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Anonymous
>>372734 i know it's easy to say this and hard to do it, but you need to find someone who does not care about the pleasure of sex as much as they care about the "bonding". Sounds like bullshit, but when someone is having sex with you because they want to do it with YOU and not because they want to have SEX, things are different. I am in a similar position to you - it is really no problem to get myself off (even for a guy) and it feels fine, but meh. However, my girlfriend has a hard time getting me off, no matter what we try. No big deal to me, not only do I love giving her pleasure far more than letting loose myself (she is very sensitive, and responds beautifully) but I love her and I do it with her because I am crazy about her. I think that the key thing is that I am totally relaxed around her and she always does a great time of quieting my fears about under-performing. She rewards me not only with pleasure far greater than when I am alone but by showing me her enjoyment, and it really helps my confidence. By no means am I saying that you can walk out and find the guy who will make it work for you. But that is what has worked for me.
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