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Anonymous
Mental health time, I figured you were the best guys (and gals) to help me out here.
Now this is going to sound stupid and obvious, but I'm worried about it and that's the whole problem. A couple of years ago (I'm now 19) I was going to have sex for the first time with this girl I was going out with, she'd had sex before so I was nervous as fuck because she had more experience than me, long story short through a combination of me faffing around putting the condom on and being on top when I'd always imagined being beneath I ended up losing my stiffy just enough to make it difficult penetrating her, and then as soon as I realized this I totally lost it all together. Since then I've gone out with a girl I've done a lot of stuff with, and I managed to get my dick in, but came almost instantly as she was gyrating on it before-hand for like 20 minutes.
Event number one has always left me with confidence issues, which obviously exasserbates the whole thing. But luckily I'm getting the chance to face my demons as I'm meeting up with the first girl in a couple of days for casual sex.
So I need some advice on how to keep my cool. Obviously the best thing would be to talk to her about it and all that, but seriously there's no way I'm doing that, she'd probably laugh in my face.
So yeah, gotta do this right so I can move on and enjoy sex. So how do I not get nervous?
>> Anonymous
jack off before she comes over, youll be less sensitive.
>> Anonymous
>>422579
>>422579
>>422579
>> Anonymous
smoke weed
>> Anonymous
Coming too soon's not the problem, it's not panicking and losing my hard on.
>> Anonymous
>>422590
Way to make it even more difficult to get hard.
>> Anonymous
consider her a practice girl, and try to let the performance anxiety disappear. if you've got the whole day with her, it's bound to happen at least once. your first real sex is the last time it'll prob. happen to you.
>> Anonymous
>>422591
So focus man. Just relax and think about boobs or something. maybe try controlling the situation so she doesnt make you nervous. be all like, "BITCH GET ON MY DICK FORE I SHOOT YOU! NOW GO MAKE ME A SAMMACH!"
>> Anonymous
can you do mental squatz
>> Anonymous
a long foreplay would be enjoyable both to you and the girl.
>> Anonymous
Fuckin I had the same problems as OP with performance anxiety, couldn't get/keep it up, jizz too soon, etc. I found when I smoked weed ahead of time, all those worries went away. I could enjoy the sex act for what it was. I could also control when I had an orgasm, putting it off potentially indefinitely no matter how hard I was going at it with a chick. And, when I did come, the ropes were incredible. Like minute-long orgasms, not exaggerating. If weed has the opposite effect on you, then that's your loss.
>> Anonymous
>>422653
troll
>> Anonymous
>>422653
i'd say a small alcohol buzz would be safer for OP. taking a couple shots usually gets it up and keeps it there for newbs -_-
>> Anonymous
so don't let her gyrate on your for 20 minutes faggot op. take control and keep your cock out of the picture until go-time if you actually care about satisfying her.
>> Anonymous
"o..onichan I don't li-"

"SHUT UP"

I slapped her across the face

"YOU'RE A MUDKIP, POKEMON DONT SPEAK"

"But onii-"

*slap*
"I SAID YOU'RE A POKEMON!"

tears welled in her eyes

"Now, what's your name?"

"m..mudkip..."

"thats a good mudkip, now come to your master"

she crawled towards me on all fours, the fin shaped tale bobbed back and forth.

"open wide, master has a poffin for you"

She parted her soft little lips, moistened by her tears.

I unzipped my pants.
>> Anonymous
>>422577

I had the same problem. Get as hard as you can while she's giving you head, then when your cawk is like a fucking batton, spin her round and take her doggy style. It'll give you more confidence as it's a much easier position to get used to. And puls she wont be looking straight at you. Worked for me.

Hope this helps OP

And don't worry about it. As far as I've read alot of people get this. Once you get used to it you'll be fucking like Ron Jeremy.
>> Anonymous
cardiovascular exercise at least twice a week for better blood flow. let her put the condom on you
>> Anonymous
>>422599

I strongly agree with being in control. Be as dominating as she'll let you be. Trust me, it works.
>> Anonymous
>>422863
this is only solution.
>> Anonymous
>>423031
Solution.

It's the only one.
>> Anonymous
Get a hooker for the day and practice on her beforehand. She won't care if you're shit or not
>> Anonymous
Thanks for the advice, anon. Very appreciated.