44633
In a sense, we do use reality to anchor our fantasy. Even a fantastic universe has a set of rules which we generally define using the real world as our guide. If we start from the position of absolute freedom, that is, the position of absolute chaos, there is no sense to be made of anything.

The strength and indeed the whole point of fantasy is to create for ourselves a world which mostly mirrors the real one but in which our limitations are selectively removed, such as the bounds of gravity or our ability to influence other individuals in our environment.

That second point seems cogent, here the OP mentions a rape fantasy. In it's essence a condition where we create a fantasy world almost as limited as the real one, yet it is one free of consequences. The OP fantasizes about rape and so eliminates the cost of a genuine rape in terms of the physical exertion, emotional and legal consequences and, to a degree, indulges his desire to dominate. (Here, I make a guess, as I hold that, being subjective, the true motivation for the rape fantasy can only be known by him).

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>> Anonymous
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Here we see the more positive side of fantasy where a degree of release can be enjoyed while avoiding the socially unacceptable act itself, although it is not without it's own pitfalls as it can lead to obsession as the real and fantasy worlds diverge (see previous post).
First, I would recommend enjoying your rape fantasy guilt-free. Leaving aside the...let us say well-meant intentions of most religious dogma...your rape fantasy harms no one. Second, I would try to understand why you enjoy this fantasy, not to change it, but to understand why it motivates you. An important thing to examine is the elements of the real world that you keep and those that you discard. For example, does your fantasy include stalking, running from the police, killing your victim...? Try to understand why you keep or do away with real-world elements to build your fantasy and therein learn about your own, semi-conscious desires.
What you do with this information is up to you.
>> Anonymous
Frequent masturbation can kill your libido. Just, cut back if you know your gonna have sex soon. Avoid handjobs from anyone but professionals.
>> Anonymous
>>44506
You say that like it's easy.
>> Anonymous
>>44552
I fuck to cum, not conceive.
>> Anonymous
>>44721
Protip: alcohol.
>> Anonymous
>>44712
I honestly don't know.

On the other side of the spectrum, ideally I want to be with only 1 girl my entire life and do the whole marriage and kids shit, it just doesn't match up.

I think it's because I am such a weakling around most girls.
pretending to have that power, the ability to actually influence what they do ( be it forced or not ) like they have influenced me so much, the ability to make the rules and dominate, I think that's why I'm so turned on by rape. As, because somehow, in my fucked up mind, I believe that women have been denying me sex and I deserve it. Like I feel cheated.

This also has to do with me thinking I'm ugly and knowing everyone else thinks I'm ugly too, I want to teach them a lesson. Be the monster that they see me as, that they called me all of my life.

FUUUCK there i go again.
>> Anonymous
I dunno, man... My girlfriend looks at more porn than I do. Usually when I'm going to be seeing her, I stop masturbating for a couple days before hand, since college keeps her pretty far away the majority of the time. Our sex life is great, we're plenty romantic with each other, and we share porn.
>> Anonymous
OP Here
Oh wow. I just watched my first rape porn in a while and it wasn't even that bad ( I had been trying to avoid it for a while ). I think it was worse for me to NOT watch it. Plus I came pretty good.
>> Anonymous
>>45311
Um... Hooray?
>> Anonymous
>>44711
>>44712
Freud? Is that you?
>> Anonymous
>>45282
Issues
>> Anonymous
>>44464
I do a quick dry masturbate every now and then...like three or four times a week...Am I killing my penis?
>> Anonymous
Hey guys, since we are talking about penile health and care, what is the cheapest, ready available and non smelly and easy to clean lube?
>> Anonymous
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>>44500
IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG, SASHA GREY WILL BE MY CONSTANT
>> Anonymous
Right on, brotha
>> Anonymous
>>45381
>>45381

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLLLL
>> Anonymous
>>44500
>>44711
>>44712
jesus, it's like we're psycho-analyzing this poor guy: someone actually knowledgeable in Psychology is just letting loose.
I wonder what Freud would think...
>> Freud
The only advice I have to say is this. Jump the wall. Once your mind does not acknowledge what society considers normal, your body will consider it a new unknown. This will stimulate your libido as with the converse of people who do not use porn being turned on by it because they have not become used to it. Also, you may want to check your local drug store for condoms and condom types and uses before attempting a sexual experience.
>> Anonymous
so jerking off will cause nerve damage. I've been at it since 12. How high is the damage rate?
>> Anonymous
>>44595
OP Here
wats AbbyWinters?
>> Anonymous
http://www.tnaflix.com/view_video.php?viewkey=8810830788e8c68a03a4&page=&viewtype=&categ
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>> Anonymous
girl i'm having sex with regularly (not dating) masturbates more than me. a condom broke on the weekend, then the next day she asks me if i knew where the end bit went... i'm like i thought it just broke, didn't know it went anywhere. she found it inside while having a fiddle. kinda shocked me. next time i'll get a torch and have a look around.
>> Anonymous
when I lost it--at age 16-- i couldn't come the first time coz the girl had was short, had short legs that didn't look like the legs of the girls in the wank mags I'd been fapping to... I sooon got over it tho
>> Anonymous
>>45380
spit
>> Anonymous
this kind of happened to me. I cum in something like a third of our sex sessions (and our sessions, due to me not coming, tend to be fairly stretched out). I just don't really feel that much most of the time. I still like it though, just more on the mental side than the physical one. and she fucking loves me for it.