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Looking for sexual advice.

During foreplay it seems like my GF doesn't want to be stroked. She doesn't want me to go down on her either. But she do want to have sex.

Why doesn't she want to be pleasured?
>> Anonymous
yeah i have the same problem..... she doesnt want to suck mine either. but is this /fit/ related?
>> Anonymous
>>400339
Not OP but this is the only place you'll get real advice. /r9k/ your thread will be saged and you'll be given advice from virgins and "fem"anons, and on /b/ you'll get 5 responses all containing some form of "Post your GFs tits" or "I dont believe you have a girlfriend, enjoy your hand" before the thread 404s.
>> Anonymous
>>400339
I figured it was health related (psychological health). If I'd post it in /b/ it'd only get trolled.

I don't care if she goes down on me, but it's sort of a turn off to have sex with someone trying to avoid getting stimulated.
>> Anonymous
>>400346
>>400332
I don't believe you have a girlfriend. Enjoy your hand.
>> Anonymous
>>400359
We can pretend it's an imaginary girlfriend if it helps.

I am enjoying my hand, thank you.
>> Anonymous
It's either she has a bad image or hang up about you going down on her (she thinks it's dirty, figuratively or literally), or she is very sensitive down there and direct stimualtion can be painful.

If it's first, you're screwed. If it's the second, she's probably getting off multiple times from penetration unless you're completely unskilled a sex.
>> Anonymous
>>400385
I'm guessing the first. She doesn't get wet easily either.
She got a dildo once from her girlfriends and she threw it off a bridge. Maybe she's just uninterested in sex, but does it anyway because she's afraid I might leave her.

I guess I'm screwed then.
>> fuck off round eye
Try playing with her nipples and leave soft kisses on her neck, usually that drives girls crazy. Just go easy on her first and if she likes it rougher, go for it.
>> Anonymous
I'm not understanding the problem. So... you don't have to eat her out, or even touch her, just stick it in and commense secks? And you don't like that?

wat

All the other bullshit is just stuff we usually have to do in order to get to the secks, you get to dive right in. That is awesome! I hope to meet your girlfriend one day and snatch her away from you, as you don't seem to appreciate her, and are and idiot.
>> Anonymous
>>400414
Yeah, I know it sounds great on paper, but having sex with someone you believe do not really care for it is not really a turn on.
>> Anonymous
>>400414
This.

The one giving the oral sex or using their hands to pleasure their partner is NOT receiving any pleasure from it or at least not as much as the recipient.

It's a good thing she just wants to have straight sex.

/thread
>> Anonymous
>>400417
>but having sex with someone you believe do not really care for it is not really a turn on.

If she didn't care for sex she wouldn't have sex with you. Maybe she just doesn't care for oral.

Also stop being a fucking faggot:
BAWWW my GF doesn't want me to lick her pussy, she doesn't like me B-B-B-BAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
>> Anonymous
i'd go with the advice of kissing her neck and her breasts. just kiss her all over, kiss her inner thighs, get closer to her vag then pull away and kiss somewhere else, when you're kissing her breasts don't go straight for the nipples, kiss around them and graze your lips against them but pull away and make her want it. get good at dragging your fingertips over her body, any available area of exposed skin, slowly work towards the prize.

slow and steady wins the race.

also, try just asking her what the issue is. be sensitive about it and tactful, if possible.
>> yo yo
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yo she's lesbian
get a new one @ da club

peace
>> Anonymous
>>400417
>having sex with someone you believe do not really care for it is not really a turn on.
Sounds like rape to me, another reason your gf is epic. Do you know where you are?

Srsly stop being so gay and worrying about her pleasure, enjoy yourself because unless you marry her, it won't always be like this.
>> Anonymous
>>400422
It's not about oral sex, I'm talking about any sort of stimulation except normal penetration.
Is it too far fetched to think that she has sex with me because she think I might leave her otherwise?

>>400426
>slow and steady wins the race.
Been there done that, she just switches position making it impossible to reach.
>> Anonymous
>>400430
I'd rather fap than fuck an inanimate object.
>> Anonymous
Dont go down on her straight away. i teased the shit out of my girl by just kissing her inner thighs, breathing on her pussy and stuff like that. She went fucking nuts.
>> Anonymous
>>400435
wtf

pussy feels way better than a hand, plus you can pretend you're fucking a passed out/rufie'd chick. Epic jock+cheerleader roleplay.
>> Anonymous
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>>400418
i get MORE pleasure from making my lover feel good than i do from her going down on me or putting it in. i have no explanation for why this is, but i suspect it has something to do with her very enjoyable responses.

