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Anonymous
/fit/, I seriously need something clarified.

I'm female and am having trouble trying to work this out...

Is it possible for you to psyche yourself out of a hard on? And is there anything the girl can do to help?

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>> JESUS
>>152628
Hardon, call it that, what are you, 12?
>> Anonymous
>>152628
Yeh... He normally initiates, then just loses wood. Its so bizarre. I'd think if he had performance anxiety, he wouldn't even suggest anything.
>> Anonymous
>And is there anything the girl can do to help?

Leave the room or be fat.

>Is it possible for you to psyche yourself out of a hard on?

Just try not to think about it and to avoid any physical contact.
>> JESUS
>>152630
I think you're boring him.
>> Anonymous
Send us a picture of you so we can decide a. You're fat, or b. he's bored/anxious.
>> Anonymous
>>152636
Well, Im 160cm tall, 52 kg, petite small frame... nothing out of the ordinary...
>> Anonymous
>>152648
Maybe you're ugly.
>> Anonymous
>>152636
If it is anxiety, what can I do to help it?
>> Anonymous
>>152656
reassure
don't look
get viagra
>> Anonymous
show pix and we'll tell you if your gurn is melting his penor.
>> Anonymous
>>152648

reassure. make him feel comfortable. keep playing with it anyway. be overtly sexual. after about 5-10 minutes, he'll relax, there won't be a problem.
>> Anonymous
>>152668
hmmm... I wasnt too sure whether or not to touch it after it went soft in case he got uncomfortable about it. I'll give that one a go.

I figure it also might be because he's like 32 and like 10 years older than me... which might contribute to the situation.
>> Anonymous
i got pshyched out of a hardon last week. everything was fine until she asked 'are you soft or something?' and it sent me back to an erectile dysfunction nightmare i had had with a girlfriend. she wanted me to fuck her in the ass and i couldn't get it in because she was so small and tight, and eventually i got more frustrated than horny, and she flipped out, saying i was gay and not attracted to her and she tried to leave. i had a huge panic attack and cried like a baby.

ever since then, whenever my mind drifts to the possibility of losing an erection, i almost always lose it.

what the girl can do: tell you it's okay to get psyched out, that it's not a big deal, and stimulate you with her hands or mouth. she has to let you know she understands it's psychological and it's ok.

when i lost it for the girl last week, she took it okay and i rubbed myself back to hardness while i sucked her tits. i finished fucking, smoked a cig with her, and fucked her again with no problems losing it.

what a nightmare though, when the girl freaks out and stops the sex.
>> Anonymous
If you stick it in your mouth while he's losing it and he doesn't get it back, something's wrong with him, not you.

Also, make sure he isn't drunk... alcohol makes it worse.
>> Anonymous
>>152689
Thats just it! I tried putting it in my mouth, then it gets hard again, he tells me to stop cuz he's about to cum.

It seems like its either a semi, or just about to blow with him, and no middle ground... thats why I wasn't too sure whether or not it was anxiety.
>> Anonymous
well - it's absolutely possible for a guy to "psyche" himself out of an erection... more than possible.... but this:

>>152692

Tells me personally that he may have a real problem maintaining an erection. It is more likely anxiety based than anything but you can't help him much if he won't talk to you about the "why". If it isn't anxiety based then he may have a real medical problem. Heart and/or circulation problems in particular can make it very hard to maintain an erection.
>> Anonymous
also - is he a virgin or a near-virgin (very little experience)?

This may be the anxiety source in itself. True performance anxiety.
>> Anonymous
>>152695
>>152698
We've both established he's had 10 times more partners than me (he is 10 years older, after all). I know guys tend to over inflate their numbers, but that still puts his experience relatively high. I can verify most of these numbers seeing as we have mutual friends.

Whenever he does do soft, he says it might be because of lack of sleep and that he may need to rest. But then initiates again within the hour, only to go soft or cum prematurely.
>> Anonymous
lol
>> Anonymous
He should try having a few drinks before for practice.
>> Anonymous
>>152702

Sounds like premature ejaculation is as much of a problem?

