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Social Anxiety & Angry Outbursts. Anonymous
I figured /fit/ would be the prudent place post this considering this pertains to mental health.

Anyway, I've had social anxiety for almost 2 years now, but it's only really been swift kick in the nuts since I left High School 6 months ago.

Because it's so hard finding a job and going out to social gatherings I've been thinking quite poorly of myself and this has led to angry outbursts which last for a few seconds, but they only occur when I'm by myself.

These angry feelings have been enhanced even more since there's a chance that a girl I like likes someone else - I can't tell her my true feelings because of SA.

What do you suggest I do /fit/?

Just note that I don't want to turn to medication or psychiatrists.
>> Anonymous
>What do you suggest I do /fit/?

Grow the fuck up. Figure out what you're anxious about and get over it. Stop throwing tantrums.

>Just note that I don't want to turn to medication or psychiatrists.

Good, you earned back some of the respect you lost with the rest of your post.
>> Anonymous
My roommate has been struggling with panic attacks for the past year. Breathing exercises help her... breathe in as deep as you can, hold it for a second, and let it out as slowly as possible, focusing on your back stretching to its full length. Do this for like 10 minutes focusing only on your breath and relaxing every muscle in your body and you'll calm down enough to not jump off a bridge after you txt her how you feel. Maybe.
>> Anonymous
>>207431
Grow the fuck up?

What the Hell, until you know what it's like to have social anxiety, YOU need to grow the fuck up.
>> Anonymous
Go to college. None of this "video game design" crap either. I obviously don't know where you live, but community colleges usually have a "honors" program that can kick you up into a regular 2-4 year program at a real college after you've done the school+work deal for a year or two.

You'll be glad you did.
>> Anonymous
>>207443
You're getting angry at the wrong person here.
>> Anonymous
>>207443
No, you're a little whiny faggot and you know it. You're also still a teenager, unless you're also so retarded that you had to be held beck multiple years in school. So, yeah, grow the fuck up. Starving niggers in Africa don't have panic attacks, they don't get depressed and they don't have social anxiety disorders, and they're starving niggers. Look at you; why the fuck should you have any of that shit? You shouldn't, so cut it the fuck out.
>> Anonymous
>>207443
I'd expect that from someone who's prone to angry outbursts but to not be able to control yourself when typing and then having to click 'Submit' says alot. If you're not willing to confront those issues and listen and accept EVERYTHING you hear, then you're going to be stuck with your issues.

Adjusted people who get told to 'grow up' would not react the way you just did. Adjust yourself.
>> Anonymous
>>207448
Exactly, it's 4chan. Fucking prepubescents get wound up on every little shit like its fucking directed at them.

Protip:you're not the fucking center of the universe, GROW UP
>> Anonymous
>>207448
I don't get angry on the internet really.

I only reacted the way I did because he clearly does not understand the hardship people through SA experience.

Sure, I feel sorry for starving Africans, but just because others are worse off than me does not exactly = the perfect cure.
>> Anonymous
Start smoking weed. I had terrible anxiety until I started toking up.
>> Anonymous
>>207463
ACCEPT THAT YOU'RE IN DENIAL! You have to be able to say yes to negatives instead of reasoning and making excuses. The best times to practice are when you KNOW it's not your fault and still accept the blame anyway.

>I've been thinking quite poorly of myself and this has led to angry outbursts which last for a few seconds, but they only occur when I'm by myself.
I'm betting you regret doing things you wish you hadn't done and things you wish you had done instead after thinking of it later or not having the courage to do it? Again, control the outbursts and learn from them. That's life. You really do sound underageb&.

>These angry feelings have been enhanced even more since there's a chance that a girl I like likes someone else - I can't tell her my true feelings because of SA.
Again, stop looking for reasoning and cheap ways. SA in this case is because you know she likes someone else and the chances for rejection are high. Stop labelling it SA. That's a cop out. Accept that and then listen to others advice, move on. It's probably a puppycrush if you label her as 'girl' and not 'friend' so you don't know enough about her. Just tell her when the right time comes up or when you're alone.
>> Anonymous
>>207463
i can so see him ending up as that kidnapper guy who rapes a girl and then cries, says sorry and thank you after sex then kills the girl and turns himself in
>> Anonymous
Lets have a list of things /fit/ users really believe.

