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Anonymous
hey first time poster here, im usually on /b/ but thats besides the point

i have a close clsoe friend who holds alot in, and he jsut told me the reason he was int he hospital for a 75 hour lock a few months back was because he tried to commit suicide by taking a bunch of pills, then jumping off a building but he only got as far as the pills and passed out and his parents found him. he is going to tlel me IRL the messed up things that made him want to do that, he says he wouldnt try again but im not sure. what should i do, becuase, if he died, i would be lost and tramatized for the rest of my life.

TL DR

friend tried to commit suicide a while back, jsut found out, what do i do other then the obvious

pic related, where he ended up
>> Anonymous
sage
>> Anonymous
>>98989
i wasnt sure what board to take this to, OP here, im not looking for that /b/tard attitude, this is serious and i have no one else to talk to about this

where should i go if yuo are just going to sage me?
>> Anonymous
"if he died, i would be lost and traumatized for the rest of my life."

if he died you would be lost and traumatized for a while, and then you would start to heal. You would be changed for the rest of your life, but not in an necessarily unhealthy manner. Death and dealing with people you know and love die is a part of life.
>> Anonymous
SQUATZ

or maybe ask /r9k/
>> Anonymous
Talk to your school counselor.
Other than that do shit with him, hang out, have fun, do stuff that interests him, give him a reason to be here.
>> Anonymous
He has problems and that needs fixing, help him dude.
>> Anonymous
>>99013
this.... I have a similar friend... he's a serious aspie.... like WOW... anyway, he tried to commit suicide because he was the target of many minor physical attacks and a lot of emotional abuse by other "friends"... there isn't really anything you can do except make yourself open to talking with him, and doing stuff with him.

may it end well
>> Anonymous
>>99016
i know he does, but how do i help him?

i hang out with him whenever i get the chance

he does get beat up every now and then by some fuckign wanna be gangster assholes at school, theres nothing i can do though cause im not there to stop that bull shit

but other then that i dont know what he is holding in
>> Anonymous
>>99032

Tell him to join some self defense classes.
>> Anonymous
>>99032
hey, there... I'm>>99026...
listen, it doesn't take as much as you'd think to make a person feel suicidal... in my experience, it's basicly caused by a feeling that there isn't any hope for the future... often a sub-feeling is that your life is not under your own control, but that of [insert outside force here... eg - parents, aggresors, fate, etc.]

let him know that he is in charge of his life, that bad shit happens (but is surmountable), and that you are there to help him if he needs it: this is all *you* can do... the rest is his lot
>> Anonymous
>>99037
actually, those tend to build false confidence early on... they are a good idea only if he realises that for a long time, his best option is going to be avoidance of such situations
>> Anonymous
>>99037

Yep, useful in self defense and helps self esteem, which you should help build if you want to help him. IE doing stuff with him that hes good at and not completely obviously saying good job.
>> Anonymous
>>99037
money is an issue here too, we arent too well off..


>>99038
and i guess thats all i can do, i think i need some reinforcement that he isnt gonna try to do anything dumb and that can only come from him

when he told me his plan to jump off that building it really made my chest start to hurt and now im here sobbing like a little girl thinknig about what life would be like without him
>> Anonymous
>>99045
oh, also, a key thing is that you DON'T guilt him... make sure that he knows that he has the reigns and that he isn't living just for someone else... that'll likely take him right back to square 1