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Anonymous
I can't feel anything during sex, help.

It just feels like something's moving inside me, no pleasure at all.

Even if my partner tries to stimulate my clitoris (which usually gets me off, especially with a combination of penetration using fingers which makes the sensation more intense), I can't feel anything all of a sudden.

It's like my ability to feel pleasure is deadened after a PENIS touches me.
>> Anonymous
back to /b/
>> Anonymous
Do I have serious issues with my mentality, or is there something I can do to help? Sex felt properly seems like such a wonderful thing, I'd love to share that degree of pleasure with someone.
>> Anonymous
>>372717
Decided this place would be more appropriate to ask.
>> Anonymous
So you can get off? With masturbation? With a dildo? Vibrator? Just not with live fire.
>> Anonymous
It\'s normal. Some girls feel it, some don\'t.
>> Anonymous
>>372723
When I masturbate, I usually get off with clitoral stimulation, but I sometimes put things inside me and instead of moving them sort of clench my muscles around them as my body tightens up with pleasure. Moving them in and out doesn't allow me to do this, so I don't...

>>372725
At all?
>> Anonymous
eh...my understanding is for a girl orgasm and pleasure at all in your head. Your have some kind of fear of not preforming or letting your guy down in sex.

Like I know a boner killer for guys can be if they really like a girl and worry they won't be able to give her what she wants, then he wouldn't be able to get it up.

Or maybe there is some other issue at hand.

Take some time and think though the whole thing logically and find out what you are afraid out about sex with your guy. Once you know whats up, then you can go about finding a way to get over it.

Its possibly that discovering your mental block, revealing it to your conscious mind, and then realizing its still might alone be enough.
>> Anonymous
Also, like I said, I really like being fingered, and my partner stimulating my clitoris along with putting his fingers inside me and moving them in and out feels wonderful. So that's why I'm worried it's mental...
>> Anonymous
>>372730
I'm slightly self-conscious about my body and worried about being boring in bed, I guess. Especially I'm worried that if I tell my partner about my lack of sensation during
sex, they won't want to sleep with me anymore because they'll feel guilty for getting off when I don't and it won't be as fun (which happened with my last boyfriend).

I still get the same enjoyment out of sex that I would from, say, giving a blowjob, because even though it's not stimulating me directly, it's still nice that to give them pleasure.
>> Anonymous
Shit sucks girl.
>> Anonymous
Thanks for the sympathy.

Both of my partners have been trustworthy and caring longterm boyfriends who were concerned about my pleasure.

One was well-endowed, one was average size.

Maybe I just need to experiment more? I don't know...
>> Anonymous
>>372734
you are awesome. you can please me without expecting anything in return anytime angel
>> Anonymous
>>372744
Thanks, you seem like a stand-up guy.
>> Anonymous
>>372746
it's not that I wouldn't try to please you or wouldn't care, it's just that I-owaitaminute yes it is
>> Anonymous
masturbate and learn to get yourself off
>> Anonymous
Of course I can masturbate successfully, point is, it would be a lot more fun if I could get that pleasure with someone else at the same time because of each other.

Getting off alone is lonely and a little bit boring.
>> Anonymous
>>372734
i know it's easy to say this and hard to do it, but you need to find someone who does not care about the pleasure of sex as much as they care about the "bonding". Sounds like bullshit, but when someone is having sex with you because they want to do it with YOU and not because they want to have SEX, things are different.
I am in a similar position to you - it is really no problem to get myself off (even for a guy) and it feels fine, but meh. However, my girlfriend has a hard time getting me off, no matter what we try. No big deal to me, not only do I love giving her pleasure far more than letting loose myself (she is very sensitive, and responds beautifully) but I love her and I do it with her because I am crazy about her.
I think that the key thing is that I am totally relaxed around her and she always does a great time of quieting my fears about under-performing. She rewards me not only with pleasure far greater than when I am alone but by showing me her enjoyment, and it really helps my confidence.
By no means am I saying that you can walk out and find the guy who will make it work for you. But that is what has worked for me.
>> Anonymous
do it with a dildo
>> Anonymous
>>372759
lie down with your back to your man and masturbate yourself to orgasm while he holds his hands over yours. He can feel the pressure/rhythm/technique that works and learn exactly how to get you off.
>> Anonymous
>>372714
call loveline, they'll ask you if you got sexually molested etc.
>> Anonymous
>>372763
Thanks for the useful advice, I think that the fellow I'm with now would be patient and feel the way you describe. So you and your girlfriend enjoy pleasuring each other even though you don't always necessarily finish from it, is that what you mean?

