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sup /fit/
i have a problem with two approaches, one sexual and one... well, it's about having (for once) a healthy relationship.
i have this girl who i've been flirting with for some weeks. she just moved to her own flat and has invited me to go there tomorrow ('i will be here all day unpacking stuff') to grab a beer and see the place.
i'm quite positive that things will get interesting and she might want some action. trouble is: i have phymosis. awful phymosis. my head doesn't show a bit of it below the skin (looks much like the pic).

i have a horrible fear of surgery (had major mouth surgery when i was a kid) and have spent years telling myself that i would get my phy sorted out someday. but since i was a fat slob (i'm WAY fitter now) i didn't get a chance to be intimate with a girl and never felt the urge to do so. until now.

so, please, advise me /fit/. what can i do? how would you address the issue?

TL;DR girl wants to fuck me, i have phymosis. plz help.
>> Anonymous
Doesn't anyone bother to contact clinics anymore?
>> Anonymous
shit. i just didn't thought that /fit/ is a SFW board. the pic could be inappropiate. this is for real though, not trolling.
>> Anonymous
>>104493
Just slowly stretch your foreskin back. Take a hot bath every night, let yourself soak a bit, and work with it. It's a gradual process but the more you play the looser it gets! Eventually you'll be all stretched out and ready to go! :D
>> Anonymous
You don't really need surgery, it should be treatable with steroid creams or something.
>> Anonymous
use a pointy tool to loosen your foreskin.
Like a nail file, but be careful not to injure yourself.
Or go to a doc. Surgery is really only necessary in drastic cases.
>> Anonymous
>>104493
wait, so you've never cleaned your bellend? thats fucking gross.

when i was 14 my foreskin didn't go back at all, but after a lot of bating and testing the elsticity of the skin, it eventually stretched. don't stress it, and don't count on getting laid immediately, it might not happen.
>> Anonymous
>>104511
Same here. I remember being scared to shit that the head of my penis was going to fall off, since I had no idea what foreskin/circumcision and that that jazz was. I would always play around with it when bored, gradually loosening it until one day, BAM. It comes off and I felt incredible relief that my dick head didn't fall off.
>> Anonymous
OP here.

stretching hasn't worked so far. and believe me, i have stretched HARD. don't know about steroid creams, but I'll try to keep it cool tomorrow and make an appointment with my doctor ASAP. i'd do it tomorrow morning but then i'd be (even more) anxious all day and possibly ruin the night.

i've heard the surgery is quite simple (ambulatory, even) but the recovery takes at least two weeks and is quite uncomfortable. I can't find many sources detailing the procedure though. could someone elaborate a bit?

fuck, i'm shivering as i write this.
>> Anonymous
Do surgery, seriously. I had too much skin and the skin thighly attached to my penis. I had lots of problems, fungus, smegma... after surgery I got rid of that, sex was better.
>> Anonymous
>>104522
Well, it doesnt hurt much. The only thing I hated was the smell and being incapable of fapping for 2 weeks, but I seriously reccomend it. Seriously.
>> Anonymous
Pfff don't get surgery, just ask for a topical steroid or stretch it gradually.
>> Anonymous
surgery is simply cutting off the foreskin. circumcision.
I do not recommend it, read too many horror stories about penors being mutilated that way.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phimosis
My doc just ripped it down, was painful as hell, but cured me.
>> Anonymous
>>104522

You will get awesome painkillers. You will also get tons of them. You won't feel anything.
>> Anonymous
>>104531
We are in 21th century, mine was done with an electric blade scalpel, not very precise... but effective.
>> Anonymous
>>104542
accidents happen.
Now imagine if only 1% of all penors are damaged by surgery, that leaves a lot of angry men wandering around.
>> Anonymous
OP again.

it's been years and i never thought i could get heavy painkillers during the post-op. seriously. but moreover, I just was thinking about having a difficult time peeing or having an unopportune erection while at work, for example. can you do normal life during recovery (normal life = work in office environment and cardio+lifting in the gym).

and also. i have had handjobs and oral sex before. and it was good even with my condition. but how's sex for the first times after surgery? i don't know if i can keep this girl warm for a month or more w/o sex. she's quite sex-positive and has been since 16 (she's 22 now - i'm about that age too).
>> Anonymous
>>104551
Just have sex then. Find out how it is.

I would also recommend against full circumcision. There are different ways. Dont get your wang cut up, man, its not natural. Research the topic. There is a partial type incision they can do that fixes the problem and that completely heals in like a week.
>> Anonymous
i think i'm getting braver and could reach to the doctor tomorrow (its 00:11 here). i've needed minor dental surgery for more than 15 years (it has worsened so it could be no longer minor). i could have imy mouth finished off years ago, but have been unable due to panic attacks (really) and such.

then there's the phymosis thing also.

until last year i was a shy, ugly, fat mofo, but since i started going to the gym last summer i've been feeling better. i was 171cm tall and over 110kg and i'm just under 90 now. there's a long way to go for me, but to myself, i look great.

and then there's the girl. i have had girlfriends before. i have been rejected a couple of months ago. but then, I've met this girl for a year or so, and we've been getting closer and closer for the last months. last weekend we had the most deep and meaningful conversation i've had in years and i'm starting to feel she's very special.

today i have a wonderful day. i worked the fuck out of myself in the gym, i have been invited to her house in a very flirting way and I was just havin a blast until i've thought things could turn out quite difficult if she was in the mood for sex.

i've been feeling cool and confident for the most part of the last years but when i thought that, i've felt again like the fat slob i was before. it's just been a moment of anxiety.

thanks /fit/

TL;DR. past life drama.
>> Anonymous
fucking hell it's only phimosis.

