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Anonymous
So here we are, /fit/. I turn to you now in my time of need.

First of all, my boyfriend was a virgin until he met me, and he was also relatively unfit. Now that he's discovered sex, he initiates sex very often with me. We're talking 4-5 times every time we meet, which is about twice a week.

Problem is, my boyfriend has issues with climaxing. This is list of requirements in order for him to have a CHANCE at climaxing:

Must keep him well hydrated
Must send him to the toilet
Must make sure room is cool
Must make sure room door is locked
Must make sure bed is free of everything
Must make sure to cuddle him for a bit before the main event (he actually stops mid-coitus and asks for cuddling before he can continue if we don't get this over and done with beforehand)
Must make sure not to use condoms (this one shits me. Hormornal contraceptives suck.)
Must quickly anticipate his wants and change positions accordingly

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>> Anonymous
Try everything and anything visual, keep the lights on, watch porn together beforehand. Guys are very physical and visual.
>> Anonymous
>What brings a man to orgasm?

The question should be...what DOESN'T bring a man to orgasm? Some people just have less "sensitive" parts than others. Is he circumcised?

If you really want him to shoot, try massaging his prostate lol.
>> Anonymous
>>46019
Looks like he has psychological issues. Stop dating guys with OCD.
Try having sex without making climax a necessity. Maybe this relieves some of his performance anxiety.
>> Anonymous
>>46021

Yeah, he is circumcised. It's done rather oddly with a lump of skin left on the underside of the penis too. Apparently his foreskin got infected when he was 4 and they had to lop it off.

Also, he is extremely against my hands even going near that area, saying that "it's dirty". When I personally lather , rinse and dry that area in the shower, he refuses saying that "you've already been there".
>> Anonymous
>>46027
Ah. I see.

Get a new one. The one you have now is broken.
>> Anonymous
>>46030

srsly
>> Anonymous
>>46027
Damaged Goods.
Send him to a shrink.
>> Anonymous
>>46024
>>46030

... but I love him. ;_;

I don't even know how to phrase appropriate words to discuss any psychological hang-ups he might have without hurting his feelings.
>> Anonymous
>>46019
Um, get a new bf. This one is broken.
>> Anonymous
Dude is a nutcase. Therapy ASAP.
>> Anonymous
>>46037

You can risk hurting his feelings and possibly help him, or you can let him continue his obviously unsatisfying & bizarre sexual ways.
>> Anonymous
>>46040
>>46035
>>46039

I see, I guess I will have to bite the bullet. So I'm guessing so far it just seems psychological?

Is there anything I could physically do for him in the meantime to make his uh, sex life easier?
>> Anonymous
Tell him to stop fapping 5 times a day before he comes to see you, and 3 times on the days that he does. If he's been a virgin and is over the age of 16 and has had high speed internet for a few years, he's been watching bat shit crazy dirty porno for those few years.

So being used to watching crazy kinky shit all by himself and feeling ashamed about it + performance anxiety = no climax.

Tell him to try not masturbating for a day or two at least before he comes to see you and promise him sex.
>> Anonymous
Break up with him.

It's better for you to break up with him. You're obviously hurting yourself by going through this. Does he even care that you go through all of this bullshit just to get him off?

It's also better for him, because he needs to learn how to fix himself. No other woman would've dealt with that. He'd be fucked ( and will be ) when you break up with him, but it gives him a chance to better himself and not be so dependent on how submissive and patient the girl is or isn't.
>> Anonymous
Sounds like an aspirant for darwin award.
Make sure he doesn't breed.
>> Anonymous
>>46069
I agree with this anon.
He should realize HE has a problem. It shouldn't be all up to you.
At least take him to a doc. At most, break up with him. He doesn't seem to be putting any effort to make himself better, yet he is initiating lots of sex.
>> Anonymous
>>46019

Make sure he knows you're out to please him with no strings attached, and without any pressure placed on him to perform as what would be considered 'normal'. Don't allow him to be embarrassed with his requests, and, with luck, he may require less of these over time. The mentioned 'silence' during his buildup won't help either. To your credit, however, it sounds like you've been very patient. But in this case you obviously need to address this problem with him.

>Also, he is extremely against my hands even going near that area, saying that "it's dirty".
>No twitch, not even a gasp.

Not normal.

A few questions:
Who initiates sex, first of all? Does he show immediate interest? What happens during the 'cuddling'?
Is there foreplay?
If he's against you using his hands, what about oral, or anything other than penetration?
Most importantly, do you know his sexual background? Has he had many past girlfriends, does he watch any kind of pornography or masturbate frequently?
>> Kitty-Moogle-Chan
>>46019
This sounds similar to me, honestly. It's called being nervous, and you get over it. I wasn't in such a bad way (the "total silence" part...not me lol), and the girl I was with actually didn't mind that I could fuck her senseless for two hours before blowing.

He really seems to have some insecurities. He's going to take some work, but at least you'll probably never have to worry about poor orgasm control. Even after getting over it I can still go 2-3 hours without much difficulty.
>> Anonymous
have you tried finishing him off by sucking him off?
or lube maybe?
>> Anonymous
Sounds like your bf was raped or molested.
>> Anonymous
your fucking boyfriend is psycho.

