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Dear /fit/
Just had to share. I was dumped today after a 2 year relationship. She dumped me by text. She's seeing someone at work and doesn't want to text and meet me at the same time.
I just want to share how fucking terrible I feel. I know all guys go through this, but this is the first time I've ever been really in love with a girl before. She's older than me so it wasn't going to end in marriage, but I thought about her all the time. She was like that to, right up until she met this guy at work.
But anyway, I feel empty, terrible, and plain devastated.
Share your stories /fit/ so I can share my pain.
>> Anonymous
post nudes on /fit/ for revenge
>> Anonymous
>She dumped me by text.
lol
>> Anonymous
>>398965
more common than you think
>> Anonymous
OP here. Dumped by text. For fucking real. The sinking feeling I got when I read that was unreal. And I was at work at the time. Standing in the centre of the office. Nice
>> Anonymous
That's utterly terrible of her.
It won't make you feel better right now, but soon you'll realize how that's an indicator of the kind of person she is, and that's definitely not the kind of relationship you would have wanted as life went on.
>> Anonymous
text her back.

say NO U
>> Anonymous
>>398981

QFT listen to the wise man
>> Anonymous
Well, I just dumped a girl that was pretty awesome, for the sole reason that I'm in love with my best friend's girlfriend. Who happens to be awesome. I now spend most of my time hanging out with the three of us.

She seems into me. As into me as she can seem while her boyfriend and I are joking around right next to her. It's been tearing me up. Fucking sucks..

but at the same time it's kind of interesting. we're all getting fucked up at my place this weekend, fingers crossed. she suggested 3-some jokingly(?). we'll see.

My condolences to the OP.
>> Anonymous
>>398981
OP here. Thank you for writing this. She never acted or did anything this abrupt before. Thats why it hurt so much, the suddenness of it.
>> Anonymous
oh shi-

my friend went through the same thing. He was with her for like a year then broke up within freshers week of uni. He had to take a break from study.

I've only ever had childhood girlfriends (like 13/14 years old) but I was pretty upset during those split ups. Don't know whether it's good I've been missing out or not OP.
>> Anonymous
>>399012
God, I hate you.
>> Anonymous
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>>399012
This is the situation I was in. Inverted.

My girlfriend and best friend and me used to hang around all the time, just the three of us, me and him would piss about and she'd laugh. One time I got a bit paranoid about it, but all three of us had a talk about it and they both said they'd never do anything that would hurt me that much and I needed to trust them more.

I felt great about the situation from then. My two favorite people in the world, I'd have done anything for either of them.

Then one time I dropped by his house for morning coffee and found them both in his bed asleep.

fucked me over. REAL BAD. It's been a year and I still haven't recovered.
>> Anonymous
>>399012

you're a fucking clingy backstabbing cunt.
>> Anonymous
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>>399012
FUCK
THIS
SITUATION

i have another variation on this, me and a really good friend hang around with this girl who is, atm, single. We both would go out with her, and i think she would go out with either of us.

So why dont i just go and make my move?

Im not scared of my friend in any way, if it came down to it, him vs. me, i'd most likely win a fight, but is this worth potentially losing one of my closest friends over?

FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF. Relationships make me rage
>> Anonymous
this topic further cements my irrational fear of a committed relationship. Shit that you worked for a long time can end so painfully in such a short period of time. I just don't NEED this torment. Fuck this.
>> Anonymous
>>398972
Girls today are pretty cold. I fell like we've only gotten a taste of how disposable relationships will be in the near future.

Monogamy and basic respect will be like some sort of rare fetish that is kept secret and barely tolerated by society.
>> Anonymous
>>399110

that sucks bro
>> Anonymous
OP again. Still feeling like shit. Haven't eaten all day and just talking it over with my mum. Funny how talking makes things better.
Except in this case.
>> Anonymous
>>399145
I know you feel like shit, but that's no reason why your gains should suffer. Eat something.
>> Anonymous
>>399012
>I am an asshole
You sure are man
>>399110
>I am this situation inverted
I am this situation inverted again.

My best friend's girlfriend uses him as an excuse to try to hang out with me. I don't want to date her, and wouldn't fucking backstab my friend like an asshole if I did.

...but fucking hell. Shit is awkward. I don't know how to tell my friend his girl is a skank. Maybe I'll try "your girl is a skank"
>> Anonymous
>>399156
Tell him. right now. phone email whatever.

However he reacts he'll love you like a brother forever and ever later on. (assuming he'd believe you over his biznatch.)
>> Anonymous
>>399164

what the fuck is he going to say?

