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Anonymous
>>197864 Haha. It's not true at all. Ugh. How to explain this. And I'll say bluntly, I'm terrible with women.
Most shy people never get over high school, they only remember how people were when they went to high school. So they go out into the world, and are unable to engage most people in anything. This is especially true shy men and women.
The dating game isn't what you think it is, it's not about being incredibly charming and smiling at the right time, it's not about treating women like shit either. I have friends who get laid all the time, are incredibly nice and awesome people, and their girlfriends are always great people. I broke down one day and asked them their secrets. And what was this secret? They approached them like they were normal human beings who they wanted to be friends with, did not force the conversation or treat them as if they were special, and if they were not interested/similar enough, simply walked away. If there was a mutual attraction, they made this clear without being overbearing about it, and again, if things went wrong, they moved on.
tl;dr. The secret to getting women is to have no expectations, be comfortable enough with yourself not to be upset if they dislike you, and have the courage to approach them. You don't need their attention, but you'd like it.
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