Does he wank a lot? Tell him to lay off that... look up edging... and have him do that with you or without. Also, get him tightening his PC muscle... should allow him greater control of his erection and ejaculation.

Most of all, keep at it...

Also... how fit is he? Is he overweight or does he suffer from blood problems or anything like that?
>> Anonymous
Stop having sex with him.

I can be hard for 2 fucking days straight!
>> Anonymous
Sounds like he is a loser who cant get it on with women his own age, and goes after immature naive twenty-somethings.

OP has some growing up to do.
>> Anonymous
>>152727
No health issues that I'm aware of.
He is fit - exercises 5 times a week.
Edging? That sounds like it could be a lot of fun :P

Well, we're meeting up tomorrow... Hopefully this works out...
>> Anonymous
Make sure he doesn't visit /h/ too often. If he faps too much to superior 2D porn he might lose interest in 3D womenz.
>> Anonymous
>>152734

Yeh... just whack/blow him until he gets to the "point of no return". Then stop (obviously you'll have to communicate) and let him get a little softer/relaxed... repeat this over and over and over (he should clamp his pc muscle tight when he reaches the edge, to stop himself "falling over" it. After a while, he'll be able to halt ejacualtion by squeezing the inside of his ass for a bit... he'll be able to go pretty much as long as he wants and stay hard from stimulation.
>> Anonymous
I think you're too ugly for him to have a hardon. he just doesn't have the heart to tell you....
but body language tells it all.
cheers.
>> Anonymous
Tell him no porn or fapping for a week. 100% success rate.
>> Anonymous
>>153233
>> Anonymous
Tell him to go to the doctor and see what's wrong. I highly doubt that he can't stay hard because of you.
>> bananapenis
>>152683

That was the best story ever, if it's true.

-24year old virgin
>> Anonymous
>>153272
it's probably true

it happens to me too sometimes

i had a really bad first time and was really embarrassed. now if i even think about it i can't get erect. i i'm fapping or doing anything and i remember it, instantly soft for a couple hours
>> Anonymous
issues with shyness or anxiety.

that, or you're fat, or smell pretty bad down there.

or he just pictured his grandmother naked.
>> Anonymous
Squeeze the tip of his ball sack, and lift it over the top of his head, and say "this is how a women feels during labor"
wat? Otherwise, just make him cum
>> Anonymous
HINT: He's gay.
>> Anonymous
>>152683
That doesn't sound like a story you'd just make up about yourself.
>> Anonymous
If youre boyfriend doesnt wanna do you its cause you are (a) fat or (b) ugly
>> Anonymous
>>152692
the next time you blow him and he says, "stop" just keep going and take a facial. he should get over his "problem" the next time you guys fuck.
>> Anonymous
sage
>> Anonymous
>>152740
IT WORKS! Thanks!!

Off to work now, with a huge smile ^-^
>> Anonymous
>>152683
>>153277
closet homosexuals
>> Anonymous
Edge for hours and await the nice surprise at the end
>> Anonymous
>>156469
I'm curious... what do you get at the end?
>> Anonymous
The way your post was worded I thought you needed help talking your man out of getting an erection. Like some couple where the dude gets a hardon in public and the chick gets mad.

I'm going to respond to this. Cold water, and talk about his mother. Any man will start to go down the moment you utter his mothers full name. Unless he's Oedipus. In which case the boner will rage on.
>> Anonymous
>>152683

Wow. What a bitch. Only one time has my boner ever failed me, and it was after a tiring day and on the second time around within our session. I swear, after a while a condom feels like it's just choking the life out of the damn thing. Fuck you, devil balloons. And fuck you, paranoid ex-girlfriend.
>> Anonymous
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This is my amazing flowchart. I demand it be the first thing posted in every erectile dysfunction thread from this point forward.
>> Anonymous
>>156560
HAHAHAHA I LOVE IT!
>> Anonymous
>>156560

I agree.