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Obese Friends. Anonymous
Hi /fit/.

This seems like a good place to look for advice when it comes to my dilemma.
It's not about myself, as I eat well and take care of myself, but about a dear friend of mine whose wellbeing I fear for.

We've been best friends for a long time, and for as long as I've known her she's continiously gained weight.
When she still lived with her parents, they'd force her on diets such as the WeightWatchers (which there isn't anything wrong with), but she'd always find a way to eat unhealthy when at school or out as they obviously couldn't constantly monitor her. Safe to say she's been through enough yo-yo dieting.

Today she's 19, and if I should take a stab at her weight, I'd say about 120 kg. She carries it quite well as she's 182cm tall, but that doesn't really make it any healthier.
I want to sit down and talk to her about it, but I know just what it's like to talk about a sensitive subject such as weight when it's a gigantic sore spot in your life.

When I'm at her place I feel so awful because I see her go through a lot of junk food and she snacks constantly, even after a meal when she's claimed to be full.

/fit/, what would you do, and has anyone had any experience with obese friends?

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>> Anonymous
Obesity is like a Meth habit. Does she WANT to lose weight? If she doesn't it's definitely hopeless. You can check an addict into as many rehab clinics as you want, but if they don't want to quit they won't.
>> Anonymous
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I know exactly what you mean. I had this friend who use to always go on about being teased and her family pressuring her into losing weight and so on, yet she would always say she was 100% happy with her weight.

The paradox here is that these comments still upset her and let's face it, she's like 5'5" or so and weighs fucking 130kg AT LEAST. Regardless of how she LOOKS (I wouldn't hit it) it's still very unhealthy and damaging in the long run. So I tried on MULTIPLE occasions to tell her to do something about it, that if she wants to lose weight she has to be committed, disciplined and also *realistic* about what to expect.

I told her about starting slowly, with walking, aerobics and dieting (NOT SHAKES! just eating less shit and more substantial meals) then moving onto jogging, more and weight training. In the long run, running, lots of cardiovascular exercise and some more weight training for good tone. But you can't win em all..

Unfortunately, my so called friend backlashed against my opinions and started saying I was accusing her of being fat and depressed (too true she was, however I never said such things) and useless.
Anyway, anon decided to let her deal with her problems by herself, as it was FAR too much maintenance trying to motivate her and cop her shit too.
Last I heard, she got herself a boyfriend and now believes that she need not improve her health or fitness at all.
Enjoy your early life span, you fat retarded fuck.

Awaiting mis/fit/s thoughts.
>> Anonymous
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From my personal experience low carb was better for me when I was obese. When I first started I ate a lot of chocolate, chips and coke. First step was to stop the coke and go onto the diet varieties, and cut them down even more so I would only have them during meals.

Cutting out all breads, pastas, potato, etc was the next step. I wasn't all that worried about the "health risks" involved. You have to understand that low carb doesn't just mean eat a tonne of bacon, eggs, etc. You just eat untill you are full (which is normally a lot less food when eating high fat foods). After a while my appetite was next to nothing and I would have to force feed myself purely because I knew that I had to eat.

I used to love eating, but after a while of low carb, and having no appetite you start to lose your love for the taste of food, which I think is essential for an obese people as we tend to LOVE to eat.
>> Anonymous
The eating is in place of something else shes missing in life.

Unless she can come to realize that nothing will change her or her lifestyle and theres nothing you can do to change her mind.

Be supportive, talk to her, find out whats on her mind when she needs to eat like that. Don't attack or accuse, it'll just make her react and retreat, just listen.
>> Anonymous
>>1783
she looks a bit like the girl in Mythbusters o_o she is cute
>> Anonymous
>>2210
Did you read the bottom of the post? x)

Thanks for the advice thus far, anons. My dilemma is exactly that I want to help her really badly because I have been in her place, yet if someone got on me about my eating habits I'd also retreat and feel very scrutinized.
>> Anonymous
>>they'd force her on diets such as the WeightWatchers (which there isn't anything wrong with)
Sorry, you are deluded, there is something very wrong with that. Forcing someone on a diet will just make them hate it and do everything they can to not do it.

She needs support and needs to be convinced to want to lose weight.
>> Anonymous
>>2232
I think OP meant that there's nothing wrong with Weight Watchers, not that there's nothing wrong with forcing a girl on a diet.