Get a new one that will have fun with you...and hopefully be normal.
>> Anonymous
>>46110
>> Anonymous
>>46097
She lied to you. While you were "fucking her senseless" she was bored to death and praying for you to get off of her. She just didn't want to make you feel bad.
>> Anonymous
I'm definitely not the average person, but imo I'd rather have a girl tell me the truth if there's a problem or it's boring (then maybe we can see about fixing it or dealing with it). Egos are for the weak minded.
>> Lil Dreamer !UYwMl8CsAs
>>46019
if you don't like hormonal contraceptives, there are other forms of female birth control, ya know?

also, suggest to your boyfriend that the shit he does isn't normal and that he probably has a bad case of OCD.
>> Anonymous
>>46082
Er, boyfriend initiates sex most of the time. He shows a fair bit of interest, if certain things poking against me is any indication. During cuddling, well, we cuddle and kiss, until he feels comfortable enough to well, insert. I guess that passes as foreplay, because he actually deflates a little while he undresses.
He doesn't mind oral, but not to the point of orgasm. Also, I am pathetic at handjobs. I always wonder why guys don't get RSI doing that.

He's bi. No past girlfriends or boyfriends. masturbates once a day. Does not watch porn, but reads stories and views /d/ a lot. Apparently his fetish (macrophilia) is a tad hard to find in the industry.

>>46097
You know what's more awkward? Sometimes, I forget about the whole being silent schtick and say <his name>? and he actually stops, and asks me back <my name>?
... and there is this most awful silence.

>>46110
I would not know what to do if that was the case.

>>46227
IUDs are not viable for me, because I have never been pregnant before. Plus, bf would be able to feel the string.
vaginal condom is not viable for obvious reasons.
diaphragm and spermicide, from what I've heard, have a 1 in 3 chance of failure.

Really, when you say no to condoms, hormonal contraception's the only way.
>> Anonymous
>>46700
So, you're dating a bisexual with obscure /d/ fetishes and wonder why he has problems in bed? Maybe you should should wear a strap-on and try changing roles.
>> Anonymous
>>46700

bi?

More like gay. Or just a...


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>> Anonymous
Your boyfriend has a fucked up head.

It seems as though there could be something wrong with his cock as well.


But the main concern is that he has some serious issues.
>> Anonymous
>>46700
>He's bi. No past girlfriends or boyfriends

No no, he's gay - he's just in denial. It all makes sense when you look at the full picture.
>> Anonymous
>>46700


Sounds to me like having sex with this guy really fucking sucks.


Ditch him and find a real man.
>> Anonymous
>>46706

He claimed he was a switch until I suggested I do that. Well, I didn't suggest it really, all I really did was grab his hips whenever opportunity presented, and murmur in his ear "one of these days..."

... and it scared him out of pooper sex for life, it seems.
>> Anonymous
>>46037
love is a lie.... like caek
>> Anonymous
>>46712
Yup. Sucks for faggots like that to break a poor girls heart when they're in denial. When you walk in on him with a dude behind him, you'll learn.
>> Anonymous
>>46024
What this person said.
>> Well....... 4th generation
Darlin' I feel for you I really due, becouse you are facing a few possibilties as to the problem.
1. He might be a jerk. He might just be using the rest as an excuse not to use a condom. Then kinda fells guilty so needs emotinal reinforcment.
2. He might have sycological isuuse with security that he has emotinaly tied ot sex. Meaning he's paronoid so can't preform. Try making sure he feels confident in your surroundings. If your not sure ask him, than gague his reaction. Ask if he reaches climaxis when he's on his own.
3. Becouse he is new to phyisical relationsips. He might just be so nervose, he kinda freaks out. Try to ask him what kinda adult stuff he watches on his own while your in a non intament postion/state. Find it and try to surise him by getting to watch it with you. Know how you can get lost in T.V. or movies. Goes double for the above said. Or try getting him tipsy to drunk. It might help.
4.Try reserching differnt teqniques. Try them out and see what happens. One option might be stimulating his... rear area. Most won't admit it but a lot of guys are into it. (No other anons not me. Fact is though it's the protal to the prostate. "Come on doc. at least buy me dinner first")
5. Option 5 I can see. If the later part of 4 works.....he might be gay. Sorry sweetie, but it dose happen'. Gay guys just starting out confused getting involved wtih girls. I he is. DO NOT FEEL BAD. Think of it as you just helped someone descover their place in the world.

What ever happens. Good luck=) Let us know how it goes, and remember. Smile!
>> Anonymous
lulz, that's usually what girls are like. how do you like a taste of your own medicine biatch.
>> Anonymous
>>46751
>>What ever happens. Good luck=) Let us know how it goes, and remember. Smile!

lol wut?
>> Anonymous
>>46756
I've heard of girls refusing sex because of headaches, but trust me, my boyfriend moving off me in the middle of sex because he has a splitting headache from dehydration is truly baffling.
>> Anonymous
I have the same problem sometimes. Girls love it the first few times, as if I'm not actively trying, it will take me an hour and a half - two hours to blow my load, and I'm not bad in bed, but in a relationship, it can be extremely stressful.

The most important thing is feeling comfortable. Every time I'm with a girl for more than a few months, it becomes easier for me to cum faster with her. I'm not sure what causes it really though. Usually if I am comfortable with the girl, and actively trying to cum, it takes about 45 minutes or so, which is manageable. It sounds like your boyfriend has the same kinda thing except a little more extreme.

I considered going to a psychologist about it, but it's not really a big enough issue for me. You might want to bring it up to him in such a way that doesn't embarrass or hurt his feelings though.
>> Anonymous
you are probably fat or ugly.
if you were hot he would cum