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Anonymous
Not sure if I should be posting this in /fit/, as this deals with "sexual health" I suppose...

Here goes:

So last night I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time (up until then, I had never had sex). We were both very comfortable, and took the necessary measures to prevent pregnancy (I wore a condom and used a spermicidal lubricant). Anyway, during foreplay I had no problem getting stiff, so I put the condom on without a hitch (it was quite tight, but otherwise no big deal). We had sex, and she reached orgasm after a while... but I was nowhere near any state of climax. To be honest, I couldn't really feel anything in terms of sensitivity. In comparison to the dry sex we've been having for the past year (rubbing against each other in underwear), actual sex felt like, well... not much! After I pulled out, my erection was already dropping rapidly.

I'm worried that this might become a persistent problem in our sex life. Did I fail possibly because the night before we had sex, I masturbated? Is my penis not sensitive enough? What can I do to heighten sensitivity during sex? Is there some kind of sensitivity heightening lubrication I can use? I appreciate all the help and suggestions I can get!

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>> Anonymous
use a bigger/thinner condom
>> Anonymous
OP here, I used Trojan Ultra Thins, is this a poor choice?
>> Anonymous
Very common to don't reach orgasm the first time you had sex.
I ejaculated until my third try.

It could be several things, you were getting too nervous, you are used to the kung fu grip of death, a lot of people have problems with normal condoms. It could be a lot of things.

Next time try it with sensitive condoms. I also have "problems" with regulars, if you see a problem fucking your girl for half an hour instead of cumming at the first stroke with her vagina.

Don't worry, again, happens to everyone
>> Anonymous
man i've had sex with 2 girls and ive used a condom both times and can't feel shit!

I had a good enough relationship with the girls and got them to go onto the pill

Honestly, it's prob the best feeling ever to fuck a pussy without a condom
>> Anonymous
The worst thing you can do is get freaked about it and start inducing "stage fright".

Condoms suck, bro. They take away a lot of the sensitivity. Even without them, once you've been ram-rodding a girl for a bit (is she's real wet or there's a lot of lube) you'll stop feeling much friction/sensation. Vaginas stretch. Girls who do kleigels and can continue to keep themselves tight are awesome for this reason.

The jerking off just before the secks will DEFINITELY have an impact on your ability to ejaculate.

Be glad you have this problem. Most people cum too fast and that's a tougher problem to deal with. Don't rub one off next time and get some foreplay going before you insert or even mid-sex.
>> Anonymous
>>287945
>>287951
Not wearing a condom isn't an option for me right now (she's had some bad experiences with different birth control pills, so she's going back to the doctor in a month or so).

I wasn't really nervous last night, but surprised that I was nowhere near climax level. Well, no more masturbating or "kung fu death grip" shit, thanks for all the advice so far!
>> Anonymous
you may need a larger sized condom

it also helps to try positions that allow her to keep her legs closed (makes her seem much tighter) like spooning, sit spoon, or face-down-with-her-but-in-the-air-and-a-pillow-under-her-belly

if you trust her you can do anal, oral, and 69 without a condom and run very little risk of pregnancy.

You may also want to invest in a bottle of spermicidal lubricant (the lube that was in the condom wrapper may not be enough.
>> Anonymous
>>287965

Not saying to stop wearing a condom. That's fucking stupid if it's even vague possible to get her knocked up . . . just saying, condoms leach a huge portion of the sensetivity you experience. . . especially if you are circumsized.

Most stimulation a male receives during sex is from the tension/friction to the frenum (the little piece of skin that under the base of the head where the shaft connects to the head). Condoms are one more step in lessening that.
>> Anonymous
>>287945
Every try ANY opiates?

30-40 mg of Hydrocodone and some music beats sex.
>> Anonymous
>>287970

Uncut > Cut
>> Anonymous
>>287977

Yep.

I'm glad my parents didn't circumcise me and I certainly wouldn't do it to my child. If he wants to cut that shit when he's old enough to make intelligent decisions he can. It's nigh impossible to ever get foreskin back.
>> Anonymous
>>287991

I like being able to feel something when wearing a condom. And when I'm not, just deep breaths and focus help you last the same.
>> Anonymous
IF you had "Exteneded pleasure" condoms, stop using those.

That shit is basically chain mail for your cock.
>> Anonymous
I'd suggest thin condoms. By the way, Trojan's suck (at least in my opinion). Trojan's have been the only condom that has ever broken on us so I stay away from those. Durex makes a thin condom that supposedly works well.

Dunno if it'll help or not, but there's some new "His" and "hers" lube that just came out. Supposedly, it's awesome. The only thing is, it's $20 for two itty bitty bottles, so I dunno.
>> Anonymous
I had the same problem my first time. Infact, you sound like me my first time lol.

Get durex ultra thin. They come in purple wrappers. They feel great. Get a bottle of nice water based lube and just hit that shit.

First time I couldn't get off and my girlfriend wondered if it was her. Second time + infinity I hit that shit like crazy and busted my fucking nuts everwhere
>> Anonymous
OP again,
sorry for bumping the thread back up, but just wanted to say thanks for the advice. I'm gonna go out and buy some durex ultra thins, and maybe pick up some larger sized condoms just to see if they fit better. The "his and hers" lube is the KY stuff right? I'll be sure to pick it up. Thanks again!
>> Anonymous
Was the condom the numbing one? That may be the issue.
>> Anonymous
I had something oh so similar and it drove me fucking insane. I'd be throbbing hard and the second I pulled a condom on, immediate softening.
>> Anonymous
Nothing beats doggy-style for coming.
>> Anonymous
>>288631
too small condom, too much fapping before, anxiety.

Condoms suck.
>> The Angry Amoeba
>>288650
I couldn't figure out how to get it inside during doggy.

:( I ended up losing my erection.
>> Anonymous
>>288662
let her do it
>> monster
>>288666

THIS. Never any shame with needing a touch of help.
>> Anonymous
So are Trojans not a good brand to trust?
>> Anonymous
gb2 bed, dad.
>> Anonymous
fuck this thread describes pretty much exactly the same shit that happens to me with my girlfriend. I can't feel shit when I put on a condom and I have the worst time finding the vag hole in the doggy position.
>> Anonymous
>>288865

It's worse when you're with a Chinese chick who has so much hair that it creeps into her anal region. Then you accidentally stick it in her pooper and you don't hear the end of it for days afterward.
>> Anonymous
>>287922

OH MY I'VE NEVER NOTICED HOW SMALL HIS TRICEPS WERE