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Anonymous
Well I was 6'2" 265lbs and I was dating my hot gf for about 3 years. She never let on that it bothered her. We still had sex, went out, etc. but eventually it broke us up. Over the next 6 months I lost 60 lbs of bf and put on 10-15 lbs of muscle (just an estimate). We are now back together and we are both very happy.
After we broke up I realized that she lost respect for me, and you can't be with someone you don't respect. When we first started dating, I was out of shape, but not nearly as bad. As I put on the pounds, I didn't even notice. I was focused on school, happy with our relationship, and when I looked in the mirror I didn't see a fatter me, just the same old me.
What changed my mindset was that I will never have a woman care about me when I look like shit. I took control after I lost the love of my life. I don't know what to tell you, since it took a break up to get me on track. I wish my ex would have expressed more about how it made her feel to see me that way and be in public, etc. That would have been great motivation.
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