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Anonymous
Since I couldn't think or a better board to post this on, I decided this would be the place.

/fit/ I think I may have desensitized myself to sex from porn. Let's just say I've been having some troubles with a new girlfriend. I think it may just be my nerves, but is there anything you recommend I do to try to remedy my problem. I don't mind taking some medication, just make the OP image the last resort.
>> Anonymous
Yeah, basically it's all summed up in STOP MASTURBATING. If she's willing to fuck, then fuck. Maybe try a fantasy on her (tie her up, whatever you're into).
>> Anonymous
If you're having difficulty getting an erection, here's what happened to me.

I just couldn't get it up on command. It's irrational to think that a girl cna go "I wanna fuck" and sproing! penis pops up. your body doesn't really work quite like that. Instead, what I did was just lay in bed with her, just chatting, feeling each other up, with no pressure or expectation at any point, and eventually I'd get an erection. then I'd slap a condom on that quick as can be, and BAM! sex starts right then. It's a little weak for foreplay, but it'll help get you over the mental block of having to perform .
There's a whole branch of clinical psychology that deals with sexual dysfunction, so don't think it's just something that's affecting you.
>> Anonymous
>>321152
I haven't been masturbating too much since dating her, but I'll completely fucking stop if need be.
>> Anonymous
>>321156
There's a lot of foreplay with her and I get them during the foreplay, but when it gets to the fucking part like I lose it.
>> Anonymous
>>321161
Then stop considering the act of sex the goal in and of itself.
The pressure of performing well during sex is often subconscious. Like I said, stop dealing with the expectations of sex and focus on the good time you're all sharing.
Question, at what point during sex do you lose your erection? Is it when you're trying to put the condom on, after that but before sex, attempting to enter, or during the actual act?
>> Anonymous
>>321193
;_; Fuck dude, I'm sorry, I was just trolling. I'm sure you guys'll do fine.
>> Anonymous
>>321192even though I know I should

there's a problem right there.
Start using a condom first off.
second off, that sounds like it's a mental barrier. Start just enjoying being with each other and having playful intimate times, that doesn't necessarily lead to sex.
Also, consider seeing a sex counselor.
>> sage
>>321190
not really, most of you aren't that naturally wet that we need to maintain an erection AND remember lube
>> Anonymous
>>321198
All right if it still continues for a long time I'll try something more drastic. We seriously just started being intimate (like less than a week.) and while she is somewhat experienced I have little to no experience at all. I really hope it's just my nerves. That and well... she's basically cheating on her boyfriend to be with me <.<
>> Anonymous
>>321204
Nice sage there, buddy.
>> Anonymous
>>321204
whatever you're doing, you're doing it wrong. she'll stay wet if she's enjoying it. stop choking her or calling her mommy.
>> Anonymous
>>321222
Why did I lol?
>> Anonymous
>>321222
Wow. I'm the OP and even I feel bad for that guy.
>> Anonymous
One more bump before I leave.
>> Anonymous
>>321222

Actually, that's not necessarily true. There are plenty of disorders (and medication that you might be taking, like birth control) that even though you're totally into what's going on, you could be dry as the mojave desert.

Sucks, but true.
>> Anonymous
>>321942
I suffer from this.
>> Anonymous
>>321141
>>321958

So do I. We just keeps lots of lube on hand. Really shitty, but what can you do?
>> Anonymous
>>321209

the girl I'm seeing these last months is 23 while I'm 19, and she has been VERY active. I've been with 1 girl before her. I have the same issue as you: I perform well but somewhat have to try hard when its about getting my dick hard.
Anyway, what im trying to say is that maybe your own insecurities have much to do with it. By the time you develop self confidence around her, I trust it'll be fine.

Also, nothing wrong with using viagra, tho I haven't yet. Its not only for old hags.
>> Anonymous
Could be that she's not quit turning you on. I was recently with a girl who was hot as fuck. Fucked her twice. First time was fucking awesome-o, second time she had talked so much about goddamn dumb shit that I knew not to be true that she killed the fire inside. I tried to fuck her again just to shut her up and hping that I'd get horny again .... second time I had some ... equipment malfunctions. Partly she had ruined it, partly I was fucking tired from the first time.

Shit happens, but if she's doing something wrong tell her not to anymore.