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Anonymous
i didnt know where exactly to post this, i guess its a mental health issue:

I've never been so fucking angry in my entire fucking life. So, I'm working on a friend's film. He's using my camera, my sound equipment, my laptop and even my apartment as his home base. My grandma died recently though, and I have work piled up. I was going to be the sound guy for the shoot but as the first day wore on it turns out they weren't even really shooting much sound and didn't need me. So, I asked to leave and the director, my friend, said it was fine because i had other work to do. He gave me no indication whatsoever that there was anything wrong with me leaving.

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>> Anonymous
So I go out and run some errands and I come back later and the shoot is carrying on.

Now, I had gotten a replacement for myself for later in the day because I was having a party, a housewarming party I had been planning for a month. So, I finish up on the set and the director, my friend, I'll call him Larry, kind of gives me a cold look as I leave. Weird, right? He said it was fine that I was leaving again, we talked about it before.

Then, my friends show up, we start partying, the shoot ends and I ask Larry why the cold look. He says that he and some of the crew were angry because I wasn't there for most of the shoot. And I didn't want to create a ruckus so I said, oh, I'm sorry, there must have been a miscommunication and we reason it out. He's a chill guy. but his SISTER is the biggest fucking bitch you'll ever meet. She's got a huge stick up her ass. He continued to inform me that she, his sister Kristen, was really pissed at me. So, I decided to try and smooth things out with her. I took her outside and we talked, she said some underhandedly insulting things that I didn't take to heart (really heavy handed stuff, like "based on your performance today I wouldn't be hiring you" bullshit) and then she went on her way. Whatever, shes a cunt, right?

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>> Anonymous
and THEN, this is the kicker, as Kristen is leaving, some drunk bitch on the roof of my apartment throws her ex boyfriends cell phone off the roof and it hits the roof of Kristen's minivan, causing a tiny little dent.

Of course, she storms into my apartment in the midst of all my friends and starts pointing fingers and yelling, this continues for awhile. A ruckus starts in the hall. I try to smooth things out, AGAIN. the culprit slipped away though, but we know who it was.

I ensure kristen that I'll pursue her, and this is now a forum consisting of the entire party and my friends. Kristen then says that after today, my word isn't worth much. I, just trying to get back to my party, try to calm her down. She, being a huge bitch, threatens to call the police in the bitchiest of ways. She basically tried to humiliate me and she said some hurtful, scornful, vitriolic things with no backing. Finally, i was like whatever, if I can't get the bitch to pay for it I will, now leave. She did.

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>> Anonymous
I played it cool. But i've never been so enraged and insulted in my entire life. My blood bas been boiling for the past 4 hours. I sent my friend Larry about 30 text messages trying to express how unacceptable this was and how furious I am.

She came into my home, during my celebration and insulted me, even threatened me, in front of all my friends. Because some bitch I don't even know threw her phone off the roof.

I'm still livid. I helped him re write the script, they used my camera, my sound equipment, my laptop, my home and my time. And this is how they repay me? She could have easily just taken me aside and said hey, i dont want to ruin your party, but i have a small dent on my van, could you find who did it? the same way larry could have said to me, hey, you can go, but i could really use you here.

But they didn't, and now I'm the bad guy somehow. I'm so fucking pissed. I told him that kristen isn't welcome in my home anymore until she apologizes. I even threatened to not let him use my equipment for the rest of the shoot.

He won't text me back for a few hours. I'm so angry I can't even sleep. It's a matter of principle, I can't back down. They have to apologize. I wouldn't have left the set if I'd have known they would've gotten pissed, or if they needed me. But he said it was fine.

And then his fucking sister insults the shit out of me, in front of all my friends in my new home! after all I fucking did for his shitty little film that no one is even going to fucking see!

AGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

If you read this, thanks. please advise.

Also, the sun represents the intense, fiery rage I'm experiencing. and I'm usually a pretty level headed guy.
>> Anonymous
wtf you could have written this in 2 sentences...

Uh if your friend larry is worth it, man up and say you over reacted but you still don't approve of his sisters behaviour.

If he's not worth it sever all ties and take your equipment back straight away. If you can't do this you arent really all that angry and should really, gb2/b/
>> Anonymous
OP here, I really feel like I've put a good friendship and business partnership on the line by taking a stand like this. Some advice would really be appreciated.
>> Anonymous
this isnt really related to /fit/ness at all, mental or physical, this thread belongs in /b/ or if you actually wantt more serious advice /r9k/
>> Anonymous
tl;dr
>> Anonymous
>>83059

OP here: Yeah lol, it could be shorter. But did I overreact? I don't think I did. But he's really worth it, hes a great friend, guy and filmmaker. But it's a matter of principle. I couldn't pretend like I'm not deeply offended.

