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BDSM discussion thread Anonymous
How many /d/eviants out there have tried the real thing, wich is the most /d/ thing you have done IRL?

Me, i´m involved in a BDSM relationship with my gf.
>> Anonymous
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Well, you can count me out then. Not only do I have zero BDSM experiences, but I'm a vanilla virgin too. All I got is a burning desire to some day do some of this shit. But my worry is that are the BDSM people really as reliable as they want others to think? I've encountered some pretty elitistic attitudes during my quests on various forums, many of which piss me off.

The only /d/ thing I can think of doing is a little bit of self-bondage when I was younger. I actually used to practice suspending myself by the wrists to ceiling hooks, with cuffs I had made for myself from old car safety belts. Completely nude, of course. I really enjoyed seeing my naked, suspended body in the mirror, with my nipples exposed and thingies and everything hanging out freely. Ironically, I felt kinda free that way, despite of my arms being immobolized. I'm just damn glad I didn't get caught doing this, the shame, the shame...
>> Anonymous
>>1180164

I couldn't keep myself suspended like this for long though, because the material of the car safety belts was really harsh on the skin of my wrists. Few minutes at most, and after that I had to step down. Place my feet onto the chairs I had reserved for the operation and unhook my shackles from the ceiling. After that I had to apply lotion onto the chafed wrists and hope that my parents wouldn't notice the burns later. They weren't actually the most openminded people when it comes to fetishes.
>> Anonymous
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I do have one thing I've been wondering: How much pain can you do with the whips they sell at sex shops? Are they just complete toys?
>> Anonymous
>>1180164
If you want to talk about BDSM you can add me to my msn, if you are interested.

Having a cyber-master is sometimes a good idea ;)
>> Anonymous
>>1180164
Could you be so kind as tell what this is from, if you know?
>> LordRahvin
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I've been a professional in the field for almost a decade. It's a wonderful, fulfilling thing if done right, but like any complicated relationship, it takes time, effort, and communication. ALT.com has some good resources for those getting into the community. There are a lot of fun people out there. There are also a lot of scary folks out there... /d/ is more than proof of this.
>> Anonymous
>>1180177

It's from chapter 2 of Kenji Azuma's Dark Age.
>> Anonymous
>>1180175
... You can cause pain with damn near fucking anything.
>> Anonymous
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When I was a freshman in college, I met a man through a BDSM dating site, and I agreed to be his submissive (I'm a guy, and not actually gay, but I have a fantasy about being a gay man's slave). We went to his house, and on the car ride there, he made me pull out my penis and masturbate. When we arrived, he made me suck his cock and be his dog (which I loved!), but then he started talking about how he wanted to fuck me in a restroom and take me shopping for women's clothes, and while I was willing to try anal and I already enjoyed crossdressing, the entire idea of public exposure scared the hell out of me, and I ended up never seeing him again. I feel kind of bad about it now but hey, I was seventeen and not really mature enough for that kind of relationship. I still think about him sometimes (and fap to what might have been).
>> Anonymous
>>1180178
I wrote the above post, and I met the guy through Alt.com, without a premium membership. But don't go after a guy like I was, 'kay?
>> Anonymous
I've been involved in the bdsm "community" (I that word) for about 10 years now.

I'm a dominant male, and am so used to having submissive girlfriends that I dont even think about dating te vanilla girls anymore (unless I think I can corrupt them).

as the more the /d/ thing I've done... I distinctly remember taking a trip in early may and beating a girl's ass with a fiberglass cane so hard that she still had bruises when I saw her again in july.
>> Anonymous
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>>1180216
How do you get involved in this "community" and met sub-girls? It seems hard to find them, altrought i heard they are "dime a dozen".
>> Anonymous
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>>1180175
Yeah, at least enough pain to have fun!
>> Anonymous
>>1180178
Professional Mistress?
>> Anonymous
>>1180242

*raises hand*

Most are just too ashamed to admit it.
>> Anonymous
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>>1180164
Well, you are "BDSM people" after all, so you maybe get lucky and find a nice guy who likes to spank you.

Fuck, yeah, i also hate the "elitist" attitudes. Some doms think they are like gods or somethin´.
>> Anonymous
>>1180249
U are sub, how do you deal with it?.
>> Doctor Ape
I'm into real BDSM. I've been involved in my local kink community for going on six years now.

Also, FetLife.com = superior. If y'all want my name there, email me.
>> Anonymous
>>1180175
whips take ages of practice. you can give someone a big nasty open wound with most any sort of whip if you aren't damn careful. use paddles instead while starting out. much more controllable.
>> Anonymous
>>1180254

I bend over and take it like the whore I am.
>> Anonymous
>>1180188
Sounds a hell of a lot like the guy I'm seeing and doing stuff with, except for the crossdressing, he doesn't like that *le sigh*
>> Anony-d
I was lucky years ago in that I found a gal to teach me the "ropes" to being a Dom. I've pretty much always been interested in the kink/BDSM side of sex but my ex pretty much taught me everything I know now. While I'm more interested in the pleasure side of BDSM while having a sub g/f, we did dabble in the rough stuff a few times.
Trust and Respect are key things that I believe in and it holds true for my sexual tastes as well. Paddles, restraints, cuffs, didlos and plugs are more or less my forte'. But having a helpless Sub's pussy or ass fully exposed while they have to accept everything I do to them is an addictive experience.

As for stuff I've done? I'm very mild to /d/'s standards but I've gone so far as public fucking in bushes/alleys, making her wear plugs and vibs under clothing, enema's, 3somes with her friend while she was helpless and restrained, partial fisting and choking/suffocation (which was fun, but not our thing).

Again, trust and communication is everything as finding new things to do open up the more you and your partner are willing to try.
>> Doctor Ape
>>1180403
My kinda girl.

>>1180399
Not true. It takes seconds to learn to properly crack a bullwhip, though it takes a long time and a lot of practice to master the art. But there are also many, many other kinds of whips and impact toys: Floggers, dragon's tails, crops, switches, canes, belts... hell, I have a stainless steel spatula in my toybag. I've spanked girls with the flats of my knives. I've used a short length of rope as a whip. I've used my shoe, my bare hand... I know one Dominant who has a boat oar in his toybag.

And, seriously, the advice on starting out with paddles? Wrong-O! The only time I've ever been deep-tissue bruised during play was a paddling scene.