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Anonymous
Dear /fit/,

My girlfriend is obsessed with counting calories and keeping track of everything she eats.

She also has hundreds of "thinspiration" and reverse thinspiration photos.

She also said that she is losing all this weight to make her ex boyfriend jealous.

What should I do?
>> Anonymous
Your girlfriend is crazy. Find a replacement.
>> Anonymous
>>7029
>>7029
Ah can you find some numbers on there?

So what's her weight goal this time and How many calories does it say per day?
>> Anonymous
Tie her up and force feed her meat loaf.
>> Anonymous
>>7038

You're not helping.
>> Anonymous
>to make her ex boyfriend jealous.
She should go to a doctor.
>> Anonymous
I think you have to be honest and confront her, it's not good that she keeps something like that secret from you.
But the "making ex-bf jealous" thing doesn't sound good for you...

Anyway, excercise > starving. My GF is the same there, she depends too much on NOT EATING instead of moving. I don't understand it.
>> Anonymous
What's her height and weight at the moment?
>> Anonymous
>>7073

Confront her and tell her she's not making her ex jealous by making herself ugly :|
>> Poppy Hercock.
>>7067
Not considered particularly thin in a pro-ana community. She probably feels pressured to be 105ish if she's 5'4.

I'm 5'7 and my goal weight is 115.
>> Mr. Mephistopheles !idZRx8pOWQ
>>7073

Perhaps, but it's specifically trying to make him 'jealous' which made me wonder... it just sounds kinda off to try and make another guy jealous when you're with someone else
>> Anonymous
You should dump her ass, you retard

Think about it, if she's YOUR girlfriend, but she's still doing all this to make her ex feel bad, what does that make you? A goddamn pawn. She wants to look "good" and have a man beside her so she can flaunt the fact that her ex made a huge mistake by breaking up with her. It doesn't have to be you, it could be any guy.
>> Anonymous
>>7077

I appreciate the in depth answer. But coming from a person with EDNOS, your answer is slightly biased. I can't just let her continually starve herself and encourage it. There is no way in hell I will ever make an egg white anything.

The idea here it to HELP her, not let this shit continue.
>> Anonymous
>>7084

And I understand where you're coming from. But I talked to one of her friends about it and it seems like she is just trying to make him feel bad.

She can be petty as hell.

But I understand that having a girlfriend means dealing with shit. You should too.
>> Poppy Hercock.
>>7089


You cannot help her if she is unwilling to help herself. I cannot emphasise this more.

I do not encourage starvation in any way on others' part, it is merely a choice that I've made since age 12 to my own detriment. If you do anything forceful you will lose her trust and lose her as a girlfriend and it will probably inspire her to lose more weight. Anorexics are renowned for pushing away those they love due to their disorder.
>> Anonymous
>>7077

Dont listen to her, one of the reasons for eating disorders are the attention seeking, and if you do what she tells you, you will just feed the attention whore part of her personality

1. Leave her (threats wont help, she will just hide it better)
2. Force her to see a doctor/psychatrist

These are your options, and dont think bad of your girlfriend, she is delusional and obsessive, that doenst make her a worse person, but she need to recognize that she has a problem and to do something about it.
When you stay with her or accept her selfdestructive behaviour your in for a world of hurt.
>> Anonymous
>>7100

I realize this. And I don't like living in world's of hurt.

Those kinds of worlds hurt :(
>> Poppy Hercock.
>>7100


You are an idiot and you do not understand the eating disordered. Forcing her to do anything will only make her resentful, destructive and worse. She will withdraw and confide in her fellow Pro-ana friends and push you away. She will likely sink deeper into the disorder. Short of shoving a tube up her nose if she's emaciated to the point of death, any forceful measures you take to 'help' her will only harm her further.
>> Anonymous
>>7102

Yeah man, i was there 18 month, i was young and didnt know much about eating disorders, I thought i could help her, it didnt work, because everybody has to change for themselves, it was hell on earth believe me. Today I try to dont date girls with self esteem issues or tell them to see professional help. I know its hard kick somebody out you have feelings for but its better for her (perhaps this will be the moment her mind enlighten a litte bit) and you. I had serious depression because of the relationship and all the hard work i put in it.
>> Anonymous
>>7104

hey miss attention whore, I understand that problem very good, because I had to deal with it for a long time, enjoy your illness and dont celebrate it you crazy bitch, try to get a different hobby and do something special with your life
>> Poppy Hercock.
>>7106


Not every single person on the planet, but a large portion of the eating disordered community.
>> Anonymous
>>7113

How often does this so called community gather? Could I spot them at my local McDonalds?
>> Poppy Hercock.
>>7112
How is an eating disorder a 'hobby', may I enquire?
>> Anonymous
>>7121

OP here. I thought I would ask something constructive of you.