I guess I should just hope he understands and apologizes. I was pretty hostile though, in the texts. I said anything short of a sincere apology and its game over.
>> Anonymous
>>83062

OP here: Well i can't sleep because of it, which is bad for my health. And, i feel like I might explode. or my blood may actually begin to boil. or I'll steam out the ears or something.
>> Anonymous
tl;dr
Someone is surprised with typical female behaviour.
>> Anonymous
OP here: i hate this situation. on one hand hes my friend and i want to help him out, on the other, his sister and him crossed the line, big time. i can totally see this ending our relationship.
>> Anonymous
>>83064
>>83067
Well TBH. the first person to actively apologise and try and end the argument is the winner. Even if you feel you have nothing to apologise for, tell the bitch youre sorry about her car, sorry about the abusive messages, sorry about leaving the set early. That way you will have taken the mature and sensible route and they will be left feeling like little kids who've just got own'd by an adult. If they apologise back then its a win for you, if they don't, maybe they arent worth it...
>> Anonymous
>>83070

OP here: I wasn't surprised, I knew she was a bitch for a long time. But to judge me so harshly, without even knowing me, with all the assets I lend her brother. The way she talked about me you'd think I sabotaged the shoot entirely. The truth is entirely the opposite, it wouldn't have even been a shoot without me.
>> Anonymous
>>83073
you already know the answer.
>> Anonymous
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OP, it seems like you don't know how to use this. Learn with president Bush.
>> Anonymous
>>83075

good point...

but see, thats how I started out, i said hey, im sorry, i didnt know it was a problem to leave early and he was like its chill, its not that big a deal.

i didnt say sorry about the car but you're right there, i probly should, even though I had absolutely no control over it and i didnt even know the bitch. and we never actually proved it, also.

but i had apologized about leaving early, and then his sister went and crossed the line. but maybe i crossed the line back with all the crazy texts. I should apologize for that. but i have to demand an apology for how she acted.

and i'm still PISSED! like PISSED as SHIT! She ruined my fucking party, insulted me in front of my friends, tried to humiliate and demean me in my own home! It was fucking slander right to my fucking face even after all I did to fucking help out with the shoot.
>> Anonymous
>>83079

OP here: BUT I DON'T! we're supposed to start shooting in three hours, will I work with them, let them come into my home again, use my equipment? or just tell them to fuck off like>>83080

bear in mind this guy is one of my better friends and business partners
>> Anonymous
>>83075

heres my main defense though: Why should I apologize for leaving the set early when he said it was okay?

I didn't do anything wrong if the guy in charge says its fine, right? It's simple logic.
>> Anonymous
OP here: If I tell them to fuck off I'd be screwing them over big time, they have actors and equipment and crew all lined up.

Should I just do it and pull the trigger?
>> Anonymous
come on fit, don't leave me hangin...
>> Anonymous
>>83089
uhh... raep?
>> Anonymous
>>83088
Although making a stand for yourself so you aren't walked all over all the time is advisable, don't let your pride shoot you in both feet. This is one of those times you should grin and bear it for the time being, take him out for a drink later and tell him that while you appreciate all he's done and everything that has happened between you, you don't see the partnership or friendship as salvageable. End it on the spot, amicably. Of course find someone else to work with before you do so and get everything taken care of with him first (whatever you want to use him for, do it.)
>> Anonymous
Dude, it seems nobody is taking this friendship in account before insulting you, why should you?

If you let them walk over you you'll be setting a precedent, they will know they can treat you like shit all the time.

Tell him to fuck off and take his business elsewhere. If the friendship is important to him, he will apologize later.
>> Anonymous
I see this kind of shit happening to a close mate all the team, people abuse him because he always does he best to be kind and make things work, OP the best thing I can suggest if you start by telling the bitch to take a fucking hike and quick her manic aggresive cuntery. As for your mate, I suppose you probably dont want to tell him to sit on a 3foot pole, so instead just try to reason shit with him.
>> Anonymous
>trying to smooth things over with [a woman]

The reason you're so unhappy right now is because you have no control over people and events in your life. I could type up some long screed to explain, but it's easiest and just effective to say this:

Don't take any shit from anybody. If someone starts up, shut them down immediately. IMMEDIATELY. Or suffer whatever they're going to throw at you.

