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Dear /d/,
Should I go to the store and buy anal beads and a gag? First answer will decide if I do.
>> Anonymous
yes
>> Anonymous
Post pics too.
>> Anonymous
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well that was quick. Oh btw, I'm a boy. :D
>> Anonymous
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I'll probably post it on /b/.
>> Anonymous
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Should I get big ones or small ones?
>> Anonymous
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This girl told me to get the biggest beads they sell. I'm fine with that. What do you guys think?
>> Anonymous
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This thread should still be around when I get back with them. I don't wanna break any rules and I'll post the proof on /b/.
>> Anonymous
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This picture is pretty hot. :D
>> Anonymous
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Why is it so hard to find kinky girls where I live?
>> Anonymous
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Well at least I got the first answer, I'm done with my mini-dump. :D Thanks /d/.
>> Anonymous
>>1097601

kinky girls are everyewhere you just have to find them
>> Anonymous
>>1097601
Where do you live?
>> Anonymous
>>1097601

Oh, we're around. We lurk in the shadows of vanilla seeming girls, ready to yell "surprise" and reveal our overflowing treasure chest of handcuffs, paddles, and anal beads at the appropriate moment.
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The fun part is guessing who gets to wear the handcuffs .. >3
>> Anonymous
>>1097601
Because you're a whiner.
>> Anonymous
>>1097904
I always have trouble with this. Is it better that you tell us you're into this thing and that we just pretend we're regular vanilla loving guys or should we just step in at some point and say "hey, wanna try out doing it with some cuffs?"
>> Anonymous
>>1098020


You can always ask, they can always say no. And they can always say, "Sure, but you're going to be the one wearing them and oh, what sort of lube would you like me to put on my strap-on?"
>> Anonymous
>>1098020
Just don't act like it's totally weird and creepy and she probably won't see it that way (unless it is totally weird and creepy). There's an element of appeal in most fetishes, and if you're in a real relationship, it's not unreasonable to ask your partner to try something out for your pleasure, just as you would do for her.
>> Anonymous
>>1098111
My girl actually knows that I'm into all sorts of weird shit, including dickgirls and inflation. She finds most of it accordingly weird, but she indulges my dickgirl fetish (strapon, etc) from time to time.

You just have to connect with whoever you're trying to hook up with on a different level before you start busting out the "oh lol, i liek tentacle rape and egglaying" shit.
>> Anonymous
Or you could just get him/her really drunk, spring it on 'em, and hope all goes well.

foolproof plan
>> Anonymous
For advice on this topic, read Dan Savage's Savage Love column. http://www.thestranger.com/savage

His advice is like>>1098111said, you need to bring it up as a plus, "oh, and I'm totally into this, too! How cool!" to have it come off well. Be open and okay: Good, Giving, and Game.
>> Anonymous
>>1098020

My first sexual relationship progressed pretty naturally from vanilla to impressive levels of bondage. (I'm a female sub; he was a male dom.)

At the very beginning, he was just assertive. But that led me to be more passive (which led him to be more assertive, etc.) He started off by pinning me to the bed, or pulling my shirt up past my head (but not all the way off), so I couldn't move my arms freely. Things that are actually pretty normal... but they opened the way for a different power dynamic.

I admitted that I enjoyed it when he was "more in control" (of me, not himself), which signaled to him that I might be open to his more explicit kink. One night he tied my arms above my head with a scarf (it was wool, and itchy...), and we never looked back.

Once we broached the "I want to physically tie you so you can't get away" thing, it was smooth sailing. I mean, tying someone's arms to the bed above her head isn't extreme, by any stretch of the imagination... but once you've been tied up once, and it was a good experience, it's very easy to agree to be tied up in more and more elaborate ways.

The time it took to move the relationship from completely vanilla to me being collared/gagged/hogtied/tied spread eagle on a regular basis? Less than a month.

I'd been on /d/ for a couple years when the relationship started, and I don't think I'd ever masturbated without looking at or fantasising about bondage... I mean, I was nuts about it.

BUT, if he had sprung "I want you to be completely immobilied while we have sex" on me all at once at the beginning, I think I would have high-tailed it out of there. You definitely have to build trust... but once the trust is there, you can push the envelope pretty far pretty fast.
>> Anonymous
>>1098105"Sure, but you're going to be the one wearing them and oh, what sort of lube would you like me to put on my strap-on?"
Meh, wouldn't mind. It's only fair. And I'm a switch when it comes to bondage anyway.

>>1098111
Yeah, I know, that's how I was thinking about it. I wouldn't ask her to do anything I would be unconfortable if I was asked to do it either.

>>1098257
Yeah, that was the kind of feedback I was looking for. I wouldn't ask such a thing right away but once there is some trust.
>> Anonymous
were pics ever posted in /b/?
>> Anonymous
>>1097904
that is so beautifull... *sniffle*
>> Anonymous
>>1098257
Sound and fair advise here, take note all prepubescent adolescents
>> Anonymous
>>1098257
D'AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
>> BondageKitten
Here's a tip for the beads.. Start off smaller.. Use FUCKTONS of lube. I'm not kidding, tons of lube.

I have large beads, which aren't very large when you look at them, but as of yet, I haven't been able to put them in/pull them out without blood being shed and the experience ruined.

So remember, use LOTS of lube. If you think its enough, its not. Seriously. Put lube everywhere.

Good luck.
>> Anonymous
this thread warms the cockles of my heart