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/fit/, I'm having a crisis. Since middle school I've had a very hard time motivating myself to do work, particularly for school. I'm in my second year in college now and I still have this problem. I just can't get in the habit of studying and getting assignments done when it's not right before (or after) a deadline, at 5AM, etc. It makes me feel like an enormous failure, and I'm starting to lose hope that I'll ever get out of this mindset.

I understand intellectually that I need to improve my habits, but for some reason I just can't find a way to force myself. It has in the past ruined relationships with professors, strained my relationship with my parents who pay half my tuition, stunted my ability to learn anything and caused friends to look down on me as irresponsible and unreliable.

Has anyone gone through this before? Can anyone give me any advice that might help me get my life back on track? Anything helpful is appreciated, I know about asking for life advice on 4chan but I'm desperate and I figure worst case is I get flamed.
>> Anonymous
This is exactly what I am feeling now. I'm a freshman, though.

In my case I'm trying to sleep in the right time, eat well and see what happens because it might be just laziness. Also: Are you going through some kind of pressure/ unsatisfied with something other than your college life?
>> Anonymous
I think a shitload of guys get this. I only get it with college work. I go to the gym daily and am employee of the month at work 6/8 months I've worked there. If only I could apply it to college. I'd give my barbell away.
>> Anonymous
doesn't look like you want to be there, i'm sort of the same way but i graduate this semester (fucked up my first semester terribly and then had to switch majors).

although i really don't want to go to university anymore i go to all the classes and get all the work done on time and usually before 9pm day before it's due. because i know in order to get out of there i have to get shit done or i'm stuck there for another semester.

But to tell you the truth i thought college was going to be getting a lesbian to suck cock hard, but really it's easy if you put some effort into it. probably why i never stress out about tests, or even study for that matter. i don't get perfect grades either, but posting a 3.5+ GPA each semester (3.936 last semester 3 A's and A-).

for like the first 4 semester university was quite fun, but now it's getting old and boring. i have found my new meaning in life, and i will pursue that when i'm done making the last 4 years of my life useless. just have to realize this one day or another
>> Anonymous
>>362255
>employee of the month

enjoy your hard work for empty awards
>> OP
That's a bit of a relief, no one else I know has the same problem and I was starting to think I was the only one dealing with it.

>>362242
As of now I'm stressed about figuring out my major/what I want to do with my life, because so far nothing academic really interests me...which might be my problem. I also just went through a messy breakup and she's not talking to me...if that counts.

I'm dissatisfied with my appearance as well, which actually runs more or less parallel with this larger problem now that I think about it.

I felt the same way for a while, and I've tried sleeping and eating well (when I'm not up late doing problem sets) so unless I need to start drinking coffee lack of energy doesn't seem like the problem for me.

>>362273
This is what I want to be like...particularly the finding meaning and not stressing.
Thanks for the responses, guys, I really appreciate it.
>> OP
>>362304
"I felt the same way" as in that it might just be laziness.
>> Anonymous
>>362304

Considered the military? I drifted thru 2 years of college before I joined the AF. I was cake, you get paid & trained, and you get time to think about what you want to do in college THEN you get money to go to school.

Just throwing that out there...
>> OP
>>362311
Only briefly. I don't know, for some reason I can't really see myself joining the military...I know it'd end in a lot of arguments at home, though. Honestly, if I was positive it'd help, it'd be more than worth it.
>> Anonymous
>>362320

>for some reason I can't really see myself joining the military

Don't let your imagination defeat a good opportunity.

>I know it'd end in a lot of arguments at home, though

Fuck whoever would give you shit about it. It's your life, amirite?

>if I was positive it'd help

Lurk Moar, you can talk to a recruiter wo/ promising shit. Matter of fact, nothing done at a recruiter's office puts anything in stone.
>> Anonymous
my friend joined the military and it scared me how he turned into a walking military advertisement. i wouldn't go into the recruiting station when he got weighed because the one time i did i was molested by like 8 guys trying to make me feel bad about not joining the army.

tldr;
>>362311
advertisement dickfest
>> OP
>>362367
No, I agree, no one would have the right to tell me not to. If leaving friends and family to join the military is the only way to shape up, then I'll have to. But I don't feel a recruiter, someone whose job it is to get people to join, would be the most unbiased person to talk to about how it could help me.
>> Anonymous
>>362391
A recruiter called me and he was like a fucking car salesmen. There was no sincerity in what he said, he was smooth as fuck. His main selling point with me was money for college. He first tried to figure out what kind of person I was so he would know what to bait to use. These people do not have your interest in mind, they have their own interest, as well as the interest of the Military and our two wars in mind.
>> noko Anonymous
Op,

Just doing it is the only way to go. I stil struggle with the exact same problem you have. Try single tasking: don't quit until your work is done, or you've at least completed a sizeable portion of it. Once you've learned discipline, you're good to go (easier said than done). Try eating right (no junk food), working out (www.stronglifts.com / HIIT), and getting enough sleep. Being as physically able as I can helps me to concentrate on school.

Finally, try enjoying what you do. Calculus was kicking my ass last semester, but I sucked it up and tried to understand exactly what was going on. Now I truly enjoy math.
>> Anonymous
This is all part of maturity and assuming responsibility, it comes later to some, like you and me, OP. I'm a month from 22 and just starting to come around, I can feel it, getting out in the world helps a lot. The most important thing is finding the drive before your life has moved on too much.

>>362311

The military isn't for everyone. It cultivates a lot of good and bad frames of mind for the rest of your life. It's free but it's a significant block of your life shelved aside, and you don't get to take back the decision without branding yourself a failure to everyone you know.
>> OP
>>362759
Thanks, but I feel like I've been trying to "just do it" for years. I don't drink soda or eat junk more than once a month, I've been doing light lifting and HIIT for several weeks, and I generally get 7-8 hours a night.

Discipline and enjoying what I do, I think, are the problems...I'm lacking them, big time. Any tips on how to get some of that stuff? Particularly discipline. I feel like a weak-willed coward whenever I try, which makes me even more frustrated.
>> OP
>>362765
Only a year and a half under you, Anon, and I'm craving the drive that everyone seems to be talking about. Sometimes it feels like I have no motivation to do anything, least of all work.
>> Anonymous
This exact thing is happening to me.
I got a script for Adderall and delt with it pretty well.
>> Anonymous
>>362816
As cliché as it sounds, a positive attitude helps me enjoy whatever I'm doing. Find your love of life. Talk to people. Even though the world if filled with those who only talk about television and video games, there are a few who discuss literature and the amazing, crazy ideas found in them. Find those special people. Cut down on your internet wasting time. Try reading more. Paint. Take long walks. (*Note: This describes me on good days. I have plenty of bad, relaps-y ones also.)

This thread has made me realize that I need other people's help. It's time to install porn monitoring software on my laptop and tell my girlfriend about my addiction. Fuck.
>> OP
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>>362850
Jeez man, good luck...I hope your girlfriend's open-minded. That can't be fun.

Thank you so much for the suggestions...this'll be my last 4chan thread for a while. I've got a few good books waiting to be read, and it's been a long time since I've just gone out to take a walk. My sketchbook hasn't been touched in years. I feel better just thinking about it...I just hope it works for me.