File :-(, x, )
Anonymous
My Dearest /fit/,

I have a plaguing question to ask, it is sex related, so brace yourselves. As of about a year and a quarter ago, my boyfriend (I am a female, in b4 tits or gtfo, no women on the internetz, SQUATZ, etc) basically stopped sleeping with me. And as of about nine months ago, basically refuses to do so. Every time that I have confronted him about it, he says that it's nothing that I've done and that he still finds me attractive (he still gets physically aroused, etc), but he doesn't want to do anything. We live together, it's getting kind of awkward, and it hurts my feelings to be constantly pushed away. He says that it may be a commitment issue, but if it is, where does that leave me? Halp~!

TLDR; my boyfriend wont sleep with me, help plz.

Pic unrelated, but hot.
>> Anonymous
He is gay. Or you are not really attractive.
>> Anonymous
Christ, just squat more. Problem solved.
>> Anonymous
severe mental problem.
>> Anonymous
tits or gtfo.
>> SauCe MAsTA!!!
Could be a couple of options.
Either hes gay, no longer finds you attractive or is banging your sister and your mom at the same time while your daddy licks his asshole. :/
>> Anonymous
Op here, I wouldn't say that I am unattractive, as I am hit on regularly by gentlemen (and the occasional lesbian), and he swears that he doesn't find me unattractive, so I don't know. Occasionally if I can get a couple of kisses out of him I notice that he becomes aroused. I don't know though. = \
>> Red !KV/D4sCHBI
How long have you been living together/doing it? And dating before that?
My two guesses are that he's gay or he cheated on you, got an STD and now can't sleep with you without giving it to you/you finding out.
>> Anonymous
>>87898
We've been living together for two years, and we dated for a year before we started living together.

The whole cheating thing is something I severely doubt, because he doesn't go anywhere. He had his license restricted a few months ago, and hasn't gotten it back. In addition, he doesn't have a car or anything. He spends most of his time playing Wow, and has become very lethargic and lazy. Most of the time he uses the excuse "I don't feel like it," which is understandable now that he has a job, but for almost 8 months he was unemployed and still refused to do it. Also, about the gay thing, I occasionally catch him watching heterosexual porn..
>> Anonymous
>>87904
That is kind of harsh, but I appreciate your bluntness.

>>87906
>>87907

I often feel that this is the problem as well, but he quit wow for two 3 month intervals an nothing changed. Also, as of late he has been playing less, I think he's getting burnt out, but still no action.
>> Anonymous
best way to cure WoW is to get him dumped from his guild, that's what my mates did, they played too (hardly like me) and spammed shit outta guilds saying I was a pedo RL and I was here to try to pick up with the lil kids and shit.

It was for the best, and now we have a laugh whenever anyone mentions it. I'm sure with some femanon whiles, you can work out a way to get him weened off from super addict to just "plays too much" and then imo, best is cold turkey.
>> Anonymous
>>87910
jaded much? mitebrite though
>> Hammerknife !7ITukp3Pj2
> He spends most of his time playing Wow, and has become very lethargic and lazy.

Pretty much it, I went through this phase. Watch him for a while and figure out whether he considers WoW more important than you at this point. If so, straight up ditch him and tell him you don't really want to hang out with him anymore.

If he snaps the addiction, he'll thank you for it later. If he sticks with his RAIDAN an UNBALANCED PEE VEE PEE, you're doing yourself a favor.
>> Red !KV/D4sCHBI
>>87901
He does sound depressed, you might have to sit down with him and really talk about it. Do you share any friends? Try talking to them.
>> Anonymous
>>87918
He has said that he was feeling depressed in the past, this could be it. I don't really know the effects of depression, but what do you suggest I can do about it aside from speaking with him? Because I have and I haven't really gotten anywhere. His usual answer is "I don't know."

>>87922
I have tried to basically force sex on him, while he seems to get aroused, and such, he has no interest. Wont maintain eye contact with me, watches TV instead, complains. It's very disappointing.

