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Anonymous
Halp /fit/, my roommate is anorexic.
I asked her last spring whether she'd lost weight: she said no and I doubted it but we've kept silent about the subject ever since.
Now she's so grossly thin I can hardly look at her. All she does these days is sit around, eat salad, probably vomit afterwards and then complain about her tiredness. I've been told she's getting help at the moment but I haven't seen any results yet.
What the fuck am I supposed to do here? I'm really worried but can't bring myself to start patronizing her out of the blue; I fear she'll get even worse if I bother her about it now.

TL;DR: How to deal with a depressed anorexic and convince them to eat more
>> Anonymous
SQUATZ
>> Anonymous
take her scale away
edumacate her about nutrition
she'll learn that eating healthy and getting proper exercise feels better than vomitting and dying
>> Anonymous
Tell her that her thinness looks really good and if she keeps it up she could even become a model.
>> Anonymous
you're not supposed to do anything
just tell her she's fat every so often for the lulz
>> Anonymous
>>448138
Force feed her 2 for $3 hotdogs from Hardee's for the lulz.
>> Anonymous
>>448131
i lol'd
>> Anonymous !ErY2TknG0w
Inject lard into her food.
>> Anonymous
Anorexics are weak. Over power her and force her to eat a hamburger.
>> Anonymous
>>448304

i 404'ed.
>> Anonymous
Laugh at her dried up vagoo
>> Anonymous
>>448110

She's going to be defensive no matter how you bring it up. She knows there's a certain amount of shame attached to having an ED.

What she needs you to do is bring it up. However you want, just make sure to use compassion for what she's going through and understand the actual disorder. Talk about the disorder, not about what she is or is not eating, and avoid talking about her appearance. Focus on the eating habits--try things like "I noticed that you don't come to dinner with us anymore", "I haven't had (insert restaurant/dining commons/meal) with you in so long". Talk about her emotions, "You seem so stressed lately, and you've stopped eating because of it. Why are you so stressed?"

You need to talk to her about it and find out what the real issue is: usually, those struggling with EDs are actualling having a control issue. Maybe their family life is going through changes, they're afraid of losing their boyfriend, their grades are plummeting. There's usually something in their life that is going wildly out of their control, so they heavily regulate what they eat as a way to show that they can control *something*.

Talk to your Resident Assistant or tell her that you'd like her to see a counselor. Offer to help her make the appointment, offer to walk her there, offer to wait and walk her back.

Don't tell her that she needs to eat more. She'll probably see it as you trying to control her, which is exactly what she's trying to avoid.

Good luck
>> Anonymous
ask if you can brush and braid her lanugos

chicks dig that kinda bonding shit
>> gay
damn, you gotta find a new roommie when she dies. Sucks bra.
>> Anonymous
>>448110
i have a friend who is dying from complicates related to eating disorder..she is 5'7 and looked good at 140, nice thick and curvy. now she's about 80 pounds...
she's tried eating healthy and has improved alot but the damage has already been done.

its hard seeing someone go through this stuff and i feel for you..just be there for her as a friend and don't abandon her in this time of need..

in fact, i think i might go give my friend a call