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Anonymous
Ok so I've been a virgin for 22 years and I finally had my chance a while ago, and for some reason I couldn't get hard. Is this a common occurrence? I fap once almost every day and it always gets hard, but my first time with a girl and it didn't work.

Could it be some kind of first time stage fright? She was pulling on it for like 2 whole minutes till it got really awkward and I was like maybe I should go to the bathroom and kinda get it going, so I did, and I couldn't get hard at all in there either, I even managed to cum while fapping in the bathroom but still no hardness.

Ever since then my fapping has been normal. What should I do?
>> Anonymous
a: stop fapping
b: buy viagra ( it workz )
c: die
>> Anonymous
Good anime, that. Inb4 weeaboo.
>> Anonymous
you wus nervous
>> Anonymous
it's quite common.
probably you were tense, seeing it was the first time... next time, prepare the setting, do something romantic together with your girl... you'll feel more at ease with her.
or maybe for you switching the light off would be enough...
>> Anonymous
I know how it feels.
I was a virgin for 20 years, then i lost it and now i'm a virgin again :/
>> Anonymous
>>She was pulling on it for like 2 whole minutes
WTF, OP. Next time tell her to stick it in her mouth. Works like a charm.
>> Anonymous
I hope it doesn't happen again, but if I ever do get the chance again it probably won't be with that girl. We're kind of best friends and she was doing it cuz I felt bad about being a virgin and we've both had feeling for each other for a really long time.

We've decided to forget that whole night, but I still feel a bit of unspoken awkwardness.

Fucking hell. This feels terrible, like a horrible blow to my manhood and pride. I'm lucky I'm not the suicidal type.

But yeah, it could just be because it was a bit strange, it wasn't romantic at all. I don't even know if I have feeling for her like that anymore, I used to. I don't know.

Sorry for ranting, I'll figure something out.

But do you guys think if I stop fapping that will help? It sounds like a hard request lol.
>> Anonymous
>>473555

She said she doesn't do "that"

I wasn't going to complain it was my first time lol.
>> Anonymous
>>473558
>>She said she doesn't do "that"
I don't understand this shit...how the fuck can a girl want to put a dick in her snatch (increasing the possibility of pregnancy, especially if barebacking it), but she won't suck it to get hard?

The second she said that shit, I would've zipped up and walked away. Sex with prudes sucks, you end up doing all the work.
>> Anonymous
>>473521
Relaxing is a big part in getting it up. If you feel tensed or pressured, it can become difficult to get a hard-on.

I know it seems hard, but try not to put too much importance on sex.
>> Anonymous
Dude, fapping every day can do that to you.


Stop fapping every day and you'll be like iron.
>> Anonymous
>>473595

You might be right. It's funny, many years ago, I heard many similar stories on the radio when they had that sex talk thing with that dr. guy and adam corolla. Anyways he said something like fapping too much will get you used to it, and when you feel it differently you don't get hard.

Maybe I should stop fapping, it'll be hard though, it's been such a routine, I do it every night before going to sleep.

Also I'm pretty sure she's not a prude, it doesn't matter though.

Next time I'll try relaxing more too, it felt all too rushed that one time too, she was just a friend helping me out with it, we just made out for like a few minutes before she started taking my pants off. It was a bit too rushed.

Thanks for the help guys.
>> Anonymous
>>473575
my GF doesn't do cocksucking, she thinks they look gross, but likes the feel of them inside her anyway.
not a prude by any stretch of the word
>> Anonymous
>>473530
Nah, you're absolutely right.
>> Anonymous
>>473601

Man, it's fucking true.


Trust me! I used to (and still kind of do I guess) fap every day.

My girlfriend (inb4lies) is fucking hot. Tight little body, great tits, etc. etc.

Now, I've never had ED. I don't have trouble GETTING hard. STAYING like a rock is another story.

It's like, if I haven't fapped in a few days, then I can feel myself on the very of blowing the entire time. I'm like a rock, can feel it swelling and ready to explode.

If I fapped the day before, it's hard, but kind of bendy, you know? Shit sucks man. Try to stop.
>> Anonymous
Perfectly normal OP. Trust me. I've lived the exact same story as you, except she's my girlfriend. I've been a virgin for 18 years, and when I pulled her panties down, I started to get nervous and I started to lose my boner, and I felt like less of a man, it was really the worst feeling I ever felt in my life. But it's common for a guy to lose his erection from anxiety.