>>87910
You really think that's my only option?

I hate this because I really love him (sounds lame, but true), and I really hate to give up on him like this, but if it is my only option, I guess I won't have a choice.
>> Anonymous
>>87915

Jaded? Maybe, in a sense. But I speak from the experience of being on the other side of OP's situation. I didn't see myself as being cruel at the time, but I dragged things out for about two years in a very similar fashion.

"Of course I love you." "I'm just not that interested in sex anymore." "It's not you, it's me."

I was a stupid coward, and I'm a decent and honest enough person now to admit it. Also, I've since learned that it's better for a relationship to die from a single deep wound than from a thousand paper cuts.
>> Anonymous
I dun feel like marking all the posts.
To all who say the relationship is dead:

I disagree. Just sounds like he's depressed. Fix that and the rest shall follow. Theres times when I dun wanna do my gf because I feel like crap about something. Eventually, usually due to her, I feel better and FUCK HER BRAINS OUT.

Thats my advice. :D
>> Anonymous
>>87935
I've tried to have anal sex with him, he finds it repulsive.
>> Hammerknife !7ITukp3Pj2
>>87937

>I really hate to give up on him like this

One thing you have to consider about the western courtship ritual is that men are eminently replaceable by the whims of the women. I like to make jokes about picking up bitches at frats, but it isn't particularly hard for women to get replacements.
>> Hammerknife !7ITukp3Pj2
>>87943

Enjoy your defective toaster/refrigerator/oven/computer/man.

If you think about it there are certain functions people have to do in a relationship, similar to how appliances have functions in the house. If they don't do it, they're defective. Simple as that.
>> Red !KV/D4sCHBI
>>87937
Again, if you share friends and talk to them and decide that he is depressed, you have to pull an intervention. Sit him down, talk to him that he's been acting differently and you're worried, suggest he go see a psychiatrist. See how that goes, and if he still resists/stays in his slump you may have to go further.
I had a friend who was badly addicted to WOW and it fed his depression. We ended up taking his entire computer and forcing him to go out with us for an entire week before he agreed to get help.
Now that it's spring and nice weather, you should be able to get him outside easier. Try what you think will really work, and best of luck.
>> Anonymous
I've posted a few times already... but! One great question:
When you first started doing it, how was he about sex? Was he like a fuck master? Was it short and occasional? Did he beg you for it a lot?

My point is: This may just be him. How he is about sex.
One of my posts earlier was>>87940And I LOVE SEX! I fuck my gf several times a day (or more) a lot. When ever I feel any different, its usually due to depression. Once it's gone, I go back to fucking her like crazy again. BUT! Thats just me. He may just be "meh" about sex all the time. So yeah.... Tryin my best to help. :D
>> Anonymous
He could be depressed, that kills your sex drive.
>> Anonymous
>>87956
He used to be really passionate about it, at least once a day, sometimes more. He seemed to enjoy it a lot too, which is why it is really boggling to me why he seems so distant.

>>87948
I don't really want to talk to friends about it, because I feel it may be kind of awkward, but I guess I will try to not be too detailed about it? Thanks for the advice.

>>87959
That's what I hear.
>> Lil Dreamer !UYwMl8CsAs
he's just lost interest my dear. it happens. it happens to me a lot. usually around the 6 month mark is when i get tired of my present girlfriend and don't wanna have sex with her anymore. some guys can hold out for longer.

but yeah, it's over.
>> Hammerknife !7ITukp3Pj2
>>87966

Reminds me of an interesting stunt that happened on our 6 month 'anniversary'. When I woke up that day my girl was dressed in a leather collar and called me 'Master'. Given that I'm not really a dom (nor is she really submissive) the day was pretty odd, I just 'ordered' her to watch TV and play video games for the day.