OP, you should probably try to build over time. Learn what little things you can do without jamming something in her vagoo that will turn her on:
having her wear revealing underwear in front of you
having her strip tease for you
learn if there is a pet name she would like
learn to touch her neck, back, breasts, thighs lightly to stimulate her
improve your kissing technique
learn vaginal massage (how to stimulate the clitoris through the pelvis without touching it directly - could be great for you!)
massage, suck and play with her breasts often - the more you do it, the more sensitive they become
teach her to pleasure herself, particularly while you are around to get her more comfortable
i could go on. Question: has your woman ever had an orgasm? if not, she might be worried about that. This could be a fantastic opportunity for you to change her life and make her REALLY like you by giving her orgasms regularly. When women have positive sexual experiences with a man they gradually begin to build a desire to have sex with him - if you can slowly make her associate you with feeling good you may be able to get her to open up and let you make her feel amazing
tl;dr learn how to make her orgasm
>> Anonymous
>>400432
it is possible that she really likes you, but not sex. if this bothers you (it would bother the fuck out of me! i love my woman, and i want her to feel good!) you need to work on it. that fact that you are thinking about it is a sign that you care for her
also, the touching isn't just in the bedroom - you should be taking every opportunity to touch her exposed skin, talk into her ear, kiss her on her neck
>> Anonymous
>>400332

Shes sensitive.
Oral is more stimulating then penetration to females.

Too much stimulus > Pain.

Just fuck her as it is. You're worrying too much.
>> Anonymous
>>400451
>i get MORE pleasure from making my lover feel good than i do from her going down on me or putting it in. i have no explanation for why this is, but i suspect it has something to do with her very enjoyable responses.
Exactly my point, and that's why I'm asking.

I know how to turn a girl on, she's not my first GF. It's sort of hard to stimulate a girl to orgasm when you can't touch their vagina.
>> Anonymous
>>400471
stick it in her pooper.
>> Anonymous
>>400471
again, has she EVAR had an orgasm before? if you can't ouch the vagina
kiss around it on thighs, butt, belly
give her vaginal massage
play with her breasts
>> Anonymous
>>400485
Probably not.
>> Anonymous
>>400539
well then you have found your mission sir
focus on vaginal massage and building her trust in you
warning: if it works she may fall in love with you and want marriage, babies, etc. keep that in mind
>> Anonymous
>>400569
And how does one perform vaginal massage without touching the vagina?
>> Anonymous
My girl is like this. Just wants to get it over and done with. She says.

"If I didn't enjoy it I wouldn't let you do it"

And.

"Shut the fuck up and get on with it."

She then grits her teeth and tries not to cry as I plow the crap out of her with vengeance on my mind. As I get close I'll roll her onto her side or push her legs up and apart. I'm gripping hard enough to bruise and shaking her around with the thrusts. She is starting to cry from the pain of me battering her cervix. I pull out and straining blow my load on her. Give it 30 seconds and then we'll start arguing.

She was molested as a child. Shit sucks. She still wants to do it though. I used to be able to piss on her, make her lick my ass. Anything. Now just straight rape in the missionary position.
>> Anonymous
Because you disgust her and she just wants to steal your pathetic man juice.
>> Anonymous
>>400688
>I used to be able to piss on her, make her lick my ass.
What the fuck is wrong with you? I know this is 4chan, but seriously, why?
>> Anonymous
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Wowy Zowy
>> Anonymous
>>400688
I would have raged if I werent completely sure that you are a weak and lonely virgin who has never even touched a girl. Enjoy acting cool on the internet.

also, sage for troll thread
>> faggot !kzxLmJyzX.
Ever considered she might have been abused/sexually assaulted? I tend to read womenz magazines out of boredom (inb4 fag) and theres quite a few of these agony aunts with people writing in that they dont like being touched because they were abused/raped in the past.

tl;dr - Talk to her, don't try to second guess it.