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xanax Anonymous
should I try to get some /fit/ ?

I'm 20 years old and I can't fucking talk to people. I can barely look them in the eye. I find it utterly impossible to talk about myself in any situation, like I'm ashamed or something, but i'm not.

I'm not a stupid person, but when I talk to people it's like the words just don't come to my mind, and if they do they come too slowly to engage in meaningful conversation. I had a job interview today and it was pretty much a disaster because I couldn't talk enough, even though I'm qualified enough for the position.

I've read some threads on /fit/ about people who have started taking it and suddenly they were able to participate in long conversations, and it got me considering trying it.

So /fit/, what should I do?
>> Anonymous
I might add that when I'm drunk my words flow freely enough, so it's not that I have nothing to say, it just doesn't come to my mind normally. I don't know if that might have some bearing on my diagnosis. Xanax is said to affect inhibition so I imagine it might.
>> Anonymous
see a medical doctor. You are only going to get a guilt trip on this board.
>> Anonymous
>>478872
I am going to
I live in Canada so hopefully it's mostly covered by insurance
>> Anonymous
Do it! Everyone else on this board seems to have had success with xanax.
>> Anonymous
is it going to make me fat?
I read that it can alter your appetite
but if I keep eating what I normally do I should be okay, right?
>> Anonymous
I suggest you find and resolve the problems you have yourself instead of taking drugs.
>> Anonymous
>>478882

That's a hollow suggestion. I've tried the old, "improve yourself," "take up hobbies," "be more confident" route, but it doesn't help when my mind is completely blank in the rare occasion that I speak to people.

I don't have any problems to resolve other than a total mental block.
>> Anonymous
>>478868
>I'm not a stupid person, but when I talk to people it's like the words just don't come to my mind, and if they do they come too slowly to engage in meaningful conversation.

That means you're a stupid person.

>I had a job interview today and it was pretty much a disaster because I couldn't talk enough, even though I'm qualified enough for the position.

That means you're not qualified enough.
>> Anonymous
>>478868
not OP but i have the same problem
19 years and still a virgin too ;-;
it's not like im ugly or dumb or anything... same as OP

also, i don't drink alcohol or take drugs so some kind of alternative method would be great
>> Anonymous
>>478900
man the fuck up pussy!!
>> Anonymous
>>478898
i'm not buying it bro

anyway, I guess i'll just try it and see what happens
>> Anonymous
>>478900
OP here

not a virgin. I've been with 4 girls, but they get bored pretty quick when I'm too scared to say anything to them.
>> Anonymous
Celexa

Xanax is not for long term use, and is generally used to treat anxiety attacks rather than generalized anxiety.

Celexa or Lexapro is what you probably want.
>> Anonymous
>>478908
thanks

i'll read up on those
>> Anonymous
>>478907
how were you able to fuck girls without talking to them first?

also, i don't care about staying with them, just the initial fuck then gtfo
>> Anonymous
>>478916
I don't know.

Alcohol, luck, and a pleasant face.
>> Anonymous
>>478916
also i'm not depressed so i don't see any reason to take those pills like xanax

i just don't think of anything good to say until like 5 minutes after i needed it... fuck...
>> Anonymous
>>478920

you sure you're not depressed bro? you're on 4chan
>> Anonymous
Anons who did get these, were they prescribed by your general practicioner or did you have to go to a psychiatrist?

Also, I'm wondering what I should do since I won't have insurance until I get hired... will the psychiatrist visits cost a lot? Will the prescriptions cost a lot? And more importantly, will it count as some kind of "preexisting condition" that insurance won't cover when i do get it?
>> Anonymous
>>478886
it isn't a hollow suggestion, and when you tried to resolve them you obviously failed and that is because you didn't try long enough and that is because the way you did it wasn't rewarding.

If I was to convince you, I would have to write a lot of text but I feel a wimp like you isn't worth it. Just take the xanax, it will work if you tell yourself so.
>> Anonymous
Wait till you get insurance, trust me.