-Everyone is exactly the same genetically, there is no such thing as different body types, metabolic rates, recover rates, hormone levels etc... EVERYONE IS THE SAME RAAAGE
-Anyone who is not 240 lbs minimum is a pussy.
-Anyone who lifts to look better is a pussy.
-Anyone who doesn't eat steak 8x a day, pussy.
-All mental illnesses and disorders are bullshit and fake, and everyone is the same. I feel this way in one situation so everyone else must, right?
-Medicine is bullshit. And for pussies. Real men use all natural remedies.
-Cortisone is gene therapy treatment too.
- anyone who drinks anything but water is a pussy. fuck taste, or getting drunk, they are pussies.
-all recreational drugs are for pussies
-Deadlidt 500 lbs or you're a pussy.
>> Anonymous
>>207487
You're a fucking gullible retard who can't tell the joke posts from the legit ones.
>> Anonymous
>>207473
She actually is a friend I have known for a while now and has a case of SA herself, but not as severe as mine, she's also the only RL friend I've told that I have SA. In that respect I do know quite a lot about her and am more attracted to her personality rather than appearance.

I'm 18 by the way, turning 19 in October - so no underaged b& here.
>> Anonymous
>>207498
That's much better. I'd say connect a bit better, ask her if she's confessed to that other guy yet and feel things out. Also, confessing and getting turned down isn't the end of the world. It's alot better than never doing it at all, her never knowing, her going after that other guy and then you delving deeper into your 'SA' from always wondering what could have been. Cheer up anon, you're doing good. Just reaffirm yourself and adjust.
>> Anonymous
>>207503
Well there's one thing that pisses me off, but I won't go into too much detail.

Basically the guy already said that he likes her, but she is confused (not just about this alone) and unsure about her feelings.

Basically she's a faithful Christian, therefore she will only date Christian guys. The thing that pisses me off is, is that the guy was anti-religion before he met her and now suddenly he's turning into a super-Christian; Oh gee, what a coincidence? What pisses me off moreso is that she's buying it - the guy is smart and researches into things deeply.
>> Anonymous
>>207526
Bring it to her attention but don't come off too strong. With your SA and possibly anger issues you might start yelling and look radical. If it does turn out the way we're both not hoping and she actually does go out with him, she'll soon come to realize what kind of guy he is in the end. We all know how it'll end. It's just up to you as to how you plan to deal with this scenario along the way and how you intend to end it also. Get off /fit/ and think long and hard if she's worth the pain.
>> Anonymous
>>207427

Ok, serious advice:

It's not worth it, OP. Again let me say it in caps:

IT'S NOT. WORTH IT.

Not being offensive, but you sound like you're relatively young. You have a long way ahead of you, and plenty of time to overcome these "anxieties".

Seriously OP, find something you're passionate about. Art, writing, martial arts, sciences...ANYTHING you have a knack for. Find people who hasimilarve the same interests. Use the internet to your advantage (craigslist, etc...)

I'm serious OP, you don't want to get to a point in life where you would regret not putting some serious effort into fixing your "problem". In fact, chances are good you have no problem at all, you're just a little hesitant.

Just fucking DO IT. Whatever it is you always wanted to do. There are no "ways" to fix anxiety.

I personally found that the best solution to the problem is to act like there is no problem.

Time is precious, OP. Just think positive, and have a little courage.

That girl you wanted to talk to, but can't?

FUCK IT, OP. GO THERE AND SAY SOMETHING. GROW SOME BALLS.

You know why? because fear of regret >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> fear of rejection.

If God forbid she told you to fuck off, FUCK IT. She's only going to reject you ONCE. You'll get over it in no time.

If she agrees to go out with you, you'll be wondering if there was ever a problem in the first place.

Take it easy.
>> Anonymous
>>207540
Dude, don't tell him to not do it then. He should go for it or else he'll FOREVER regret it. Don't you see? Telling her and the confrontation is everything you said in the latter part. The pain is a part of growing up and realization. I doubt that if she does agree to go out with him, that's what's going to be on his mind if he's half as crazy about her as he makes it out to seem.
>> Anonymous
>>207532
Oh, as I said I only get angry-outbursts when I'm by myself. I'd never get angry around someone(s).

I have told her the whole 'conversion' is iffy, but she believes him, agh.

Also, yes, she is worth the trouble - the perfect girl for me, as it were.
>> Anonymous
>>207541

When I was saying that "it's not worth it", I was referring to the social anxiety and the random outbursts.

Should slow down next time...;)
>> Anonymous
Okay, here's what you do: Learn some nerve holds. Every time you feel suddenly overcome with a feeling of dread, cause yourself the most horrible physical pain you know how to while telling yourself "my fear that something is going to inevitably go wrong is not rational. I will succeed or fail based on my merits, flaws, and a small element of random chance." B. F. Skinner and I endorse this course of action as one that will almost certainly produce results.
>> Anonymous
>>207545
I never did do well on my reading comprehension tests. :P

>>207542
If there's no deterring you from your choice, bear with it. Tell her how you feel, that you're only looking out for her best interests and then do what>>207540said to get over your 'SA'. Get into a club or something and socialize slowly.

(Don't crowd her, give her space and time to think if you do go through with it.)
>> Anonymous
>>207547
That sounds awful but would probably work.