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/fit/ I need a little help.

A few months ago my girlfriend of over two years broke up with me. For the majority of my life I was a fat awkward nerd until a few years ago I got my act together and got in shape losing nearly 80 pounds. In my senior year of high school we started dating and she was my first serious relationship.

Just before we broke up I had a job, was getting ready to move out (still live with parents) and I would hang out with friends almost every day.

Now she's with a guy joining the marines, I've dated two girls for a few days but was so dissinterested that I couldn't keep it up, I'm unemployed, broke, and completely isolated from everyone (I only see people maybe once a week if ever) the only plus is that I have time to work out every single day for hours on end but otherwise I seem to have lost all motivation to live, should I go to a doctor about depression or just hope I can get my life back on track eventually?
>> Anonymous
be proactive
- get a job, or at least start looking (properly, not half arsed attempts)
- go and see your mates as much as possible
- get a new girlfriend

just my suggestions
>> Anonymous
>>188969
Yes, see a doctor immediately. They can put you on pills that make you feel less shitty and give you the motivation to get your life back together.

I know shit sux, but get a job and if you haven't gotten your education, start with community college and keep going.

Dude, you will find a fucking amazing woman someday who will make all your dreams come true. I promise you a time will come when you never even think about your ex.
>> Anonymous
>>188977
I've been trying the second and third and it seems like my friends who I've known for years just don't give a shit about me anymore.

I've gone out with a couple girls but I broke it off with both of them because right now I just don't want to risk another ball crushing break up, I tried finding a girl who wasn't looking for a long term relationship but they don't seem to exist anymore, or are way out of my league.
>> Anonymous
>>188969

I was almost exactly in your shows a couple of years ago.

1. You get over girls. It may take awhile but it does happen. I look back and think of the time wasted feeling bad about an ex gf and laugh at myself.

2.Working out is great, but it is always good to have another hobby. It will keep your mind off depressing shit, and you wont feel like such a douche.

3. If you are really feeling "I seem to have lost all motivation to live" then see a doctor. Psychologist NOT Psychiatrist. Maybe all you need is a pro to talk to, no good being on random head meds.

But I am a psychology major so I am a little biased.

Hope this helped.
>> Anonymous
>>188996

>Shoes

my bad
>> Anonymous
>>188969

Also yea, get your fucking education if you haven't already
>> Anonymous
Don't go down the pills road.
You'll get addicted, need more and more, and noone wants to date a pill-popper.
You have the capacity to change; you went from a fat cunt and dropped 80 pounds. Get a hobby, or work out, something to take up your mind and give you satisfaction. Keep at it, a better girl will come along.
>> deep fried mars Anonymous
Don't worry. I'm depressed too. Never got gf, fat fuck, etc.

Sometimes I feel that I can do anything, all the best things are achievable and life is wonderful. So bad that those moments are so rare.
>> Anonymous
>>189002
Well on that subject I really want to but I have no idea what I want to go for and even though I've got all the money for it set aside if I go for one thing and change my mind I'm fucked.
>> Anonymous
>>189011
I second what everyone has said, find a therapist/psychologist and get your shit together, people have been through way worse. Yes your situation sucks but you can get through it, if you had the will to lose 80 pounds and are working out every day you should be able to get a better girl no problem.

Shit like >way out of my league.
Should not be in your head anymore, get a halfway decent job and it sounds to me like you should be able to get any girl you want.
>> Anonymous
You have to balance your priorities.

Workout and find Job > Bros > Hoes

Going to people (particularly friends and girls) without a good body or job is just saying, "I avoiding responsibilities, please love me anyways!" If nothing else talking about how you're trying and failing to better yourself so at least people think your doing attempting to do something with your life.
>> Anonymous
>>189086
The working out is definitely not a problem right now, I'm in better shape than I ever have been before and it's only getting better, but thats the one positive thing left in my life.

Like I said I've been able to get with two girls in the past couple months but they are always interested in long term relationships and I'm just not.
>> Anonymous
>>189006
>>Sometimes I feel that I can do anything, all the best things are achievable and life is wonderful. So bad that those moments are so rare.