Put cock in hottish water, leave for 10 mins, peel skin back over head of cock, get erection.

Repeat until necessary.
>> Anonymous
Just get circumcised. All those horror stories you hear about circumcision are just propaganda circulated by those idiots who think that it is harming children and wrong to make that choice for them. Circumcision is one of the simplest surgeries, and the mistakes made these days are not in circumcisions done by medical professionals.
>> Anonymous
reading this makes me so glad im cut
>> Anonymous
>>104725
seconded
>> Anonymous
reading this makes me so glad i have a cunt.
>> Anonymous
>>104725

thirded... my parents did me a favor. I'm very happy with my circumcised dick.
>> anonymous
wee circumsized dicks with our 2/3 less likely ness to get and STD!
>> Anonymous
I totally understand why women laugh at uncircumcised penises... they look like sad little shar peis :(
>> Anonymous
>>104754
>>104612
The thing is there is no evidence either way that says circumcision is good. And I don't see a problem with the foreskin. We're made that way.

Basically, even if insurance pays for it, I don't want to pay for the circumcision (they're expensive) and accidents do happen. Don't give me the bullshit about "if it's a real doctor it won't happen" because it will, and I'll tell you why:

My dad fucked one up. He's been a family physician for 30 years, and hates doing them. He usually doesn't, as he doesn't support the procedure (I'm uncut) but as it happened one day some parents wanted one for their baby boy, and with the outdated tools he was provided, against his wishes he was more or less heavily pressured to go through with it. The bell clamp he was using was not properly sized and he ended up cutting a bit too much. He didn't remove the glans but there was a definite incision.

Basically, until I have PROOF recognized by the medical community that there is a definite reason to circumcise children, only THEN will I submit. Unfortunately, it's still being debated, and I'm going to stick with the oath:

"Do no harm".

And as far as I'm concerned, a questionable surgical procedure performed on an infant's genitals most certainly is harm.
>> Anonymous
>>104811
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/resources/factsheets/circumcision.htm
Of course there isn't evidence, at least there isn't if you didn't bother to look.
>> Anonymous
>>104811
Eh, it's fine if you're circumcised, it's fine if you're not. There's no real difference.
>> Anonymous
>>104983
So it's useless if you aren't having sex with someone with HIV or STD ridden

aka avoid hookers, fags and niggers from africa and wear a condom with questionable partners?
>> Anonymous
Wear a condom and lube it up well. It won't really matter if you have phymosis or not unless the intercourse becomes painful.

Is it painful when you mastrubate?

You can cure phymosis through stretching the skin, especially around the sphincter ring at the tip. Non surgical methods are available. Use them and save your foreskin and frenulum.

Also, it wouldn't hurt if you spent some time fingering and muff diving during your first time. You probably won't last so long given the excitement and sensitivity, so why not work her over until she won't care that you'll be quick and unexposed.

Have fun.
>> Anonymous
>>104983
Flawed study is flawed as most men in Africa are uncircumcised, creating huge data differential in information gathering. Women also few cut men as unnatural in Africa, thus fewer cut men have sex, again creating data margin gaps.

Just because mommy got all Jew on you and had a doctor cut off a piece of your dick doesn't mean you have to get all defensive over your massacred member.
>> Anonymous
not op but i have this problem also. i think my penis is broken.

my foreskin has is attached to the head of my penis with what i can only describe as a tendon like piece of skin.
>> Anonymous
>>105470
if you can retract your foreskin thats normal. There is an area underneath the glans where the foreskin attaches.
>> Anonymous
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>>105470

It's the frenulum. It's normal, full of orgasmic causing nerve endings, and is safe. Get it wet and rub it a little bit. Fun fun fun.

Frenulum. Google it.
>> Anonymous
>>104811
>and with the outdated tools he was provided, against his wishes he was more or less heavily pressured to go through with it.

Sounds like your dad is a fucking idiot.

Don't attribute that bush league bullshit to competent medical professionals.
>> Anonymous
>>104811
Does your dad have any common sense?

My dad is a doctor and performing that kind of operation sounds like the kind of thing you could lose your license over...
>> Anonymous
>>105475
I'm glad i'm circumsized, thats an ugly penis! I don't think i could stand looking at myself if mine looked like that. *shudder*
>> Somewhat !rK4K86e49M
>>105504
that's how it would look if it was circumcised too, you faggot. enjoy your mutilated dick.

http://www.hpakids.org/holistic-health/articles/37/1/Circumcision-Decision/
>> Anonymous
>>105504
If you're taking care of it, only difference between circumcised and not is that the head becomes a bit tougher. Healthy looking penis still looks relatively the same...
>> Anonymous
sorry, op, but i lol'd at your tl;dr section. lol'd so hard.

anyway, there are exercises to get rid of phymosis. stretching.
>> Anonymous
When I had it I used to stretch in the living room, after school, and the day I was finished, I realised the blinds had been open every day.
I lived across the road from my school.