The next day, I relaxed, we kissed and I fingered her longer so that I could get relaxed and ready, then when I was ready I started to put the condom and I started to get nervous again -putting the condom is a hard-on killer- then we started to kiss again, finger her, suck on her tits, anything to get my going, and when I felt ready enough, I slowly worked my way to her pussy and put my penis inside her, and her moanings were magic, we made love for an hour.
>> Anonymous
Ya its happened to me, i honestly think if you are a internet kid that faps so much you get to used to your own hand and get nervous when a girl is actually doing it. Dont fap for like 3 days if you think you have a chance soon. Also viagra does work from what iv herd. Also i have never had a problem getting hard if the hoe gives me head first, feels good man.
>> Anonymous
>>473893
Well I've been told to make sure you fap prior that same day, otherwise you'll cum too quick.
>> Anonymous
pretty normal. needs moar foreplay
>> Anonymous
>>473969
Cumming too quickly < Not getting hard at all

Get your priorities straight son.
>> Proteinfag
>>473865
>moanings

Internet service providings?
>> Anonymous
>>Sex with prudes sucks, you end up doing all the work.

A true lady takes off her dignity with her clothes and does her whorish best?
>> Anonymous
Wait you came without being hard?? I didn't even know that was possible for guys.
>> Anonymous
Maybe these guys who can't get hard with a naked fucking woman willing to fuck you should try taking it in the ass from a guy; maybe that'll do the trick because, clearly, the female is not.
>> Anonymous
>Ok so I've been a virgin for 22 year

So you are fat/ugly and I attribute your lack of boner to the chick you were about to fucking being equally disgusting.
>> Anonymous
>>474916

pre-cum possibly

As everyone said already, its a fairly common thing for first timers, its all nerves. Just relax and take it easy and you will be fine.
>> Anonymous
>>474916
Meth addicts bro.
>> Anonymous
>>474938

Actually no, I'm not fat or ugly at all. But I won't feed the troll, I'm outta here.
>> Anonymous
>>474905
>>A true lady takes off her dignity with her clothes and does her whorish best?
Yes. Don't get it twisted, ALL women are cock-smoking whores. Even the prudes get curious eventually. My personal favorites are the ones who swear up and down that "I'm not having sex until marriage!!"

I meet them a year or so later, and the curiosity broke them, they fucked, and now they're like the rest of us. Suddenly they're not so high and mighty.
>> Anonymous
>>474905
>>dignity
PS, when did blowing a dude or eating out a chick become a lost of dignity? The principle is simple; women want it to go from limp to stiff so they can bounce on it.
>> Anonymous
This is odd. I always see people who say this kind of thing so it sounds normal. Thing is - I get a boner when I'm within 1 ft of a girl. Can I still get these boner jitters everyone else gets? I want to fit in.
>> Anonymous
OP doesn't squat enough.

post workout boner ftw.
>> Anonymous
My ex wouldn't suck, but only because she would always imagine where my cock's been.
which is odd, because I've eaten more pussy, ass, and kissed girls than my cock has touched, and yet she loves making out with me.
>> Anonymous
>>476170
correction, that should say "loved" ;_;
>> Anonymouse
>>476170

She knew you didn't change underwear
>> Anonymous
I get to much hard when im with my girlfriend.
I already pre-cumed about 4 times when i was with her and did sex only 1 time... And that time i didnt cum ;_;
>> Anonymous
Yes, same shit happened to me when I was 19. Twice.

works fine now for me (third time lucky, must have been the excitement or something), there's probably nothing wrong with you as well
>> Anonymous
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>>473521
The first 4 times I either couldn't get hard, or lost it when I put the condom on. It's entirely stress and nerves. Just chill the fuck out.

Once you get the first one out of the way, you'll never have this problem again. I guarantee it.
>> Anonymous
who would stay with a girl who refuses to suck them off?

faggots
>> Anonymous
>>473521
LOL, I remember when I premature ejaculated. I was with my gf at the time and we've been dating for about 4 months or so. I had her doggy style and 2 minutes in I started feeling an odd pulsing. I pulled out looking down questioning what the fuck had happened. She asked what was wrong, I looked at her and said, "I think I came."
"really?"
"yea"
*silent pause*
"how about a rain check?"
>> Anonymous
Problem:
Stage fright. AKA performance anxiety.

