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Anonymous
sup /fit/

This has to do with anxiety and nervousness a bit, and so it's on the Health board.

I go to university and I don't know how to start a conversation with people or make friends really.

I think my old friends were a bad influence on me (excessive drinking, weed, partying, etc). So I stopped talking to them and I want new friends.

I go to class, sit near the front and after lectures I go back to my room and either go on the interbutts (eg, 4chan), do something on my computer (/tv/) or go to the gym (/fit/, I already do enough squatz and curlz so don't suggest those)

How can I make friends.
I'm really anxious when it comes to talking, liek in lectures I won't put up my hand even if I do know the answer or have a question.
And in groups, it is the same thing. I'll have ideas but I'm nervous or something about speaking up.

halp /fit/
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>> Anonymous
Join a club, surely your school has lots. The alternatives are striking up conversation on your own, or simply waiting to find yourself speaking to people.
>> Anonymous
>>422749
all the clubs at my uni are weak though brah

eg. Family Guy club, lolwat
>> Anonymous
how about open your goddamn mouth and join some club, stupid or not. its all in your head, get it out of there with MOAR SQUATZ
>> Anonymous
>>422742
Yo man, I'm the same. Sucks to be you. (And me, LAWLS)
>> Anonymous
>>422764
just don't have interests or being exciting or sociable
you'll get tons of terrific friends brah
>> Anonymous
go to /tg/, pick a game and start playing it. youll make friends and your self confidence will rise.
>> Anonymous
>>422742
Go stand in line someplace where there is a really huge long line. As it moves along you will have a reason to talk to the people around you because you are bored out of your mind.

PS, no cheating and bringing a handheld game system or dicking around on your phone.
>> Anonymous
Yep me too. I'm more than halfway done with my 1st semester and I still haven't met anyone that I talk to outside of class. Shit sucks when you see everyone else having fun.
>> Anonymous
>>422834
then do something about it.
>> Anonymous
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>> Anonymous
>>422857
wat
>> Anonymous
>>422786
okay
OP here.

Can anyone name some interests that people will like.
>> Anonymous
What uni are you in?
>> Anonymous
>>423179
McMaster in Ontario (Canada)
>> Anonymous
I assume you're in good shape and an asshole (from browsing 4chan) so why not join a frat?
>> Anonymous
>>423184
no frats in Canada afaik. Or at least none at or near my uni
>> Anonymous
>>423183
McMaster LOL

You can walk and talk you get to go to Brock, you talk a little faster then off to McMaster
>> Anonymous
blatant hijack

what do canadifag think of University of Waterloo? (in general, how is it regarded?)

its on my list of grad schools. epic spinal mechanics PhD there. its a shame that 'quality of education' only goes so far, you need a recognizable name to get you in the door.
>> Anonymous
>>423190
I chose Mac, since I assumed it would be easier.

It's a pretty good school tbh. A couple of years ago it was ranked number 1 research uni in Canada. And it's Medicine program is world-reknowned
>> Anonymous
>>423194
for engineering, Waterloo used to be and probably still is the best.
>> Anonymous
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lulz same here OP. 'cept I like being ronery.
All I really need is my computer and internets.
>> Anonymous
>>423200
how about a more 'general' view of the uni? how is it regarded? is it just engineer fags there? kinda how most would (falsely) view MIT?
>> Anonymous
>>423205
moastly engineerfags I'd say. If you're into a high asian men to hawt female ratio (that is very few hawt females and a lot of asian men), then it's the uni to go to brah'

I'm serious though. Too few girls afaik.
And yes, Engineering and Math are what they're the best at.
>> Anonymous
>>423205
It's a good school. One of the best.
>> Anonymous
Shit, I'm a senior in uni and I still haven't figured out how to make friends.
>> Anonymous
>>423210
lol, my undergrad was that w/just higher Jew %.
but thats what you get w/smart kids
lots of jews
lots of (RICH) AZNs
no attractive girls

is Waterloo a 'nice area'/ good area to spend age 25-28?
>> Anonymous
>>423222
it's a pretty small town, about an hour drive from Toronto.

Depends what you mean by nice.
Actually I don't even know, my older brother did engineering there a few years back. I only visited him a few times and didn't really check out the scenery or anything.
>> Anonymous
>>422742
Same here OP.

Any suggestions?
>> Anonymous
>>422742

are you serious? you don't know how to start a conversation? you started a topic on /fit/ I'm sure you can manage to strike a convo easily.

Try this... when walking to, or out of class, ask somebody something about the class.