Copays vary. Mine is $20 for the Appt. and $10 per fill.

w/o insurance it'll cost ya.

You won't get a scrip for Xanax unless you are seriously fucked up. Better to go in and describe your symptoms so the doc can give you the best med for you.

See a psychiatrist, not your physician.
>> Anonymous
It's not fucking rocket science, you don't hold meaningful conversations with people at first. You just make small-talk, you know, chit-chat. Once you can hold small talk, longer conversations are possible.

http://www.ehow.com/how_10812_make-small-talk.html

"But what do I say exactly?" is probably what OP is going to whine about next. Stop being lazy and pay the fuck attention to what's going on around you. Beginning of the semester at school? Lean over and say 'hey what's your major?' Middle of the semester, 'hey do you know what we're supposed to do on that paper'? Next week, then say 'hey how are you' or 'whatsup'. Easy-peesy japaneezy
>> Anonymous
>>478942
Dude, you are seriously a faggot, fuck you.

I KNOW what to say. I can sit here and write a fucking pages upon pages on any topic that pops into my head. OBVIOUSLY social conversations have to be contextual, but it doesn't work when you're sitting there trying to formulate sentences in your head. Conversations flow, you don't get a minute to consider and create your response.
>> Anonymous
>>478942

Anxiety is a medical condition. It doesn't always apply to social situations.

You know how when you are drunk, you'll do stuff you wouldn't do sober? Well, imagine the opposite, you are more inhibited than normal. Now imagine being stuck that way because of a chemical imbalance in your brain. There are drugs that can correct that balance....would you talk to a doc or not?
>> Anonymous
Maybe you've come to the realization that 95% of conversations are meaningless and shallow. Even if the convo ends up being about something interesting, the people participating in the conversation usually feign interest in order to spew an uninformed opinion on the matter. YOU ARE ALONE! that being said, take the meds, enjoy the meaningless conversations and live a "happy" life.


lulz
>> Anonymous
>>478961

I came to that realization when I was 13. Now I'd rather be a productive member of society. You'll understand some day little guy.
>> Anonymous
>>478961

I'm your elder.

A productive member of society? Don't make me vomit. I'm sure the job you are trying to get will make such a significant change in the world! Fuck if only you could talk to people, its too bad it took you 7 years to get your head out of your ass. I hear Stephen Hawking's job position recently opened up at Camb uni, fuck pop some xanax and its yours!
>> Anonymous
>>478966
>lulz
>I'm your elder.

hahahaha. Better luck next time.
>> Anonymous
>>478952

I see what the problem is now. By the way you type and whine, you're obviously stupid, lazy, or a coward. Probably all three. I just gave you specific examples what to do and you still won't do it. Sorry, you'll always be an unsuccessful little bitch.

There's no cure for cowardice.
>> Anonymous
>>478969

85' faggot
>> Anonymous
>>478974
Sure thing bro
>> Anonymous
>>478961
> REALIZATION
> MEANINGLESS
> SHALLOW

Oh, nerds.
>> Anonymous
OP here. Its probably due to the fact I play wow all day and sleep in the same bed as my mother.
>> Anonymous
>>478977

this is 4chan retard.
>> Anonymous
>>478982
Hello, 4chan retard*. How are you?


* Punctuation counts.
>> Anonymous
alright now that this has successfully devolved into a veritable shitfest, i'll take my leave

thanks to those who gave advice

I will go to a doctor and see what happens
>> Anonymous
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>> Anonymous
I agree, OP is pretty stupid if he can't prepare a simple system of small talk. My system revolves around "Hey" and "How do I get to ________?" even though I know perfectly well how to get there.
>> Anonymous
>>478998

But it's so hard to say hello to random strangers! Seriously, I can't do it! Gimme Xanax!