>>372771
Sounds nice.

>>372773
Not to my knowledge...
>> Anonymous
dike.
>> Anonymous
I think "dyke" is the correct spelling, actually. I'm attracted to men...
>> Anonymous
>>372785
we tend to do other things as well as occasionally put it in, and that will sometimes get me off, it just takes forever, which she thinks is the BEST THING EVAR because that mean we do it for a bit in several positions, with her hopefully going over the brink more than once. Or just a long time in one position with her having one long one
...that sounded really arrogant of me, like I can do it for a long time. it's more like I can't do it at all...
>> Anonymous
you know, not to be all house MD on you, but this kind of thing is often reflective of severe sexual trauma (rape, molestation, etc) when you were younger, infact, you may not even be conscious of this event due to age (too young) or repression. that would explain why you feel MENTALLY DETACTHED from the penetration, as you probably numbed yourself 20yrs ago when Daddy/Uncle was moving inside your little vagoo the same way....
>> Anonymous
>>372930
Hmm.. no, I'm pretty sure I don't have any repressed memories, I had a pretty bland childhood. Thanks, though, that's always reassuring. =) It's not unpleasant for someone to be in me (unless they're too big it hurts...), it just doesn't feel pleasurable. Gwah.
>> Anonymous
Stick it in the pooper
>> Anonymous
Ouch.
>> Anonymous
Google "make your girlfriend orgasm full training". Watch and learn together.
>> Anonymous
STOP PUTTING WAX IN YOUR VAGINA, NOOB.
>> Anonymous
go see a doctor? you are frigid
>> Anonymous
>>373014

this. /thread
>> Anonymous
>>372729
>but I sometimes put things inside me and instead of moving them sort of clench my muscles around them as my body tightens up with pleasure. Moving them in and out doesn't allow me to do this, so I don't...

yeah it does you stupid cunt. you are MASSIVLY underestimating your BFs penis.

clench it as hard as you fucking like, he'll thank you for it.
>> Anonymous
protip: OP is man
>> Anonymous
Well I'm a guy, but I noticed something about kissing that might be similar. The act of actually making out doesn't stimulate me at all, but depending on the speed of my breathing patterns it can become very enjoyable.
>> Anonymous
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holy shit everyone itt is fucking weird
>> Anonymous
some girl's don't feel anything in their vag, fact. deoends on each person.
>> Anonymous
You need a big black nigger cock.
>> Anonymous
Maybe your boyfriend has a tiny PENlS.
>> New Bitmap Image
maybe OP is a dyke
>> Anonymous
Oral sex and Masterbation for you
>> Anonymous
This same thing happens to me. I sympathize with you, OP... Though I can't give any helpful advice because we haven't been able to work past this. I don't want to tell my boyfriend I don't feel much from it. He tries to make me masturbate myself off while he's moving inside of me but it just doesn't work.
I think it might be mental for myself as well? I do feel self-consciousness about my body, and I might just need more time to adjust to the idea. Even if I masturbate with something inside of me, it makes it so I can't feel the orgasm as intensely.
>> Anonymous
bump for relevance
>> Anonymous
I don't think my girl friend and I have ever been able to get off simultaneously so to speak, and I can't say it's ever come up.
>> Anonymous
>>372714
DO SOME SQUATZ AND YOU WILL FEEL PLEASURE
>> Anonymous
>>373867
this
>> Anonymous
>>373337
This, I have a female friend who never orgasmed until she had nigger cock.
Those beast are amazing.