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Anonymous
Dear /fit/,

What helps kill the dwelling self-esteem issues that happen when a fat person goes from being fat to skinny/muscular but hasn't realized it yet?

I've just recently lost weight and gained some muscle but I still see the same old me when I look in the mirror. When I compare myself to old photos of me there is an obvious change but I still have the self-esteem problems and I can't get over it.

Wtf do I do?
>> Anonymous
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My best advice to you would be to start a martial art.

I began when I was still very fat but MA people are always supportive and friendly and make you feel wanted whether or not you can kick the top of the bag
>> Anonymous
Start dating. Seriously, when women don't ignore/make excuses for not dating you, your ego will grow.
>> Anonymous
>>15971

Protip: women are overrated
>> Anonymous
you eyes deceive you
ask for other people's opinions
>> Anonymous
>>15950
same problem

I'm not the huge ugly monster that I used to be

Girls occasionally talk to me in class actually

but I still have the conversation skills of a dumb virgin
>> Anonymous
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If you want to pick up wiminz, seriously, read the Alpha Male copypasta. Chances are, you are definetively NOT ready to deal with them, and you will end up with a way worse depression. Don't do it man. Pic related
>> Anonymous
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>>16004
>> Anonymous
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>>16006
I know this shit is most definetively /b/ but this is the real thing.

Or you can switch to the happy bottle that makes your problems go away.
>> Anonymous
>>15981
seconded fellow mis/fit/

how does one develop social/conversational skills past the "shy fat kid" without embarrassing ones self?
>> Anonymous
>>16013

How about stop being afraid of your own shadow and go live life. How about that for a suggestion fatty?
>> Anonymous
>>16004
>>16006
>>16008

This advice is shitty and probably written by a female. Buying random chicks expensive gifts and just "sucking it up" when your girlfriend's being a bitch is just not going to work in real life.
>> Anonymous
>>16075
in truth, it sounds like it was written by some guy with a shitty personality that unknowingly goes after shallow whores with equally shitty personalities.

my only advice for people with shyness problems is to go out and talk to people over and over, and don't fear rejection. don't worry about it if some girls say no, because it will happen. also, don't grow attached to some girl you talk to once a week to the point that you have this secret obsession with her and she's the whole world to you but you're too scared to ask her out, so you end up writing a letter expressing your undying love. it's creepy.
>> Anonymous
>>16086
Spot on. One thing I would like to add to that is date within your means. That is, if you are a 6, don't just hit on 9's and 10's. They are most likely shallow pieces of shit anyway, but beyond that, they see themselves as above dating someone like you (if they'll admit it or not). This doesn't mean that no one will love you, just not the prettiest girls in the club (or church or wherever you go).

One tragic story I have is this moron that was ugly, had bad hygiene, and dressed like a tard, but constantly only hit on the prettiest women around. He never had a single success. He eventually started talking to some Russian whore over the Internet who took him for $12K without even seeing him. It was funny as fuck, but very sad too.
>> Hammerknife !7ITukp3Pj2
I kind of had this problem back in high school before I first got in shape.

1. Learn martial arts, knifefighting, and marksmanship. Knowing you can beat the living fuck out of someone or kill them does wonders for self-esteem, /k/ will help you there.

2. Be social and friendly, and people will start complimenting you on your build once you're buff.

3. Hit on a girl that you know that isn't shallow, date her, etc. Having a girl that constantly wants you to hang out with her is both vindication of efforts and slightly annoying.
>> Anonymous
Noticing I had to notch my belt more, having "relaxed fit" pants start to slide off my hips, and having others comment on my weight loss helped me.

Of course, some of those compliments were backhanded... "Damn, boy, your shoulders are finally wider than your ass" probably could have been phrased better...
>> Anonymous
If you have the willpower to lose the weight then you have the willpower to boost your own self esteem. A lot of people who lose drastic amounts of weight via the old fashioned method, or surgery keep having self-esteem issues afterwards because being fat wasn't what caused the SE problem...in most cases they were prob. fat because OF the SE issues.

Focus on the things that make you awesome / different from other people. You lost weight thus you have dedication = awesome. Smart? Funny? Nice? = awesome. If you can't think of anything that makes you awesome then get to work and find something to be awesome in. Hell I'm fat and awesome...just being less fat would make me even more so.
>> Anonymous
>>15950
get laid. a lot. that should do it.
>> BrodoFaggins
How to talk to girls:

1. Compliment them, but at the same time, say something that'll kill their egos. It works wonders for striking up conversations.

"That's a pretty dress, I saw a chubby girl earlier wearing that exact same one"

or

"I like your shoes, I think I could fit in those" (implying she has huge feet).

etc.

You'll come off as a bit of a dick, but shit, it actually works. I have no fucking idea why.
>> Anonymous
I have as somewhat related problem. For me once I got fit, I couldn't really connect with people. I mean yeah, I can talk and socialize and all that shit, but I've never really felt anything more for a girl besides a desire just to fuck her. Though to be honest I have trouble keeping friends as well, I just get bored and drift away so that's probably part of the problem. I just can't really imagine myself in a relationship that lacks well I guess passion, I always cut and run when it starts to get to that.
>> Anonymous
>>16823

There is an idea of a Patrick Bateman, some kind of abstraction, but there is no real me, only an entity, something illusory, and though I can hide my cold gaze and you can shake my hand and feel flesh gripping you and maybe you can even sense our lifestyles are probably comparable: I simply am not there.
>> Anonymous
>>16848
cool. So I'm going to become a serial killer?
>> Anonymous
>>16752

If any guy said that to me i'd immediately put him in the "do not use" bin. That shit only works for anorexic girls or fat girls with no self esteem.
>> Anonymous
>>16075
no wimminz on internet nab
>> Anonymous
>>16752
called a "neg", making you look bigger in their eyes than you actually are, you pathetic slob
>> Anonymous
>>16874
yeah, negs only work on 10 or 9 girls, not girls who are self-conscious
>> Anonymous
>>15963
you beat me to it.

seems weird to me now. but the same thing happend to me, used to be pudgy and awkward but MA, as well as a job, helped out with that alot.