"did you understand _______ ? i got a little lost"

worst thing that could happen is they'd try an explain it to you, pay attention and listen. when they're done thank them and introduce yourself and just be friendly.

this works here in NY and you know everybody here are world renowned assholes.


surefire way to fail is by not trying.
>> Anonymous
>>422742
sauce?
>> Anonymous
>>423262
0/10
>> Anonymous
>>423259
Not OP, but good tip. Any more?
>> Anonymous
>>423262
it's balsamic vinegar! no sauce in /fit/!
>> Anonymous
IRL: you have to deal with people face to face, something about that scares me shitless, on a computer, you don't have to see them, *anonymity* it's far less stressful. btw, not OP
>> Anonymous
bump
>> Anonymous
>>423278
anonymity is a great thing.

IRL If you're in a public place, you're still anonymous to a degree, someone could point you out by saying oh that guy in the blue shirt, and that's about it unless you let yourself be known.

I WAS like you! afraid to talk to people, I couldn't look them in the eye and talk i would look to the floor and mumble some words.

you know what my secret is... I realized they are just people like me and I don't give a damn what they think of me. I have nothing to be shy about anyway.

After you realize that for yourself start looking at people in the eyes when you talk to them, speak clearly and keep doing it. you'll get comfortable after a day or so.

i'll say it again... surefire way to fail is by not trying.
>> Anonymous
>>423275
TY and sure, here's one more.... for>>423278


even if you're crapping your pants in fear, learn to put on a front, try and be confident, people can smell fear and it's really uncomfortable for everybody when you're stammering and tripping over your own tongue.

sure enough people will buy your front and you'll believe it yourself, soon enough you'll be ok in your own skin.
>> Anonymous
still, something about that scares me(face to face interaction, without being forced to). In classes I can talk to anyone as long as it's subject related, actually, if they start the conversation, I'm perfectly fine, but I'm petrified to start talking...
>> Anonymous
>>423322
geez I feel like dr. phil in this topic lol.

look obviously you're not a hideous cave dweller since people actually come up to you to start up a convo even if it's about the subject.

take the subject issue and run with it. that same person that came up to you and talked about the subject, go up to them next time you see them preferably before class and ask about the reading assignment, nothing too deep, but no yes or no questions either then you hit a dead end. practice it over and over on your head until you're comfortable asking, and smile.

when they answer wait for it and stray off the subject like

yea i sort of understood but i had the tv on and i was just sucked in by this show, ever seen it?

if it's a yes it's common ground now you can start talking about the show!
Conversation about something you actually enjoy!

if it's a no, then you're pretty much screwed lol.
>> Anonymous
bump
>> Anonymous
>>423322
same here man
>> Anonymous
>>423322
>>423420
so i take it that both of you are still virgins?
how old are you anons?
>> Anonymous
>>423426
not trying to bust your balls anon but you have to step out of your comfort zone!

I'm an foreingfag if i didn't step out of my comfort zone and tried talking to people i would've never had any friends in this country, for god's sake i didn't even speak english 10 years ago!
>> Anonymous
>>422742
sort of related to OP.

How can I start and also keep a conversation going?
>> Anonymous
>>423463
can you start a convo with me right now?
>> Anonymous
>>423471
ummm.. i dunnolol

See, I can't just go up to a random and say "Hey" or "how are you" can I?
>> Anonymous
>>422742
bamp
>> Anonymous
>>423479
I don't see why not, it ain't rocket science. just talk about general crap and make it about yourself something like

"hey" "how are ya?" "I can't take this cold weather anymore i'm from florida and it's never this cold"
>> Anonymous
>>423479
get drunk derr
>> Anonymous
Serious help: go read _How to Win Friends and Influence People_ by Carnegie. It'll set you straight.
>> Anonymous
>>423509
thank you anon
here's the link
http://rapidshare.com/files/138961062/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People_-_Dale_Carnegie__1937_
__1981_.pdf
>> Anonymous
>>423512
I've read that already. Didn't help gais.

Just give me some openeres to meet people and I can remember them.
>> Oh God. Anonymous
Hey, just chill man. Relax and take it easy. Focus on school a little and just go with the flow. Don't be so worked up over what someone might think. Its all pretty inconsequential in the long run. You'll make some buds, I'm sure.
>> timbo timbo
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u need 2 worry less son
you're perfectly normal (i estimate u @ 16 y/o?)
people are too busy thinking about their own reputation in places like school or streets to be thinking about yours, use this to your advantage
everyone has insecurities. just change what you can't accept and accept what u can't change

what you could do is take up a part time job like at a store or something where you deal with alot of people, cause if u isolate yourself from people, it will further mentally retard your social skills. take up hobbies like dancing or martial arts or a musical instrument (musical instrument is solo teacher usually but @ yo school should be other kids you can jam with)
or all 3 above (dancing will really help u with ur after school activities if u know what i mean)
Take it 2 da CLuuuuuuB and everyone @ school is like yo teach me that move h0mezzzzzz

like any part of your body your mental agility has to be trained and being funny/cocky/confident comes from alot of group interaction

here NiGGaZ gon' talk shit and say, be yoself
i say be your BEsT self and fix yo problems
u neeed 2 upgrade your TimBONeSS