'hey I don't have any conclusive evidence, but ummm... your girlfriend is a skank'

no yeah, that will definetly lead to some bonding.
>> Anonymous
OP, find your girl, tell her face to face you'll kill her and her new boyfriend if she leaves you. Chicks dig that shit. It shows you care.
>> Anonymous
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>> Anonymous
>>399170
Don't listen to this anon. Put the threat in writing and give it to her in person or nail it to her door/your choice.
Chicks dig it when it's official. They want something tangible
>> Anonymous
>>399166
"Look Brah(<--important), I need to tell you something about cumdumpster, I know that you might not want to believe me, but just remember how long you and I have been friends, I would never joke around or lie to you about something as serious as this, she keeps coming onto me. Sorry brah. know that I wouldn't let anything at all happen, you know that man. If it was me in your situation I'd want to know, that's why I told you...

something along those lines. It isn't that hard.
>> Anonymous
I was dumped 2 weeks ago after a 5 year relationship. I still feel like shit, but the only real helpful advice there is is go fuck 10 other women.
>> Anonymous
>>399140
Monogamy and basic respect will be like some sort of rare fetish that is kept secret and barely tolerated by society.

I'm afraid so. I finally got lucky w/a girl who's into that and things are great. But my contingency plan, is, maybe... to satisfy my pairing needs with a state-of-the-art chatterbot and just be slightly insane.
>> Anonymous
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Brethren before wenches.
>> Anonymous
Stop ALL contact with her. If she apologizes, brush her off. If she asks for you back, tell her to fuck off. But you already know this, don't you?
>> Anonymous
OP again. If she gets in contact again, I'd take her back in a heartbeat. Even as "just friends". We got along great, jokes and things we liked.
And every guy here would take their girl back if they get the chance. Admit it.
Further to all this, I went on her facebook page (and no you can't have it) and it looks like she's been seeing this guy since September.
But he likes football. And she doesn't. So now I'm feeling slightly better as there seems a good chance he'll just be a passing fling.
Well, I can hope can't I?
God she's really hurt me.
But talking here and hearing all you guys has been brilliant. Thanks anon!
>> Anonymous
Your situation sucks and it'll take a bit to get over. Deal with it however you feel best. I suggest working out cause it's good for you and provides an outlet for your frustration. Personally when my relationships have gone south I take an IPOD and go running as soon as I start getting down on myself. I always seem to be in my best shape after a relationship ends. lol

One last thing,
Make sure to cut as much contact with her as possible OP. Women will come back and think they can be friends but guys don't work like that. We think it means something else. Don't fall for that cause women DON'T THINK THAT WAY! Of course I'm speaking from personal experience. :( All you'll end up in is a lot of pain.
>> Anonymous
>>399264

>a good chance he'll just be a passing fling.

AGHGAGAA. you fucking faggot.
Enjoy being a cuckold you weak spined little bitch.
>> Anonymous
!!! You are messing up big time, with your hopes & dreams sir! Suggest stopping immediately!

!!!!
>> Anonymous
>>399171

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Only copy this if you agree with the mesage.
>> Anonymous
>>399264
"And every guy here would take their girl back if they get the chance. Admit it."

Absolutely not. Whores get disowned.
>> Anonymous
>>But he likes football. And she doesn't. So now I'm feeling slightly better as there seems a good chance he'll just be a passing fling.

Lol what? If the girl is really so shallow that a disagreement about sports ends her relationships then wtf would you want her for?
>> Anonymous
OP again. My final post for the night. I'm absolutely knackered. Been a really shitty night. Lots of talking to mum, lots of crying (I'm man enough to admit that) and lots of me going "Why did she do it"
I fucking hurts still, but I'm SO tired I'm nice and numb at the moment. I'm dreading going to bed as I'll be thinking about her going to sleep and waking up.
Hearing you lot has honestly been a great help. Thanks guys.
And I'll still take her back, if the chance comes. She's totally worth it, older than me (12 years older) and awesome as hell.
"I have to tell you I've been dating someone from work and its going quite well, it's early days but I feel I have to stop texting and meeting you. Good luck sexy xxx"
FUCKING PAIN!
>> Anonymous
>>399308
>lots of crying

O god, srsly grow a pair you bitch ass trick. Stop crying to your mommy and go get drunk with your boys and hunt for some new pussy.
>> Anonymous
Nothing I have heard you say is different than what any normal guy experiences after getting dumped.

I understand what your saying OP. Those thoughts (taking her back, there's a chance, etc...) are the same for everyone after getting dumped. It's normal to think that stuff but don't let it fool you. Once a girl says it's over, it's over. Try to accept it. It hurts more if you hold onto a failing relationship.