Isn't that what a manic episode is? Shouldn't you be on meds for that?
>> Anonymous
>>189011
consider finding a good liberal arts college. It will have a large sector humanities, which basically saying do whatever the fuck you feel like.
>> Anonymous
>>189091
say you want a some 'trial run' to see who it goes with the one you like better or will put out the most. if you like it stay, if not say it won't work out
>> Anonymous
>>188969
I'd say look for a full time job, once you get that down reconnect with your friends, find out what the fuck happened.
Then start with women again, I can't give much advise on this other than make yourself available.
If you take too long or none of this helps get a referral for a psychologist from your general practitioner.
>> deep fried mars Anonymous
>>189092
maybe you're right
>> Anonymous
/fit/ never fails to make me feel better about myself.
No matter how down I get there's always some fat pathetic loser who's willing to spew his story for my amusement.
Thanks OP.
>> Anonymous
>>189231
Except I could probably kick your ass, I haven't been fat for years.
>> Anonymous
OP it seems like you are forgetting that you were doing fine even before that bitch came along, you don't need some ho to live your life.
>> Anonymous
At least you channeled your emotions into working out instead of being a recluse or some shit. Kudos for that. In all seriousness, I believe in this type of situation working out is the best thing you could do. It gets you in shape and works on your self esteem to get back in the game.
>> Anonymous
so ronery ;_;
>> Anonymous
>>189314


But he IS a fucking recluse right now. You missed the part where he said he was jobless and had no money and only had human contact once a week.
>> Anonymous
>>189329
You mean me being on /fit/ a few hours each day isn't human contact? ;_;
>> Anonymous
Well OP here, I talked with my brother (13 years older than me and a cop) tonight, he's going to help me get a job which isn't quite full time but close enough and it pays well. Hopefully this is the first step to not sucking at life anymore.
>> Anonymous
listin man im a marine, that realationship aint gonna last long. Just swoop in for the rebound
>> Anonymous
>>189460
I don't think things would ever work for us again since when we broke up she asked why I couldn't be happy for them and I said "Id only be happy for them if I got to dance on their graves."

I was really pissed off at the time... shit I still am.
>> Anonymous
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go gators woo!!!

but seriously, i feel ya, i've been through something similar... moving on is hard, isn't it?
>> Anonymous
go volunteer, join the peace corps or just take it easy and read a few good books. Don't be too hard on yourself, take each day as it is and try to make goals for yourself. See it as a workout, maybe set your first goal to find a job and work at it as you would in a gym. Once you accomplish that, choose another goal. If all else fails, you can join the army, I have a relative who was in the same position and the army put his life together... but then again you might just get killed.
>> Anonymous
Grab a knife and go on a killing spree. Better to burn out than fade away!
>> Anonymous
>>189542
Knife? Fuck that, this isn't japan, you can get a gun and take out both of them.
>> Anonymous
>>189542
I salute you sir
>> Anonymous
OP HERE!

IT IS A BEAUTIFUL FUCKING DAY, APPARENTLY THE BITCHES MARINE FAGGOT JUST LEFT FOR BOOT CAMP THIS MORNING! I'VE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER IN MY ENTIRE LIFE!

She just IM'd me about how she's been crying all day and wants someone to talk to and I'm being the biggest dickhead I can, it feels good to get revenge.
>> Anonymous
>>189574
Good job on ruining your chance to get some pussy.
>> Anonymous
>>189579
I wouldn't fuck her if she came crawling back to me naked and begging for it.
>> Anonymous
>>189574

Good job, by not being nice to her that'll just make her want you some more. You're a man, she needs to go cry to her friends. Revenge is always so sweet, it's one of the best things to live for. But don't burn bridges though, you can still use her just for sex, even if you still hate her.
>> Anonymous
Well I'm still not sure how it's going to work out but I'm feeling better now and theres a cute goth chick I'm gonna ask out on friday.
Not everything is right yet but I guess I'm doing fine for now. Thanks to everyone that posted.
>> Anonymous
>>189579
See:
>>189595

>>189574
Yeah... I wouldn't be too hard on the Marine. If you had been in his position, you would have done the exact same thing. Think about it. Still, enjoy your revenge. Revenge is sweet.
>> Anonymous
>>189780
I was friends with him until it happened, apparently he was her 'shoulder to cry on' and he fucking stabbed me in the back.

I hope he comes back in a fucking bodybag.
>> Anonymous
>>189809
w8amin 'shoulder to cry on'?
So he got out of the friend zone?

Does he have email?
>> Anonymous
>>189809
Oh... well, then he's a dick.
>> Anonymous
>>189811
No he was MY friend not hers.
>> Anonymous
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you sound like you got some time on your hands.... idle hands are the devils plaything(good movie that idle hands, start with that to cheer you up)

but like most people said get work or go to school or both, start talking to every girl that looks interesting to you and you'll forget that girl ever existed
>> Anonymous
>>189841
Yeah my brother is going to help me get a job (he's the only person that seems to understand my school problem) and I'm trying to get the balls to ask out this one girl I know.
>> Anonymous
itt:

chan-love.

<3
>> Anonymous
sweet thread op. get some angry working out happening.