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Answer? I don't think so...
Moriarty
...Sorry for my english, a lot out of practice.
I don't think I can help, but i think I can tell my opinion.
It seem's to me you really are a little overacting (overreacting?). You can tell your opinions to your girlfriend anytime. You can tell what you think, you can tell what you feel. Without that, nothing can change. People are different, and people have different tastes. But they can adapt themselfs as well, the question is only if they want to... There must be a reason. You have to give that reason, if you want something to change. I think your girlfriend is prepared to adapt to you, if she has been hiding this from you, when she didn't know if you would like it. (somehow weird sentence, i hope its understable) It may seem as distrust, which shouldn't be in partnership, but if you love someone, you're always afraid of loosing him. Maybe you and your girlfriend are to diferent to be with each other. Maybe you should search for someone who has the same tastes as you. But you shouldn't (in my opinion) do so, before you discuss this matter with your girlfriend. It looks like you are thinking to quick now, maybe not thinking enough deep, maybe having to less information. After a discussion, you have time to think, and more information to think about. I can't tell much, I don't know you, I don't know your girlfriend. Maybe there is an easy and perfect solution. I just don't see it.
As to the "norm" - I can see which way it goes, I can't say where it is right now. :) If you give freedom to people, they will rise in EVERY direction. You can't change "norm", but you can affect it by your acts. Maybe not much, maybe yes. Depends how strong you are. ;)
...As well sorry if i left any typos, the keybord is some kind of ignoring some characters i type.
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