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How do I become a confident motherfucker? I am usually okay around people I;ve known for a long time or close friends, but I can hardly talk to strangers. half the time I just don;t know what to say and I just smile like a retard.

I class I can crack jokes out loud so that everyone laughs once in a while. but it's kinda hard for me to just alk in small groups or one on one. If we're not working on a lab together or soemthing.
>> Anonymous
Take off your pants and jacket around them, that'll relive the stress of everyone.
>> Anonymous
>>322521
relevant to my interests.
>> Anonymous
>>322521
Many or almost all men around the world , have trouble when talking with woman. We feel fear, Anxiety, and of course we all are afraid of rejection.

How can we get rid of AA?
One of the most common tips of how to get rid of this is going out and talking to any person you see around , keep it short and simple , not more than 2 minutes. Go out and talk to the fat guy , the little kid , the mother with three sons, the girl working in the shop , the staff... Just say Hi , give a comment , talk about the climate , talk about anything , just approach.
>> Anonymous
OP here, I dont know if it matters, but I can usually talk more easily to people that I consider lower than myself (aka the dumb, the fat, the insecure, etc.). I think I have the problem of putting sucessful and better looking people on a pedestal.
>> Anonymous
>>322540
1. What is AA?
2. If I talk to other guys i don't know, won't they think I'm ghey. If I talk to girls, won't they think I'm trying to hit on them. If I talk to cashiers and others, won't they think I'm annoying them at work or something?
>> Anonymous
>>322544
That's a COMPLETE LACK of fucking confidence.

Build it up man, make yourself better in your eyes. Make yourself you. Go to college if you're not, study hard. Work out alot more, play hard. Get a job and make some moeny, work hard.

Get a girl and have fun, fuck hard.
>> Anonymous
>>322547
Nah man It's not a big deal, you gotta keep in your mind you will never see these people again in your life, and everyone nobody ever cares enough to remember your face if you make a fool out of yourself.

Start slow, make eye contact with everyone you can, be more talkative when you go to the store/starbucks, get into situations where you have to speak to somebody and are not just doing it on your own will.

Go to a hair stylist and befreind him, most hair stylist want you as a friend and will chit-chat with you while you get your hair done, in the end looking better and being forced to talk.
>> Anonymous
>>322547
Approach Anxiety
>> Anonymous
My problem is I am the most boring individual you have ever met.
>> Anonymous
>>322521
similar as OP. Except I'm bad at presentations as well. I'm even bad at answering questions in class.

halp /fit/
>> Anonymous
How old are you?
>> Anonymous
>>322563
19
>> Anonymous
>>322564
College boy?
>> Anonymous
>>322562
Stop being a pussy maybe?
>> Anonymous
>>322565
yeah, some private college in California.
>> Anonymous
It's like playing a video game, if your man dies, just hit the button and play again.
>> Anonymous
>>322573
wtf is private college
>> Anonymous
drink energy drinks and speak your mind
lifes easier when you dont know what youre doing
>> Anonymous
Tyler Durden put it in Fight Club, "Let the chips fall where they may." Stop trying to control your outcome with chicks.

So to overcome shyness, force yourself to chat up everybody, no matter who they were... hot chicks, ugly girls, fat tubby women, senior citizens, goofy-looking men, children, families walking their golden retrievers, etc.

Talk about neutral topics with them, nothing to do with picking up and seducing women.

Once you get past that, THEN you can go out and tame women.
>> Anonymous
Just go up to people with thinking, take off your pants and jacket.
>> Anonymous
>>322521
Exactly like you I don't have a problem meeting people in school but if I was just down town. Couldn't just walk up to a random group of people and start to talk.
>> Anonymous
Step 1.

You are not to go to any bars or clubs for the next month. At all. You may go to pubs with your friends, but no “sarging.” No bars. Nothing.

What you will do is make changes daily. Here’s how.

Step 2.

For the next month, you will take a 30-minute walk every day. Pick a neighborhood that’s easy to get to from home or work, and go there at about the same time every day. Ideally pick a place you can walk right after work. It can be a street with shops, or a park. But it must be a place where people are about.

When you are on your walk, you nod to yourself and keep repeating under your breath “I’m going to look silly but i’m going to have fun.” Just do it.

Now comes the crucial part. When you walk past a woman, ANY woman, smile, look up at her and say “Hello.” That’s it. Just greet her. She does not have to say anything back. These are the simple steps to get you out of your head.

After a few weeks of that, show me one girl you cannot go up to and say hello. Some times she'll even strike up a conversation.
>> Anonymous
>>322586
Exactly.
I'm pretty put off when people I don't know talk to me (people seem fake), so I don't go up to others either.
>> Anonymous
>>322589
Now the next thing to look for is a woman, any woman, who is not walking. Do the same thing. Walk up and say “Hello.” Wait until she says “Hello” back, then when she does, introduce yourself. She will then tell you her name, and then you immediately tell her how you take a walk every day and have conversations with friendly-looking people because you’re quite shy, and are learning how to just enjoy small talk and getting to know people.
>> Anonymous
>>322589
But I'll look silly. She'd be liek "Why's this freak saying Hello to me." Assuming the woman would classify me as a freak.
>> Anonymous
>>322589
Might try that.
>> Anonymous
>>322594
Jesus christ stop helping this lost cause, he's going to have to learn on his own he's a fucking pussy and how to overcome it.
>> Anonymous
>>322594
When walking past people, smile and say “Hello” to one person. It does NOT matter if they say Hello back or even look up.
The first woman you see on your walk, stop and greet her with a smile and “Hello.” Then introduce yourself politely and ask her name. When she tells you her name, tell her you like to walk every day and have conversations with friendly-looking people because you are quite shy, and learning how to be social and enjoy small talk.
Once you say that, you are free to go. You do not need to say anything else. But you are also free to stay and talk.
No matter what else happens, make sure you walk for the full 30 minutes.
Get home and keep a checklist of the things you did. One check for walking for 30 minutes. One check for everyone you greeted with a hello. One check for every woman you stopped and chatted with.
When you see you have three checks, celebrate. Go to your favorite pub and watch the game with your buds. Order your favorite food. Give yourself a high-five. Whatever. But make sure you celebrate doing it.
Give me 30 days of this, and you will have a better life. I give you my word.
>> Anonymous
Puas? In MY 4chan?
>> Anonymous
my problem is that i can approach and say hi and all that, but after the introduction i really can't think of anything interesting to say.

