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Social Anxiety Anonymous
Hello /fit/.

I am a sufferer of social anxiety and I'm sure there are many others out there who suffer from the same condition (you're on 4chan after all, heh heh).

It seems no matter how many social gatherings I go to it's always the same and I there doesn't seem to be any progress.

How about you /fit/?
>> Anonymous
Pushed myself out of it.
being social rules.
>> Anonymous
give yourself a source of confidence. that way you won't be anxious because WHO GIVES A FUCK THEN? YOURE THE BEST, YOU DONT GIVE TWO FUCKS ABOUT THESE FUCKING LOSERS! Either get richhhhh. or get /fit/ and groom yourself.

and yeah i'm talking about girls (assuming youre a straight guy. if not, then whichever sex you find attractive). Because if youre talking about being nervous and stuff in front of guys, then fucking an hero nao.
>> Anonymous
>>111566
Please. Just shut up.
>> Anonymous
>>111554
make a few friends, hang out weekly or something. eventually invite another friend, or a friend of one of theirs. before you know it, you'll be having moderately sized get togethers for stuff.

No advise for big big groups. I hate that noisy shit. If I can't tell what's going on around me, I don't want to be there either.
>> Anonymous
I fuck up any chance of a relationship that goes beyond being acquaintances. I hate myself.
>> Anonymous
same here, last friend i had moved away 3~ years ago and i haven't made any since, so i'm pretty much a recluse.

there needs to be some sort of gathering for shy people, it's always easier to talk to them IMO because you're not as worried about them expecting you to be outgoing.. i don't want to make any close friends, i'd just like to know a few people to chat with over a beer sometime, yknow?
>> Anonymous
>>111575

BE MY FRIEND, ANON
>> Anonymous
>>111575
>there needs to be some sort of gathering for shy people

You're posting on it.
>> Anonymous
>>111570

He's spot on though. If you weren't so much of a wuss maybe you'd see that too. If you work out a lot and become more manly (in the sense that the testosterone concentration in your central nervous system increases), you will be practically incapable of overworrying about stupid stuff like how total strangers perceive you and what not.
>> Anonymous
>>111658
>testosterone concentration in your central nervous system

facepalm.tiff
>> Anonymous
>>111662

Contrary to what you seem to believe, testosterone does act on the brain. A normal testo-level is essential for the mental well being of a man.
So keep living in denial, but the solution to all your anxiety-related problems is right in front of you.
>> Anonymous
Social anxiety? My ass. You are one of the few people who realize that social gatherings are a waste of time.
Fuck partys, I stay in the gym.
>> Anonymous
I think over 50% of young kids have some sort of problem like this.

Things that worked for me:
Going outside and talking to people. For example, in malls and shops they have employees working just to help people out if they need help with anything. Instead of saying "hurrr hurrr I'm just browsing, now piss off; Leave me alone."

***Getting a job in retail***
This will work, guaranteed! So get a part time job at a clothing place, bar, restaurant and you will feel very relaxed around public on an EVERYDAY level.

that's all for now go out and do those and come back with results.
>> Anonymous
Klonopin or alcohol. Next.
>> Anonymous
Well, I'm no alpha male and I still fucking abhor parties, etc., but I found out that if you can't be captain charisma then at least be a good listener. Just maintain eye contact, nod from time to time and act interested by asking questions. Sounds bullshit, yeah, but the alternative sucks so much worse, as I'm sure you already know.

Or better yet, just kill yourself.
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>> Anonymous
I'm just an introvert by choice. I prefer reading a lot of books, but when need be I can converse really well. It's just that, people often want to talk about other people or what happened recently, and it arses me, so I shut up.

If you're looking for people whom you can talk about with regard to intelligent stuff, talk to your professors. Don't suck up to them, just talk to them. They're very knowledgeable people, and I've a lot of friends who were once my professors. Beats idiocy, too.
>> Anonymous
>>111696

Truth
>> Anonymous
Apply HIIT to social scenes.

Eventually your endurance will increase.
>> Anonymous
>>111696

ITT cam whores who have a job at a place of they're choosing.

How the fuck did you find your way here anyway?
>> Anonymous
Hey Faggots,

My name is John, and I hate every single one of you. All of you are fat, retarded, no-lifes who spend every second of their day looking at stupid ass pictures. You are everything bad in the world. Honestly, have any of you ever gotten any pussy? I mean, I guess it's fun making fun of people because of your own insecurities, but you all take to a whole new level. This is even worse than jerking off to pictures on facebook.

Don't be a stranger. Just hit me with your best shot. I'm pretty much perfect. I was captain of the football team, and starter on my basketball team. What sports do you play, other than "jack off to naked drawn japanese people"? I also get straight A's, and have a banging hot girlfriend (She just blew me; Shit was SO cash). You are all faggots who should just kill yourselves. Thanks for listening.
>> Anonymous
What you should do is sit down and write a hierarchy of social things which scare you. Place the scariest thing on top and the least scary thing at the bottom and then do them all over the course of the next few weeks in the order you originally placed them in.

That, plus exercising every day and finding ways to build your self confidence should patch you up enough to get through life, or find additional help, or whatever.
>> Anonymous
>>111802
You post on 4chan.

That is all.
>> Anonymous
start working out.
>> Anonymous
>>111835
:|
>> Anonymous
>>111802

2/10
>> Anonymous
>>***Getting a job in retail***
>>This will work, guaranteed!

Your guarantee failed, I want my money back! I worked retail for 4 years and was miserable everyday. It pretty much turned me into an alcoholic basketcase.

For some people getting a job in retail will work but for others it will just be total hell and might even make things worse (like it did for me).
>> Anonymous
>>111554

Take lithium orotate, magnesium, taurine, and fish oil, wait 3 months, end of social anxiety. You're welcome.
>> Anonymous
bump because social anxiety is awesome
>> Anonymous
>>111728

this.

I'm the quietest person in the world, but I can still strike up conversations with people and just get them to talk about themselves. The hardest part is just breaking the ice. Just say "hi" or something, a lot of people will just start blabbing after this and you can smile and throw in little comments here and there.
>> Anonymous
One of the things associated with social anxiety is that you feel self-conscious about yourself. That people are going to criticize or judge you for the things you say or do.

One technique is to just watch a person and look at all of the silly things they say or do. Nobody is perfect in conversation. You may notice someone has a strange speech pattern, or makes a weird facial expression at some points. Once you see you're not the only person who's awkward, things get easier
>> Anonymous
>>111554

Hey OP it's the same for me.

All last week I forced myself to fill a week's worth schedule with gatherings with friends to bars or whatnot.. still feel the same :( and I also didn't want to leave the house each night but forced myself too.

Sigh. So yeah there are others like you out there OP.