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Hey /fit/, my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 years and he seems to have lost sexual interest in me. When we were both in high school he was in shape and played a lot of sports and seemed more interested in me. Now we are both out of school, he never really exercises, and doesn't seem to want to put in any extra effort to be intimate with me. While I was in school I didn't exercise, but towards the end I began to workout, eat right, and I went from 130 lbs to 110 lbs. Now I want it more than he does and he seems to be bugged by the fact that I ask him for sex. So I wanted to know if you think there is a correlation between men wanting sex less because they've stopped exercising? Or just what you think in general. Thanks.
>> Anonymous
>>74724

this, or his lack of exercise has made him lazy.
>> Anonymous
>>74724

i'm 20 years old how much younger can he go without being a pedophile.
>> Anonymous
>>74728
>>without being a pedophile.
Oh ho ho ho ho
>> Anonymous
I keep hearing from people that if you're more active and get more exercise (men and women) you generally feel horny a lot more.

Maybe lack of exercise just killed his sex drive while you boosted yours?
>> Anonymous
>>74728
Plenty. You're used up and not interesting. Ugly, gross, and the same old same old.
>> Anonymous
you should find a virgin and train him.
>> Anonymous
you've got a loose pussy OP. His hand is tigher. Or the 14 year old down the street it.
>> Anonymous
Men have the highest sexual drive around 18-19 then it starts to taper off but not this fast. I think you need to make things a little interesting. Ask him what he wants to do during sex ie communicate.
>> Anonymous
So do you think we should break up?
>> Anonymous
>>74742
I do stuff like that and I try to make it new and interesting, but he only wants it when he wants it and thats it.
>> Boss Nigg !xi8/JKFwzo
dump him and find a guy who isnt a complete faggot.
>> Anonymous
>>74754
Go back to /ck/
>> Anonymous
>>74754
Nigger.
>> Anonymous
>>74752
Unless you're bugging him for sex more than once a day, he has ulterior motives for not plowing you, or he is a faggot.
>> Boss Nigg's Counterpart !kuQZc4IWKg
>>74758
FO SHO BOSS! WHATEVA U SAY MASSA I JUS A DUM NIGR WHU NEVA LERNT SPEKE'A'LIK.
>> Anonymous
>>74752
How often do you want sex? Be serious.
>> Anonymous
>>74746

Also by communication I mean find other issues that he's not bringing up in general such has job/school tension because it can affect the person more than one way. Six years is nothing though, wouldn't even consider it a "long" relationship so don't say for certain that you know everything about him before you ARE certain.

I think the best approach is to be straight forward and in a non-threatening way, tell him that you need some sexy time more often by throwing in lines right from those women's magazines because it seems to have come up many many times. If he's not a such a miserable faggot and give two shits about you "two" then things will get better. of all this fails then kick the his miserable ass out by that I mean take a looong relationship break and by that i mean never see him again.
>> Anonymous
>>74770
I would like to have it once a day if we actually lived together but we don't. He is at home and I'm away at college but not that far. I come down almost every weekend. So sometimes I ask for it twice in one day but not all the time.
>> Anonymous
>>74779
If he has a poor mans dick twice in one day could be too much for him, especially if he doesn't get any exercise normally he might be too tired. Any man can handle once a day though.
>> Anonymous
>>74783
I offer just to do things to him or do all the work but he sometimes still says no so what do you think of that?
>> Anonymous
>>74779
Once a day is too much. No literally, something about neurotransmitters and all that shit... That's just too much sex. You'll exhaust him, and he'll lose interest.

Now that you said you're not doing it once a day, once or twice a week is too planned. Too predictable. Hold off, do whatever, buy a vibrator. Just snuggle with the guy. Take a week off. He's losing interest because it's like clockwork. You come over and fuck. Boooooring.
>> Anonymous
>>74789
This guys is probably right about the boredom, but I don't buy that neurotransmitter stuff. I would wager cash that most guys fap daily, or can, without any problems.
>> Anonymous
>>74789
I can understand he might find it boring but its not like he's trying anything different. When I'm away I miss him and I do please myself, but I like being with him. Can you blame me for wanting to have sex with my boyfriend?
>> Anonymous
>>74793
While that's true about the fapping, this sort of thing commonly happens in pornstars. Literally their body just shuts down and they cannot have sex, really. I mean, they can, because it's all physical stimulation, but in their brains they're just not wanting it, and there can be a considerable wait to get back into the swing of things.

I'm not saying this happened with OPs guy, but this shit does happen. And I stand behind the boredom thing for sure. I know I'd be bored, personally.
>> Anonymous
>>74779

Well look at it from his perspective. Whenever he gets to see your face, you demand sex. After 6 years, the relationship is more or less relying on attachment and affection than sexual interest in each other.

Also, a lot of teenage relationships DO depend on "guy wants sex, girl submits", it's just that you didn't really realise it until now.

First of all, just stop asking for sex OR submitting to his request for sex altogether. If he continues on merrily as though nothing's happened, then you've got a problem with your relationship and you need out. If he submits to a Talk, then you're in it.
>> Anonymous
>>74809
End of thread.

No literally, that is the end of the thread. The only thing coming out of OPs mouth now should be something like "Thanks for the advice, guys. I hope things are still cool between me and my partner!"
>> Anonymous
>>74819
I said thanks at the beginning of my thread but if you would like me to say thank you again, then thank you.
>> Anonymous
Okay nice job people! Drinks at my place, alright? Seriously, fantastic work, I think this is a wrap.
>> Anonymous
You guys do love to get trolled, eh?