any suggestions?
>> Anonymous
>>322599
that wasn't me lol. just some random anon trying to make situations worse.
>> Anonymous
>>322575
any college that isn't a a state college or a UC (if you're in california)
>> Anonymous
I really hate all the PUA type stuff. It is useful and it helps you overcome AA and get ladies and such, but it turned one of my best friends into an egotistical asshole.

That said, I'm rapidshitting a copy of The Rules of The Game if anyone is interested.
>> Anonymous
>>322623
I would love a copy of that ,yes.
>> Anonymous
>>322632
David Deangelo and Eric von Malkovic are a couple of other authors you might want to look into as well.
>> Anonymous
>>322623

I agree with you, brah. One of my friends got so into PUA stuff that I can't even stand his company anymore, he treats everyone like complete trash.
>> Anonymous
>>322662
That won't happen to me.
>> Anonymous
>>322662
tell him that it's meant for gurlz and that if he does a neg on you then you're gonna punch him in the jawbone.
>> Anonymous
>>322672
I hope so.
>>322662
Something fun you might like to try is to damage his ego any way you can. I do this with my 'friend' to give him a taste of reality every now and then.
>>322632
http://rapidshare.com/files/143801812/ebook_-_Neil_Strauss_-_Rules_of_the_Game.pdf.zip.html
Enjoy.
>> Anonymous
>>322651
David Deangelo = Double Your Dating Series

Eric von Malkovic (AKA Mystery) = Mystery Method

Another PUA (Pick Up Artist) you might want to check out:

Neil Strauss (AKA Style) = The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

Johnny Soporno = The Worthy Playboy
I'm happy to see that there are other fellow PUA's out there trying to help out some AFC's (average frustrated chumps) Keep up the good worth brothers!
>> Anonymous
Hi, is it fucking wired for a guy's likes to be Classical and hates sports?

My friends always make fun of me for it and girls laugh when they cock-block me by telling them I hate sports and love classical music, fuck this world man.
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>>322696
>AFC
I hope one of your sluts gives you herpes. Pic related.
>> Anonymous
>>322707
why so serious anon??
>> Anonymous
>>322696
Anyone know where I can get rapidshares for these books?
>> ANONIWAT !B2n0CENh.A
>>322700
You're hanging out with the wrong women, and you need new friends. Also stop worrying about what other people think. Be open about your interests. You're probably just getting really under confident and self-conscious once they tell people this because... it's not weird at all. Jesus Christ.
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>>322714
Hey ladies you like the furries?
>> Anonymous
>>322700
Bro, ditch the friends when you out trying to get a date.

I can tell you right now you're a breath of fresh air for women and the only reason their laughing at you is because you're in a group, and since the majority finds it strange they'll laugh. Get one on one with that chick and she'll want to talk about it.
>> Anonymous
>>322728is correct.

Maybe try to focus on positive stuff (liking classical music, for example) and not the negative ("Hi my name is Anon and I HAET ALL SPORTS" etc.) Perhaps it would be best to just not mention sports unless someone asks you about football for example and then you can just say, oh I never really got into that.

Also try not to sound so closed-minded, show some respect for others' tastes in music and stuff, and they shouldn't hold yours against you. Nothing wrong with classical, after all.
>> Anonymous
>>322707

yes.. i have sometimes pondered this, i mean mystery,puas, strauss and all those jokers, they must have every fucking std in the book because they are fucking hundereds of women(the kind that hang around in bars to get hit on) and of course there are barsluts in between that have herpes,cockwarts, chlamydia etc.
>> Anonymous
bump, moar advice
>> Anonymous
My first thought is this...

What do all psychologists do when you want to get over a fear of something?

They make your ass face it! Get out there and make a conscious effort to talk to someone one on one. Learn from your mistakes and over time it will become second nature.

GL!
>> Anonymous
>>323044
they only do that little by little. They don't you out by putting you on the edge of a cliff (if you're afraid of heights) they start with 1 metre off the ground and work up.
>> Anonymous
i, too, want to confidently fuck my mother. i've murdered my father and taken over the house. i don't remember the next step. do i fuck my mom and then pluck out my eyes or do i pluck out my eyes first. what if i want to see my mom naked?
>> Anonymous
>>323153
Just fuck her you faggot.
0/10
>> Anonymous
>>322691
thanks
>> Anonymous
bump for moar
>> Anonymous
>>324392
This.
>> Anonymous
>>324392
>http://rapidshare.com/files/143801812/ebook_-_Neil_Strauss_-_Rules_of_the_Game.pdf.zip.html

guys just use this, this shit works.