The next day she behaved normally and never said a word about the 'slave for a day' thing.
>> Anonymous
Maybe I'm bad at this side of thought, seeing as I don't really lose interest in chicks too easily. But the whole 'living together' thing.. isnt that a sign of him not being tired of the relationship. I dunno. Think positive!

Is he bleh about other thing to do with you too? Or just sex.
Though that may not be accurate. That may just be him being depressed too.

The best point against ending it: If he is depressed, and you say/imply/allude/segway to breaking it off or ending it... that may send him even deeper into depression. I know it would for me. That would only make things worse and harder to fix.

Talking and counseling. Thats the best in my opinion.


P.S. Try deepthroating him. That shit feels so good. :)
>> Anonymous
I'm in his wow guild, he told me he wanted you to post tits on 4chan, dunno why. I think you should do it.
>> Anonymous
>>87966
Thanks for the advice.

>>87969
He's dom and I'm submissive, but I somehow doubt even this would do the trick.

>>87976
I am generally a pessimist and I have threatened to end it over WoW (but I haven't done it, I'm a chicken), hopefully that hasn't worsened things too bad. But I suppose the only thing to do is counseling/talking with him, or to break up.

Since these seem to be the most common answers, I guess I'll say thanks and try to work on that.

P.S. - I deepthroat. ;D
>> Hammerknife !7ITukp3Pj2
>>87983

10bux says he'd probably make you grind honor for him in AV anyway, while he plays on another computer.
>> Anonymous
>>87976
So... you're saying OP shouldn't end it because it might make things worse for him?

She's not his saviour, anon. Plus, hasn't she been suffering through all of this, too? Somewhat silently, too, I should add, since it's apparent that she hasn't shared much of this with her friends.
>> Anonymous
>>87986
Ten bucks is your's, I've grinded honor for him while he leveled my character. Good times.

>>87987
We share the same friends, so I would feel bad talking to them about something so intimate. Also, I'm not your typical gossip, etc type of girl. Hence why asking questions anonymously is more my cup of tea.
>> Anonymous
A couple plays WoW and the sex life is badly affected...

Whoopy Whoa! Who would've guessed?
>> Anonymous
>>87987
No, Im not saying she should save him. Just that if he DOESNT want it to end, and all this is brought on by depression. Telling him that shes been thinking of leaving him will only make his depression worse. Making him more distant and bleh. Thats all.

>>87983
To P.S.: ..hot!

>>87989
If its as bad as it sounds. (NO SEX FOR OVER A YEAR! FUCK, I'D DIE! AHHHHHH!!) That talking to friends would be worth it. ESPECIALLY if it gets fixed because of it.
>> Anonymous
OP, life is too short.

You are an attractive woman. This guy is a fucking loser. You really " love" him? Teach him a lesson that really matters. Let him know that no other woman would take this bullshit, because they wouldn't. Ha! A beautiful woman not having sex for 6 plus months against her will.

You have to start living life for you. When he breaks up with you, you'll realize how you completely wasted your time. He's defective goods. He's no good. You deserve better.

OP is probably a troll, anyway.
>> Anonymous
Doesn't want to fuck you
Doesn't have a car
Plays video games all day


Wow sound like a keeper OP, if he isn't 16 he is a fucking loser. You must be able to do better.
>> Anonymous
OP you are a boring person. He got bored of your unremarkable personality. Hell, I even got bored reading your post - you sound like every single clueless bitch I know.
>> Miss/fit/ !CX5ZjxjyRA
Fellow chick here.

WHAT
THE
FUCK
IS
WRONG
WITH
YOU
BITCH?

GTFO of that relationship you DUMBSHIT. Seriously, you make me hate my own kind. I love to fuck and if any man denies me what I want, it's over. I'm no one's bitch and you shouldn't be either. He probably thinks you're an ugly cunt or he just hates you. Also, OP boyfriend sounds like a total godamn reject. Get a fucking clue, moron. Leave him.