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Anonymous
>>185274 He sounds like a winner to me, because he's standing his ground. Of course he's not going to give cigarettes and whatever up for you, you wouldn't give up your healthy lifestyle for him. These kind of trade offs never work, but at the same time, if you're fit and he's not. . . then obviously you like him for more then his looks.
My recommendation would be to use enticements and lures--don't ask him to give up smoking for one. If you make big package deals, they'll fall through because you're trying to do too much at once. If you can live with the smoking, then focus on his weight and eating habits. If smoking bothers you more, focus on smoking firest. Explain honestly why you want him to do this, and then help him figure out an excersise routine that fits him. Baby steps here. Once that's figured out, and he promises to do it, make sure he does it. And offer some sort of reward, be it affection,sex, or not bitching him out for eating some dorito's in exchange.
Don't try to change him, but give him the opportunity to change himself. He probably wants to lose weight, but it seems like the daunting, long process that it is. Your job is to help him get on that road and keep going, and if he doesn't want too, accept it, and figure out what you want from there.
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