Solution:
Smoke weed.

Bonus:
Get the girl to smoke weed, too. She might forget to make you cover it up.
>> Anonymous
yeah, stop beating it
8+ years of fapping vs one night of passion

your dick has never got the chance to feel love
>> Anonymous
There was just a study on this last year, actually:

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Sex/story?id=3932047

>While past research has linked early sexual activity to health problems, a new study suggests that waiting too long to start having sex carries risks of its own.
>Those who lose their virginity at a later age -- around 21 to 23 years of age -- tend to be more likely to experience sexual dysfunction problems later, say researchers at Columbia University and the New York State Psychiatric Institute's HIV Center for Clinical and Behavioral Studies.


Read the article, it makes a lot of sense.
>> Anonymous
>>476562
OH SHI-
does that mean us early 20's virgins are destined to a shitty sex life? (if we ever get to have sex, that is)
>> Anonymous
>>476600
i'm sure it's not absolute, but it seems you could be at a disposition.
>> Anonymous
it's all in your head
>> Anonymous
>>476562
i completely agree with this. i'm 23 and i've never had sex and even when i jerk it i can tell i don't get as hard as i used to get when i was 16-17. in fact, i barely masturbate anymoar and i can literally go days without getting hard...seems my sex drive is disappearing.
>> Anonymous
>>476617

probably due to the fact its harder to get fully turned on. I'm sure when you get a chick grindin on your dick, you will be solid
>> Anonymous
>>476617

that's a little depressing...
>> Anonymous
>>476617
yep me too
>> Anonymous
>>476617

:(

Dude I'm 25 and my sex drive hasn't changed. In fact, my orgasms are much more intense especially after an intense workout routine (endorphin high, raised testosterone levels...etc.)

You're still young, so chances are the plumbing is perfectly fine. It really is all in your head.

Tips:

- Get plenty of sleep, get up early
- Have a huge breakfast
- Maintain a positive attitude throughout the day
- Always keep yourself from getting bored (read, write, draw, troll on /fit/, whatever)
- Keep yourself engaged in a semi-daily exercise routine you can stick to.

I can go on forever, but I think you can see where I'm going with this. It's just about changing yourself from the inside out for the better, and learning to have control over your state of mind.

I just saved you $$$$$$$$$ on BS self-help books :)

Good luck and keep your head up, anon :)
>> Anonymous
>>476669
I'm 21, and I'm pretty much the same when it comes to jerking off, being horny, getting a hard on as I was when I was like 15-16.

The only thing that's changed is that I don't pop boners every fucking hour.
I do still pop boners in places like uni, but that's cuz I'm always thinking about hoes bro.
>> Anonymous
>>476765
that was supposed to be directed to>>476617
>> Anonymous
Stage fright dude. I remember when I lost it I tried to go in but she was like "youre not hard enough" and i was shittin bricks inside because of all "ohhh am i good enough" etc etc. I assume it happens to the best of virgins, dont get too upset OP.
>> Anonymous
>>473575
I really don't understand that shit either...
Some girls you can fuck for weeks, and they won't suck it, and some girls will suck you the very first time...

I think there's a connection between hornyness and the willingness to suck cock though. I'm sure the chick who won't suck cock rarely masturbates.
>> Anonymous
Happened to me too (19yo.). And the girl was rediculously hot and all. I was so mindfucked by the incident that I couldn't get hard for a week after that. I think I'm going to try cialis of viagra or something. I couldn't bare another failure...
>> Anonymous
girls suck you off to make and keep you interested in them

this is why you rarely get sucked when:
- you're in a long term relationship (she doesn't have to worry about losing you)
- you're ugly
>> Anonymous
>>476421
it is hard for me too, i ussualy have a hard time to keep it hard until im inside, and if i dont fap i just come to fast :( but otherwise i can keep it for hours
>> Anonymous
nervousness

i went totally limp my first time because of it, had to give up

damn it was embarrasing.

just get that confidence going and fuck away
>> Anonymous
>>476669
thanks man, i appreciate it. it very well could be in my head...i've been pretty aloof and uninterested in pretty much everything since i got out of college, we'll see what happens i guess.