The reason this girl started bullying you in the first place was because you probably tried to 'smooth things over' with her in the beginning, placating her. That's like a big green-light for a bitch like her to torment you. As soon as you try to smooth anything over, a big pop-up appears in her mental GUI saying, 'This guy will not fight back, you can do whatever you want! ^_^'
>> Anonymous
>>83116
i gotta be honest, any time i've treated a girl like shit they've responded positively (more how i'd have wanted them to)
>> Anonymous
>>83119

Well there you go, friend. You know what you need to do. Otherwise you're going to wind up like every other weak nerdy guy from our generation and marry an Asian girl.

Go find the prettiest girl you can and be as mean as you can. Your meanness should correlate to how pretty she is.

:)
>> Anonymous
>>83120
lol this is because the better looking the girl the more reassurance she needs constantly, because they rely on their looks their entire life and without it they have nothing
>> Hammerknife !7ITukp3Pj2
1. Purchase a firearm. Display the gun safe prominently, but actually put the gun under your bed in a lockbox.

2. Next time someone gives you shit, clock him in the head and threaten to kill him and his family.

3. Congratulations, nobody's going to mess with you again.
>> Anonymous
>>83125
the chink is trolling again? i'm surprised.
>> Anonymous
>>83127

I had stuff to do earlier today, sorry.
>> Hammerknife !7ITukp3Pj2
>>83130

Woops.
>> Anonymous
>>83049
Hey op. Slap her on the face and get them as enemy.

/thread.
>> Anonymous
ur pissed. ur friend is probably having a shitty day too. the way u put it, he's probably in a shitty position right now, stuck between his pissed off sister and a very piss off you. before asking him anything anymore, think about him.
>> Anonymous
>>83075
WRONG

apologizing would imply OP did something wrong

unless OP is lying and hiding a few facts to make him innocent I would NOT go that route.

If something ever bad happens in the future. They'll use that as leverage. And that'll bring back all your RRRRRAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGEEEE.

Stick it to them OP
>> Anonymous
>>83136

To expand on this, think about the way people work. His sister is his family, and he has to see her all the time, and probably has to live with her too. Add the fact that she's a bitch, and you're venting all of this on the Internet, not to him. That says to me that she's 'a bigger, meaner mofo' than you are, and he's going to side with whoever will hurt him less.

tl;dr Your position sucks, either deal with it or drop this friend, because he's not going to pick you over his sister.
>> Anonymous
There is no other way around this OP. You were dishonored in your own home by a supposed friend and his family. A real friend would have kept his sister in check, and communicated to you his displeasure at your leaving instead of lying to you. If you stay 'friends' with these people, all they will do is use your shit and piss all over you.

You have something your friend wants, ie movie-making equipment. Take your shit back first, then cancel the relationship. If you do it the other way around, he might steal your stuff.
>> not your blog Anonymous
If his sister is the problem, why is he giving you the cold stare? Is your friend unhappy with you as well?

And what the fuck? THIRTY text messages. To complain.

...

Grandma died. Party. Woot.
>> Anonymous
yes. this friend of yours may be being nice to you just so that he can use your stuff.
>> Anonymous
Right thread this time.

You sound womanly OP. Grow a pair, and fuck this douche bag up. Ain't no one gonna disrespect you after you kick his ass.
>> Anonymous
>>83049
man if I were you I'd make my point about the entire situation to my friend and then let him figure out how he wants to handle it. The way I see it he needs to regulate his sister cus he has just as much responsibility as ur friend and "business" partner to keep everything savvy.
>> Anonymous
In befiore bel-ai-...


Well Dayum.
>> Anonymous
HOW IS THIS /fit/ RELATED?
>> Anonymous
>>83212
See this post
>>83062
and this post
>>83067
>> Anonymous
KILL URE FRIEND AND RAEP HIS SISTER
>> Anonymous
I don't have any idea whatsoever of what that story was about
>> Anonymous
So like, what do you want from us? Go do some SQUATZ or something and then take your drama party to /b/.
>> Anonymous
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Also, the puppy represents the intense, fiery rage I'm experiencing. and I'm usually a pretty level headed guy.
>> Anonymous
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>Also, the puppy represents the intense, fiery rage I'm experiencing. and I'm usually a pretty level headed guy.
>> Anonymous
>>83251

This is what I was thinking. What does any of this have to do with /fit/ness?
>> Anonymous
OP Here: I swear from this moment on that I will not bring dramu into /fit/, lest my family be raped by demonic hellhounds from the forsaken thirteenth layer of hell.

Seriously dude, what the fuck.