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Anonymous
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My first sexual relationship progressed pretty naturally from vanilla to impressive levels of bondage. (I'm a female sub; he was a male dom.)
At the very beginning, he was just assertive. But that led me to be more passive (which led him to be more assertive, etc.) He started off by pinning me to the bed, or pulling my shirt up past my head (but not all the way off), so I couldn't move my arms freely. Things that are actually pretty normal... but they opened the way for a different power dynamic.
I admitted that I enjoyed it when he was "more in control" (of me, not himself), which signaled to him that I might be open to his more explicit kink. One night he tied my arms above my head with a scarf (it was wool, and itchy...), and we never looked back.
Once we broached the "I want to physically tie you so you can't get away" thing, it was smooth sailing. I mean, tying someone's arms to the bed above her head isn't extreme, by any stretch of the imagination... but once you've been tied up once, and it was a good experience, it's very easy to agree to be tied up in more and more elaborate ways.
The time it took to move the relationship from completely vanilla to me being collared/gagged/hogtied/tied spread eagle on a regular basis? Less than a month.
I'd been on /d/ for a couple years when the relationship started, and I don't think I'd ever masturbated without looking at or fantasising about bondage... I mean, I was nuts about it.
BUT, if he had sprung "I want you to be completely immobilied while we have sex" on me all at once at the beginning, I think I would have high-tailed it out of there. You definitely have to build trust... but once the trust is there, you can push the envelope pretty far pretty fast.
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