Give yourself some time and let the rational side of your brain give you some advice. In your current state anything your thinking will be tempered by emotion.

I'm not good at giving advice, but I do understand the psychology behind it. Try looking online for information on what humans experience after being dumped and why. The education could help make it easier to deal with. Hope that helps :)
>> Anonymous
Some older girl used you for a nice young stud. Then she realized you were a clingy kid and that she could find a guy who looked football who would rock her world in the bedroom and she dumped you like the cheep one night stand you were.
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>>399308
I was about to jump down your throat and tell you to man the fuck up, but then I remembered how I felt last time I got dumped by a girl I really, really liked. I was acting a lot like you. I talked to different people on the phone all day because I couldn't stand to be alone with my thoughts. They were too painful. The only upside was that all that talking brought me a little closer to my family.

The days and even months following a shocking breakup are pretty rough. I feel for you.

But time heals all wounds. You'll still have scars, but the pain won't be constantly on your mind. As soon as you can handle it, you're gonna want to hook up with some other girls. Even if they're not as great and wonderful as your ex (they probably won't be), they'll serve their purpose and cleanse your palate, so to speak. Armed with the knowledge that there are other vaginas in the world, you'll eventually stop being so sad and will be open to meeting a girl who will make you forget all about this Jezebel and treat you much better.

You seem pretty young to me. How old are you, OP? I can only imagine how easy it was for a girl 12 years your senior to manipulate you. Maybe the next prospective girlfriend should be your age or younger.

tl;dr Time marches on, fuck sluts, don't be a doormat
>> Anonymous
Wow, OP, I'm sorry to hear that...

Well, since we're sharing stories, this all reminds me of a few years back, actually. A friend mine hooked up with my boyfriend's friend. They hit it off perfectly and stuck together for about a year or so. Next thing I know, I'm hearing her talking about other guys and saying how she'd love to fuck the TA in her English Lit class in college while she's still dating my boyfriend's friend.

Fast forward a month or two and she admits to her boyfriend that she slept around on him. At first, she said she'd kissed a guy, and he raged for a bit, then said it would be alright and they'd work through it and took her back. A week later, she admitted she'd fucked the guy she'd said she'd kissed. He raged and then kicked her to the curb. Last I heard, she was still with that guy and had three "near miss" pregnancy scares.

Then take my boyfriend's older brother. His wife was a cunt of epic proportions who cheated on him. They divorced and she married the guy she was cheating with, because she was "in love" -- not to mention, pregnant. They stayed together for a few years, then just recently, I guess he got tired of her lying, whore ass, because he left her. Last thing I'd heard, she'd moved back in with her parents and the kid.

All I can say is karma, man. Shit'll come back to haunt her ass. Look at it this way: maybe the tail she's chasing after now will dump her by text in the near future and she'll realize "Oh hey, I was a major bitch."

Look at it this way: leaves you open to finding a better, hotter girl.
>> Anonymous
>>399315

I wouldn't put it exactly that way, but I agree. Going by what he's said, he seems young and the type to possibly read into things too deeply, and her message makes it sound like this could have been something that was intentionally meant to be something just casual from the beginning.
>> Anonymous
OP here. I'm 34 and she's 46. We've been together for nearly 2 years and yes its been casual.
>> Anonymous
>>400762
You're 34 years old?!!!? You were crying to your mommy? You're too old to be such a whiny pussy, and you're too old to be on 4chan. So creepy. Not to mention this yak is 46. THE MILKS GONE BAD.

Holy fuck you fail at life.
>> Anonymous
>>399264
>>399264
>>399264

NO FUCKING DON'T.

They do it once, that should show you that they have the capabilities of doing it again, and again, and again.

And you can NOT let this get to you. Sure she may be the perfect girl, but there are others and others and others.

I was with my most recent girlfriend for two years, and through that whole time, she had a crush on this one guy. I thought we worked through it until she vouched to cheat on me. Shit sucks, yes, and you remember nothing but the good - but trust me, there is bad, and there will be a lot more bad to come. It all really sucks, I know, but you have to be stronger than this and tell her to just fuck right off - it's what she deserves.

After a few months, the only thing that will bother you is "Why did she do that?" and "I feel so lonely." This is expected. Once you find a new lass, you will see that she's not the only woman in this world. Until then, use this as time to grow.
>> Anonymous
I have a friend who is a clingy dumbass like the OP. It's really fucking irritating to hear that he's back with the same selfish broad...again.
>> sage sage
sage this shit
>> Anonymous
This girl talks too me about how much she hates this one guy she's been IN LOVE with forever, and how he led her on and made her feel like shit, and now she hates the living hell out of him.

