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Alright, so, I might have a problem. I had sex for the first time 3 days ago with my girlfriend. We're in love, it was magical, etc. The thing is, and I explained this to her too, I can't feel a thing. The first time was with a normal condom that was handed out at college. I didn't feel a thing, and it was really hard to get on. I tried a magnum yesterday, and it works really well, but I still can't feel anything. I wouldn't REALLY mind, but since I can't feel anything, I can't keep it up. I'm hoping the problem is that I can't feel anything, because the alternative is that I need medication and such. I'm only 19, that really shouldn't be a problem yet...Next up on my list of things to try is one of those super sensitive condoms. I'm lucky enough to have a girlfriend who adores me, but she thinks it's her fault, that it's her fault that I can't keep it up. I just want to fix this whole problem. Is there anything I can do?
>> Anonymous
umm if you can't feel anything wouldn't that make you last longer? thats a good thing right?
>> Anonymous
>>278001
If I can't feel anything, it just kinda...gets soft. If it didn't do that, I wouldn't care, because I would last longer like you said.
>> Anonymous
What, your dick is numb, or you're just not getting pleasure from it? What do you mean you don't feel anything?
If you've fapped and it felt good, learning to fuck shouldn't be so hard. I mean, it'll at least feel good, even if you completely fuck it up.
>> Anonymous
don't use a condom and pull out.
>> Anonymous
I find that washing my guuch, or the place between my balls, furiously or with a scrubbie makes me last consdirably longer. But you not feeling anything would want to avoid this.

TLDR: dont wash your balls that hard
>> Anonymous
>>278018
It's not numb, I can tell I'm inside, I'm just not getting pleasure from it.
>>278019
I'd do that if I weren't afraid of getting her pregnant. Pulling out doesn't work that way.
>> Anonymous
>>278023
it just takes some learnin' boy
but if you're not horny enough to stay hard just form the act of trying to fuck, than you're doing it wrong. You have to be in the right mood.
>> Anonymous
Dear anon,

My boyfriend and I are in the exact same situation as you. Its extremily easy to get him hard and aroused but once the condom goes on he lacks enjoyment and his hardon weakens. We have found magnums seem to work alittle better, as you said, but he still losses alittle of his erection.

All I can sugjest is you REALLY spend time on the foreplay. That seems to be the only way to keep my guy hard with a condom. We have tried bare backing it a couple times whith the pullout method but if you decide to do it, PLEASE make sure shes watching her cycle as well and making sure not to try it while shes fertile.

Just spend a REALLY long time with foreplay, and if possible, try not to wack off a couple days in a row beforhand.
>> Anonymous
try a different condom. Durex Love are good, they're thiner. should help a bit, but really if you want to feel it the way it's meant to be felt you gotta have no rubber, but make sure shes on some sort of birth control, cuz you don't want a baby. Pulling out is no guarantee, and it feels good to actually cum in the girl.
>> Anonymous
Same anon as before with the bf etc.

I also agree with the other anon you have to be in the mood for sex, and just not the idea of an orgasm. They are really too different things. My guy and me will sometimes get eachother off at random, but its not quiet the same mood as wanting sex.

So just relaxe, hold back for a couple days, spend time teasing eachother, and let it go one form there.
>> Anonymous
Yo dude... shit happens to me all the time... especially when im drunk. Honestly we've stopped really using condoms all the time, its awesome but at the same time i'm playing with fire. She better be on top of that pill.

I'd suggest the thinner condoms but honestly, condoms all totally reduce the sensation.. sometimes i'd have to think sexy thoughts really hard to be able to bust. Otherwise you just get fuckin tired.. I don't know what to do to help you good luck though
>> Anonymous
>>278035
Thank you for that, it makes a lot of sense, and it's nice to know I'm not the only one. I'll try that along with the extra sensitive condom. Have you guys tried that before, does it make a difference?
>> Anonymous
>>278040
>>278041
>>278042
Thank you guys too, it makes sense. We've been just kinda going at it randomly.
>> Anonymous
Make her go on the pill and bareback it. Pulling out and watching her cycle are both methods likely to fail miserably - the cycle-watch can be screwed up at the drop of a hat, and pulling out is likely to fail because even pre-cum has sperm in it and can get her pregnant.

If you are having that much in the way of problems with condoms, change your method of birth control.
>> Anonymous
its all in your mind- think about something else, get her to grind on your crotch for a bit.
>> Anonymous
i could stay hard for a picture of dry sticks, all it takes is years of fapping with my bad hand.

yes i was born with a claw.
>> Anonymous
Why not just have her go on the pill?
>> Anonymous
stop masturbating.
You could be using to hard a grip while manhandling yourself. This could make it harder for you to feel anything with the ++resistance of the condom.