TIMBO BOSS
helping the helpless
>> timbo timbo
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>>423843
also u could just fuck it and just get good grades
and make sure ur not driving a garbage trucc @ age 24

24 y/o women are hotter anywayz
so u got all the time in the world 2 adapt


Peace
TIMBOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
>> timbo timbo
p.s. I suck cock
>> timbo timbo
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>>423848
sir i find your remark to be very random and disturbing

a) behave
b) die


TIMBOOOOOOO
>> Anonymous
>>423852
y u talk to yourself, bro?
>> JESUS !vBOFA0jTOg
>>423852
YAY TIMBO'S BACK :D
>> Anonymous
Holy shit, timbo is actually giving good advice
>> timbo timbo
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>>423857
first u tryna kill me!
now u tryna kiss me?
man~~#@@
i always give good advice
NiGGaZ just don't wanna listen
and if all ya'll niggaz keep doin what ya;'ll doin u'll keep gettin what ya gettin
action/reaction
or should i say lack of action

weeeeelll practice them moves and i'll see U @ da CLUB

TIMBO
>> timbo timbo
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ofc all above don't matter if u don't shave your face/balls and your wearing a mickey mouse CLuB T-shirt and flip flops shoes
u gotta be smooth like this guy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9P2hoO088lc


TIMBO
(smooth)
>> timbo timbo
here is 2 more smooth mofo's for u

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gyy3sTH2n80 (Falco)
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/knQJvw6FhVq2tB8bSu (Prince)

Trust me

TIMBO
>> Anonymous
itt some good advice. then you get older and realise you don't give a shit about what anyone is saying to you anyway.
>> timbo timbo
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>>423877
it's not about what people are saying to you

it's about how you carry yourself in social situations and in general

confidence etc

and those things will always matter
a) until u lose ur BaLLz
b) have them SurGicALL removed LoL
Timbostein the Third
>> Anonymous
>>423873
OP here.
That Falco guy looks pretty cool.
Also are you timbo, timbo always uploads an image as well.

>>423843
I'm much older than 16 brah
I don't want to learn a martial art
I am already learning an instrument (well, trying to)
Dancing? There are quite a few dance clubs at school where they do competitive group dancing (kinda liek america's next top dance crew or whatever)

But I don't know if they let newfags in.

Any other cool hobbies?
>> timbo timbo
>>423877
but yes, ~to a certain degree as u grow older your confidence goes up~~ it's human NaTuRe (experience, living on your own, loss of parents, whatever)
confidence =/= not giving a shit
but at the same time giving a shit :P
dunno man just stfu and go CLuBBiN while u still have ur balls

T~~
>> Anonymous
>>423892
you're a fucking idiot
>> timbo timbo
>>423895
i don't mind being an idiot from time to time as long as i'm the one having fun and others are pissed off about it

HaHa RuLES OF dA STrEET FOO


TIMBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBOOOOOOOOOOOM~~@@ the bomb has exploded (la bomba estalló,
las radiaciones tuestan
y matizan de azul.
Vamos a la playa, oh oh oh oh oh…
Vamos a la playa,
todos con sombrero.
El viento radiactivo
despeina los cabellos.
Vamos a la playa, oh oh oh oh oh…
Vamos a la playa,
al fin el mar es limpio.
No más peces hediondos,
sino agua fluorescente.
Vamos a la playa, oh oh oh oh oh… )
>> timbo timbo
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i'm just tryna teach these Catz some game u know
cuz u know it's true
clubbing is more fun than shooting ur teammates @ counterstrike with friendly fire on n shit
u need 2 hit da club
it's like a meat factory, u advertise yo meat
basically u dry hump some hoes and get their phone numba
i never will be outclased cause i created a class of my own:
a young loner on a crusade to champion the cause of the innocent, the helpless, the powerless, in a world of criminals that can't dance.
\and ya'll niggaz can't step to this cause u can't dance

so why hate on me????????
keep improoving your skillz and CU @ da CLuB

TIMBO THE ILLEST
(for international solidarity, social justice, democracy and PEACE)
>> timbo timbo
>>423884
yo OP
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_hobbies
http://www.listofhobbies.net/
http://www.listofhobbies.net/list-of-hobbies-for-adults.htm
http://www.hobbyarchive.com/hobbyarchive-articles/learn-a-hobby-online.php

try those


TIMBOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
>> timbo timbo
and OP,

sooner or later ur gonna change automatically anyway, either out of frustration or lonelyness
might as well do it sooner than later with all those fun school activities and proms n shit still around, maybe u should get yourself some self-help torrents like from David Deangelo or some shit if u really clueless


TIMBO
>> timbo timbo
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>>422742
i must've clicked OP's pic like 5 times now
too bad her titties is fake tho
TiMbo knows when it's REaL

ehehe

TIMBOOOOOOOO
>> Anonymous
timbo ur awesome