Yo wtf, if I gave OP some sugar pills and told him it was Xanax, he would have no problem talking to people.
>> Anonymous
>>478998
asking for directions is not the same as engaging in a stimulating conversation
>> Anonymous
>>479031

That's the beauty of it, it leads to better things. If you stop and ask someone on the street, all you're going to get is directions from them. If you ask a classmate or a girl in a bar, its easy to follow up with more banter.
>> Anonymous
>>479031stimulating conversation
What do you even mean by that? Sounds magical, whatever it is.
>> Anonymous
>>479039

>follow up with more banter

Give examples plox
>> Anonymous
>>479050
Like this. Hey, do you know where the closest laundry mat is? O'rly. wanta fuck?
>> Anonymous
>>479050

Me: Excuse me, do you know where the Great Wall Bar is?
Her: Yea, but it's closed down
Me: Really?
Her: I think they were serving alcohol to minors
Me; Oh that's gay, my co-workers told me it was a good place to go to. I just moved here a couple months ago, finally settled in, but I'm still looking for some places to hang out
Her: Really? Where'd you move from?
or
Her: Really? Where do you work at?
or
Her: I know a couple places blah blah blah...
or
She's not into you and will try to end the conversation.
>> Anonymous
>>479075

That's gay, do you really meet women with that line?
>> Anonymous
>>479115
In my head it works 100%
>> Anonymous
>>479115

I'm 25 and ever since I turned 21 I've been doing it every Friday and Saturday that I go out. It's gotten countless dates afterwords (most of them ending without sex and without seeing the girl again), and landed me 2 long term girlfriends. I'm not the greatest at meeting girls or the best looking guy, but it works pretty well.
>> Anonymous
>>478868
Get some WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEED
>> Anonymous
Go see a therapist, for fuck's sake.
>> Anonymous
ITT: retards who have no idea about social anxiety. Get meds, little one, and godspeed!
>> Anonymous
Grow a pair of balls
>> Anonymous
>>479217
True. You can take it in pill or tea form too and it's much healthier that way. It's a lot better for you then pills too. Smoking it isn't as unhealthy as it's led to beleive, but it's still smoking. No matter what it is smoking is never great for you.
I buy some kind of pill from a dollar store that is in a gellitin capsule, empty it out and pack it with finely shredded weed. It's work but it's worth it.
Even thats not super healthy for you, but it is better for you then xanax. Make sure you have no stems or seeds in it though. Digesting them isn't good for you.
I don't do this a lot, but I take a few of the pills sometimes if I feel I'm going to need it. I don't really like taking anything, the idea of it bothers me.
My advise though is try the weed, or if your not comfortable with it go with the xanax. Just be careful, and make note of it if you start experiencing anything off. Other side effects can occur other then once listed, it all depends on the individual.
>> Anonymous
I've got severe social anxiety disorder too OP, you're not alone. I'm not socially inept, I'm not stupid; I just get incredibly uncomfortable and think irrationally when I'm in certain social situations. It took its toll on my social life, my sports, and my school. I have such an immense fear of being judged that I try not to stand out in any way. I can't initiate conversation, I can't take risks; and manning up by fighting through it does nothing but leave me a worthless stuttering, awkward psychological wreck.

I just can't be confident, even though I have every reason to be. I'm very good looking, in amazing shape, an extremely talented athlete, and smart as a fucking whip. Chicks are always checking me out, but naturally, I can't close the deal, or open it for that matter. It doomed me to being a chronic underachiever.

