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tl:dr: How do I get my girlfriend into the gym?

I have a fat girlfriend, /fit/. Like, 200 lbs. fat. While I like her personality and she's lots of fun to be around (and a freak in bed), I still can't get past the fact that she's fat. She has a big belly, flabby arms, and thick thighs. I'm not being a hypocrite because I'm at the gym 3 days a week with a 29" waist and 10% body fat.

I've tried to be subtle about my wishes. When I eat with her I get good stuff, keep my portions small, and skip desert. I invite her to play sports. I tell her what a good session I had at the gym. I was hoping my habits would rub off onto her but after four months she still skips breakfast, has ramen for late night snacks, and eats more than she really ought to.

I'd be happy even if she was just buxom or full-figured, but she's a little too big for those labels. So short of telling her straight up that I'd like her to lose weight, what else can I do?

Pic related, it's a good approximation of how fat she is, except more saggy
>> Anonymous
Tell her you're worried about her health and you want her to exercise.

And if she says no? Then tell her to fuck off. You're in good shape, you don't have to be with a fatass who's not willing to change.
>> Anonymous
there's no way to do it without calling her a fatass directly or indirectly and her getting offended

just dump her
>> Anonymous
>>92952
This.
>> Anonymous
ask her to go grocery shopping with you and talk about how good your food is for your health and compare it to foods she eats and some she doesn't eat that are on the same playing field.
>> Anonymous
>>92952

Yes, I have considered the "It would be good for your health if you dropped some fat" approach but I'm worried about how she'll interpret it. She's never asked me my opinion about her body and I've never told my opinion about her body (except those heavenly pillows on her chest)
>> Anonymous
fucking drag her fatass into the gym.
>> Anonymous
>>92952
definatly this. tell her how you feel about what a great person she is but you want her to be healthy. tell her about not wanting to see her get things like gout or diabetes or good lord just a heart attack at such a young age.

just no matter how you put it, do your best to avoid saying 'i dont find you physically attractive'. i know how bad it hurts because i saw my mom cry all the time when my dad- though he loved her- criticized her after having kids about being over weight. never let someone you love think your love is conditional esp if she really trusts you.

however if she's like "naw playa i like how i am and i aint changing for no body" kick that to the curb.
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Don't go out with people and then try to change them. Girls try it all the time and fail miserably. If they really want to change they will change.
>> Anonymous
>>92969

NOT true.

I married my husband because i love him, the health concern came second.

The biggest thing I did to motivate him to lose weight was to make it a JOINT thing. Instead of telling him to "get off his ass and stop eating chips", we're BOTH eating healthy, and together we are walking more and exercising.

So if you make it a bonding experience, she may react well.
>> Anonymous
Don't try to change her. If a little fat bothers you, move on, so she can find a man who can appreciate her beauty.
>> Anonymous
>>92990
Obvious Troll
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>>92987
Well yeah, but he had to have wanted to change already, you can't force someone to change. If she truly wants to lose weight, opp can help. If she doesn't, it's pointless.
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>>93004

somewhat true. Also, some people just need that kick in the ass to get started.

i.e. = me.

If I didn't get kicked in the ass to start eating healthy, i would end up looking like my mom....and that would be lulz...pic related.
>> Anonymous
>>92948
>>I still can't get past the fact that she's fat.

Why did you even go out with her in the first place, then?
>> Anonymous
>>93008
Holy ball sweat you need to get working out.
>> Anonymous
She probably thinks that by skipping breakfast she is going to lose weight.
I thought that for a while, too.

Be honest, seriously. Ask her to come to the gym with you and bother her to eat breakfast. Don't buy ramen. Tell her to eat healthier and that since she is a big girl now (not literally, even if she is in both sense) and she should be eating right.
>> Anonymous
Pretend you've been getting bored at the gym lately and want her to come with you for company

Problem fucking solved
>> Miss/fit/ !CX5ZjxjyRA
Don't date someone you're not attracted to, DUMBASS. You're just going to destroy her when she realizes you think she's too fat for you.
>> Anonymous
>>93021
>>93215

I was attracted to her personality first (yeah, imagine that) and I didn't realize how fat she was until the clothes came off.

Anyway, thank you for the advice guys. If she still doesn't get my hints for a little while longer, I'll start being more direct.
>> Anonymous
>>92952
This.

I was in the same boat as you, OP, and I ultimately decided that she wasn't for me. It ended up going beyond weight and me realizing that as much as I cared about looking good for her, the reverse was never a concern of hers.

It eventually drove me to look for someone who more closely matched my interests.
>> Anonymous
Don't waste your time trying to change someone.. You should like her for who she is, not how much she weighs, if you can't get past that then you're clearly not meant for each other.
>> Anonymous
OP is obviously black.
>> Anonymous
MAN THE HARPOONS, harpoon her, and drag her to the gym. Problem solved. Anon at your service.
>> Anonymous
I second the bonding experience thing, doing it together as a couple stuff. It shouldn't just be about you keeping her on track. If you do get her into the gym, you'll need to take on a personal trainer role for her, at least the first few times - she'll be really self-conscious about the whole thing before she works out that exercise can be fun and feel good. She may just not realise that she is a "big girl", or she may have a case of inertia - she figures she's too far gone to be bothered about it. also, make sure you keep any gym stuff and exercise light for starters - so that she's not knackered by it.

If she gets like 'don't try to change me', try telling her it's cos you love her, you don't want to see her get sick because of her choices. I know you're upset that she doesn't seem to care, but you need to give her options, not ultimatums.
>> Anonymous
You will be a lot happier when you trade her in on a sportier model who cares about the same things you do.
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She has a boyfriend - you. So why would she change for anyone but herself?

THAT IS LOGIC
>> Anonymous
>>93666

Well put.

OP, how long have you been seeing said girl? If it's long enough, then just tell her the truth: that you don't care about her weight in the sense that you still want to be with her, but you'd be that much happier if she joined you. And that's the important part, that it'd be something you're doing together.