And she doesn't even stop to think about how I felt when she went out with me and lied about liking me the whole time.

"It was bad timing"

I was like a puppy dog around her ankles, and she stepped on me. I've never been the same since.
>> Anonymous
We all would do ANYTHING that the girl of our dreams wanted. Even the biggest mis/fit/ has to admit that.
>> Anonymous
>>400815
Then you're a dick for still being a puppy dog around her ankles.

>>400828
The gril of my dreams wouldn't want me to do anything.
>> Sponge !!5qxfxHYSQxJ
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>>400836

This is the gril of my dreams.
>> Anonymous
>The girl of my dreams wouldn't want me to do anything.
This (spell-checked) is the correct response to all of the spineless "I'd still take her back" bullshit flying around in this thread. Enjoy being loyal to a bitch that doesn't really care about you, fellas.
>> Anonymous
OP here. I've written her an email saying stuff like I want her to be happy, and that the text was a massive shock (it was at 10.30 yesterday morning) and that I want to still talk to her and be her friend.
I know this is probably desperation in written form, but I can't just walk away without doing something.
Gents, you are witnessing my desperation in real time!
>> Sponge !!5qxfxHYSQxJ
whine whine whine get over it you woman

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=obdd31Q9PqA
>> Anonymous
>>400862
I want to smack you OP. moderately hard.
>> Anonymous
>>400866
I second that.
OP, you're either an idiot or a masochist.
>> Anonymous
>>400781
>>and you're too old to be on 4chan

We have people well into their 50s and 60s here, and I'm sure there are even older lurkers out there.
>> Anonymous
You can be dumped at any age and it'll hurt like hell.
>> belo
>>399219
i lol'd
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OP again. I sent the email.

She replied.

She said she never knew how I felt and was gutted when she read my emails showing my true feelings for her and although she is seeing this other guy, she does still want me in her life.
This guy won't last, they never do.
Talk about a fucking win!!
Gents, the milky bars are on me!!!
Is there a moral to this? Probably that you should tell your girlfriend your true feelings. I feel fucking excellent.
>> Anonymous
>>401033
AWWWW. now she has a safety net to fall back on in case her new boyfriend realises she's actually a cunt. And when she's done with the safety net? vicious cycles manbitch etc.

>guy won't last, they never do.
what makes you think you'll last then. Stupid faggot.

where's my milky bar?
>> Anonymous
>>401033

No good can come of this. Why not just get your fucking life together and learn not to let people, especially women, fuck with you?

Now she KNOWS that she can treat you like shit and you will still be NEEDY as fuck. This is no situation you want to be in, trust me. I think only very few women out there will not EXPLOIT your neediness and "loyalty". Move on
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Sup OP,
I will just leave this here for you.
The incisions is your wrist were all for show.
Just like you.
He epitome of self indulgence.
Another farce.
A charade and another set of crocodile tears.
So serenade her with your last pathetic suicide love song.
"Broken hearts never mend".
But fools never move on.
And now she's gone because of you.
And once again You're the epitome of pure self destruction.
Cupid never found his mark.
As we await the insertion of blades on flesh.
You part the skin and tell of blades on blood.
So part the fucking skin.
To tell the blades on blood.
She said "I Love You"
She said.
She said goodbye.
So cry me a fucking river bitch.
You wouldn't know love if it crushed you fucking chest.
Let go.
You wouldn't know love if it crushed your fucking chest.
"Razors, roses and a black tomorrow"
They never showed any affection to anything but your ego.
A tragedy of errors at the best of times.
You are everything that's wrong with me.
Youre everything that I despise.
You are everything I dreamed would die.
You are everything that fades away and slowly dies.
Will you bleed for me when suicide seems so yesterday?
Will you bleed for me?
Will you fucking bleed for me when suicide...
It's so yesterday.
It's all so fucking yesterday.
>> Anonymous
>>401033

That's not a victory of any sorts. I understand that it hurts, but it seems like you and her had very different views on how serious this relationship was. I don't think either of you are likely to start viewing this relationship in a different light, and the very fact that she is the one in total control in this matter (mainly because you let her be) means that you're the one who's going to get hurt here. Again.

Move on, if you can.
>> Anonymous
>>400877
And they're creepy as shit. 50s and 60s is WAY too old to be on the internet period. It's not their generation, they should die.
>> Anonymous
>>401033
bro the only way some good could come from this is if you made her leave that guy for you, fucked her in the ass and then told her to get lost
why the fuck would you want to take her back after what happened?
you're stupid if you think it wouldn't happen again
seriously bro tell her to go fuck herself