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On fetishes, paraphilias and sexual likes
Anonymous
It seems to me that people don't really understand what "fetish", "paraphilia" and "sexual preferences/sexual likes" mean.
Fetishes are something, or some aspect of someone, that arouses sexual desire and becomes necessary for sexual gratification. If you have a fetish for anal, you'll have a "soft" time with vaginal sex. Although being gay is not a fetish, you can imagine that for someone with an anal fetish to have vaginal sex is as difficult as a gay person to have hetero sex.
Sexual preferences/sexual likes are something, or some aspect of someone, that arouses sexual desire but are _not obligatory_ for sexual gratification. For example, I may like, or prefer, chubby women, but I'll be able to get off with skinny women too.
Paraphilias are sexual "disorders": anything that pisses people and society off, thus making you miserable. The dictionary defines it as "Any of a group of psychosexual disorders characterized by sexual fantasies, feelings, or activities involving a nonhuman object, a nonconsenting partner such as a child, or pain or humiliation of oneself or one's partner. Also called sexual deviation." Paraphiliacs make up 90% of /b/, the other 10% are just idiots.
Personally, my porn fetish is anal, my porn likes/preferences are basically everything (and I do mean _everything_); but I only like vaginal sex in real life. Maybe when I get older I'll be more adventurous. Go figure.
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