How on Earth did you develop this eating disorder?
>> Anonymous
>>7113

The pro-ana movement is a disgrace to human nature, it glorifies a serious and deadly illness of the mind and body. Its like a movement for ocd rapist that tells its okay to harm others, pro ana hurts you and the person that love you. I live in country where not all people have enough to eat, try to explain the problem of 14 year old insecure and bored teenagers to them, i think you cant.
>> Poppy Hercock.
>>7124
Eating disorders are reputed to be 'contagious'. Not in the regular sense as a viral disease or whatnot, but by the indoctrination of eating habits influenced by others.
My older sister was bulimic and forever raving on about calories; I guess I aspired to be like her as a child and thus emulated her habits. 10 years later she has recovered and I have not. Ironic perhaps.

However there are many different factors that can contribute to the development of an ED.
>> Anonymous
>>7121

Its a hobby like all ocd behaviour, for example binge drinking or video games, you do it because your life lacks something or something bad happenend to you that you didnt work through right. If you want to change you life, get a new "hobby" so to speak, get professional help, cut off the old friends that pull you back in it and try something with your life, help others, volunteer, sports etc etc. .
I did, i learned about my self esteem issues, anxieties and problems with other people and i work on them everyday to dont fall back in ocd behaviour.
>> Anonymous
>>7130

I asked about you, not a quote from Wikipedia.
>> Poppy Hercock.
>>7126

That is one side of the pro-ana community, one whored out by the media intensively. The 'thin commandments' or whatever, thinspiration, it's bullshit. And yes, it is harmful and ridiculous.
However, the true support communities are extremely helpful as they serve as a meeting ground for people going through the same thing.
>> Poppy Hercock.
>>7130
That was about me with information to back up my point.
>> Anonymous
>>7138

It sounds as if you have to proof your point so you can justify it, you know its bad for you, break the cycle, throw away all books and magazines, delete the bookmarks, see a psychiatrist, go out and learn again what it means to be a human.

I know i know this sounds hard and boring, but these are only excuses, your ill mind lie to you, try to reconquer yourself and live a happy and healthy life before its too late.

Remember this mental illnesses like this or the famous blackouts of women at the beginning of the 20th century are real because you let them become real, mental illnesses are a little bit like fads, they come and go with the years.
>> Anonymous
OP here. The confrontation is happening right now.

:[
>> Anonymous
>>7146

Geez if i read my own post, im guilty of giving you attention and fueling your problem, im sorry, do whatever you want, you dont seem to be a stupid person, perhaps you will figure it out one day or not whatever, its your life and its your choices.
>> Anonymous
>>7153

Good luck OP, stay strong and confident, sometimes you have to cut off a limb to rescue the body.
>> Anonymous
Dump her ass.
>> Anonymous
>>7167

Can someone show him the MSPaint about how to get a girlfriend please?
>> Anonymous
OP here. After a quick argument with her defending herself and her ways I got her to admit she has a problem.

I'll keep you posted.
>> Anonymous
>>7176

thats a good starter, observe her carefully if she is serious, go to a professional with her
>> Anonymous
Hi /fit/

OP here again, I hope this will be my last post.

I talked to her about it pretty in depth, and i think she feels pretty embarrassed by it. I tried my hardest to be as supportive as I can without letting her insanity step all over me.

I got a good start by getting her to promise not to count any calories today or keep track of what she eats.

It's a good start.

Now I just have to hope my grandmother doesn't die in her surgery today. She's 73 with a kidney stone. Yuck :[

Thanks /fit/
>> Anonymous
Tell her to hit the bricks.

porblem solved.