I started taking cipralex (canadian version of lexapro) and it seems to be working nicely. I'm 6 weeks in and my anxiety is substantially better. I think you should talk to your doctor about it, OP. Be sure to ask him to prescribe a stimulant like Adderall with it though, otherwise you wont be able to concentrate worth a shit and you'll probably get fat.
>> Anonymous
I had social anxiety, couldn't even talk to girls. I taught myself some basic small talk, and even though I still sometimes feel uncomfortable talking to new people, its a lot better. It became easier when I grew the fuck up and realized no one gives a shit about you; they're probably just as nervous as you are.
>> Anonymous
I know exactly what you're going through, OP. A book that really helped me was 'What They Must Think.' It talks about a different kinds of solutions to help you with social anxiety.
>> Anonymous
>>479789

Hey anon, could you find me a link to somewhere that sells this book? I google'd but couldn't find anything. Thanks in advance.
>> Anonymous
Solving problems with magical pills.

Oh man, I love America.
>> test !khlSMh/9k6
>Hey anon, could you find me a link to somewhere that sells this book? I google'd but couldn't find anything. Thanks in advance.

http://www.amazon.com/What-You-Must-Think-Experience/dp/019531302X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&am
p;qid=1227903042&sr=1-1
>> Anonymous
>>479772
>It became easier when I grew the fuck up and realized no one gives a shit about you; they're probably just as nervous as you are.

bullshit. I go to college and people will willingly raise their hand and enter into a discussion with the professor in front of 30, 100, 200 or more people, and be perfectly comfortable. Something like that would be fucking IMPOSSIBLE for me, even if I wanted to attempt it.
>> Anonymous
>>479974
This.
>> Anonymous
>>479974

Sounds like more of a confidence issue. Have any of the people in this thread who suffer from this "illness" ever considered positioning themselves in a situation that forces them to be social? Get a job in the public service sector, waiter, nurse, fuck even a grocery store. This will force you to interact with people, regardless of your problem.
>> Anonymous
had the same thing until i realised that i was insignificant in other peoples eyes and it really doesn't matter that much what you say. and im not saying that in a faggoty attention whore way.

just try to see yourself from other peoples perspective, the words that come out of your mouth aren't significant enough for you to be judged so harshly

man the fuck up and realise that no-one cares, when you do this you'll stop caring so much as well
>> Anonymous
>>479982

I interact with people every fucking day - and it's always AWKWARD.
>> Anonymous
>>479985
once you stop caring it won't be awkward
>> Anonymous
>>479987
once I stop caring I'll just avoid social situations

kind of what I have been doing most of my life

you don't know what you're talking about
>> Anonymous
the problem with /fit/ is that they want to believe they are powerful and fearless soldiers of fortune that can overcome anything with their superpowers. Shit doesn't work that way in the real world. To say biochemistry doesn't play a role in your behavior is a little shortsighted.
>> Anonymous
>>479989

So, its painfully obvious that you're just a dick. People offer opinions and you shoot them down, clutching your "anxiety" and milking it for all its worth. GET OUT OF THE WOMB, ITS A GIANT WORLD. fucking trapped in a bubble. fucking gtfo or an hero. let this shit thread die.
>> Anonymous
>>479997
I only shoot down suggestions that I have obviously fucking tried over the course of my life "LOL MAN UP," "LOL JUST STOP BEING NERVOUS!!"

fuck
>> Anonymous
>>479989
well clearly not cos if you didn't care you wouldn't be bawwing on here about it

and i didn't mean stop caring about social situations, i just meant seeing people being awkward, it really doesnt matter
>> Anonymous
>>479989

No. Once you stop caring, you'll do stuff like grown up people. You're just a fucking pussy.

You think I don't know what I'm talking about? I was that kid that looked like harry potter who had no friends for 9 years, who did nothing but play shitty jrpgs all day long. I was fucking terrified, literally, terrified of people I didn't know. If a girl talked to me or looked me in the eye I'd start hyperventilating. I was scared shitless of the world. I know where you stand, kid. It's all in your mind.

If you want out of your bullshit world, you can get out. You just have to want it, and believe that you can get out. If you don't believe in yourself, or even want to try, you might aswell shoot yourself now.

Fear is a part of everyone's life, don't let it run yours.
>> Anonymous
restart steam
>> Anonymous
Pills to cure virginity. Fuck.