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Anonymous
>>360939 As the sibling of a suicide victim with clinical depression, let me weigh in a little here.
My brother tried a lot of meds but refused to stay on any of them. It was after he was off them for 2-3 weeks that he killed himself. There were still plenty of medications he never tried yet. One of them might have worked. He was also waiting for the 'perfect' medication with no side effects, but they all have some side effect. You pick what solves the most of your depression issues and has side effects you can live with.
He saw a shrink and had group therapy but never opened up. In fact almost at the end I learned he never told his shrink that he cut himself regularly, something which I thought he would have told him first. He kept himself isolated and never really got the help he needed from the shrink or the group.
In general he missed out on life. It's been eight years since then and a lot of amazing things have happened. I got married, have two kids who will now never have an uncle. My brother always had money problems and now I am pretty fucking rich and could totally help him out. He even got a job offer after he died from someone that was out of touch which I think would have been his dream job (working in games industry). When I look at my life over that time period, I think I have experienced many cool things and wish he could have too. He missed out on everything by taking his life.
I don't blame anyone with clinical depression for doing what they do, but for fuck's sake you only have one life to live. When you have tried every medicine, every therapy, gotten second, third, fourth opinions on treatment, when you have visited every support group you can, then consider suicide.
It took me two years of therapy to deal with my brother's death and I think about him every single day. I always will. I miss him.
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