Also get the girl to practice some kegels
>> Anonymous
"and pulling out is likely to fail because even pre-cum has sperm in it and can get her pregnant."
It only has pre-cum in it if you ejaculated earlier that day and you havent pissed yet.
>> Anonymous
Did it ever occur too anyone that OP's girlfriend might just have an unusually loose pussy, and that he can't feel anything because he's throwing the ol' metaphorical "hotdog down a hallway"?
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>>277996
Try an extra or microthin condom.

Kimono are pretty good.
>> Anonymous
>>278147
Get out of /fit/.
>> Anonymous
>>278189
man has a point. She could have a big vagina.
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>>278196
Here's a reference for how thick/thin a condom is. The thinner the condom, obviously the more you will feel. Magnums are pretty thick.
>> Anonymous
>>278198
Or OP could have a tiny penis.
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do it anal-you dont have to use a condom, but make sure this doesnt happen
>> Anonymous
>>278209
OMG WTF IS THAT ???!!??
>> Anonymous
>>278494
Rectal prolapse
>> Anonymous
>>277996
You're 19, there's a naked chick in front of you, and you can't keep it up? wat?
>> Anonymous
YOU LIKE MEN
>> Anonymous
whatever you do don't be tempted by those condoms that have some kind of "tingle" lubrication on them, my dick has never felt worse.

whoever suggested kegels was right on the money, google it and chat to your girlfriend about it. also, i'd recommend having her go on the pill or osmehting similar. its possible to get an implant which (since i'm a dude i don't fully know the details) prevents pregnancy, or theres a contraceptive injection she can get every three months.
>> maybe you are gay? Anonymous
obviously I am no doc - but maybe your testosterone levels are low? I think I could have two condoms on (some people do that for safety) and still be hard. Doesn't your naked chest being against hers just get you rock hard?? Or the smell of her? Or her groaning and pleasured?

If no to the above things, maybe next time imagine you are fucking a pretty guy. Do her doggie or anal to further the fantasy. If you are like marble in her, then maybe girls aren't your primary?

Do you FAP? If so, who do you think of? How often do you fap?
>> Anonymous
The simplest explanation is that you are a pussy and a nice guy, and your "girlfriend" will leave you the moment she finds anyone manlier than you.
>> Anonymous
>>278534
Actually I'm not sure why I didn't think of this before. OP needs to lift some weights, it should get him in the mood right quick to have that much testosterone flowing.
>> Anonymous
Stop FAPPING
>> Anonymous
Try kimono microthins or some of the polyurethane condoms (for a thinner condom and rougher sex). As far as staying hard, you can use AAKG (also called no2, no-xplode, nitrox, nitric oxide.. it's for bodybuilding), yohimbe, or get a cock ring (some of them are very inconspicuous i recommend a flexible rubber one.
>> Anonymous
>>278178
>It only has pre-cum in it if you ejaculated earlier that day and you havent pissed yet.

You're a fucking idiot enjoy your pulling out, kids, and disease.
>> Anonymous
I haven't had sex with a person that i didn't have to pay but my advice is fap less. Much less. I went on vacation for a week recently, and living with 2 other guys, i couldn't fap. By the end of the week, i got a hardon just TOUCHING a girl. I went to a brothel afterwards and it was the first time i ever came in sex. My boner was like a club.

tl;dr don't fap for a week and try again.
>> Anonymous
try water sbased lube inthe tip.
>> Anonymous
stop using porn completely.
>> Anonymous
complain that your parents circumcized you.

it's probably the reason you are so desensitized.
>> Anonymous
>>278156
>>278189
>>278198

I currently fuck a girl that is as loose as they come. So sometimes I dont even know if Im inside or just humping her. In fact, it would probably get better if I was humping her. Anyway, get her to do kegels and SSSQUUAAATTZZ. tell her that you both benefit (true).

Stop masturbating for a few days. Stop with the deadly grip in your cawk. No way a vagina can compete with that.

Also, careful with the super thin kimonos. Feels good, but shitty condoms break easily. And the plan B will drive the womyn crazier.

You could get a vasectomy and never have to worry about kids again. Win.

tl;dr : Kegels and condoms (cuz bitches be crazy man)
>> anonymous
i'm with the gay theorie. 'course, i've met guys who prefer fapping to sex.... they also prefer anime catgirls.... >.>
>> Anonymous
>>278534
anyone who wears two condoms for safety is a fucking idiot. this will cause them to break more easy (latex rubbing latex) and the manufacturers tell you specifically not to do it.


>>278554
>> Anonymous
>>278865
oops, didn't mean to quote that second one.