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Sup /c/? I asked a girl out but was rejected hard.

Give me the cutest girls you got.
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Sorry to hear that, Anon.

Here, have this cute bakery girl and try to cheer up.
>> Dune
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Oh dear me, that royaly sucks.
Cheer up 'kay~

Have some sheep~
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Ah, don't let it get to you /c/omrade.
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I don't know who this girl is (I only know where I got the picture) but I think she's pretty cute.
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Ouch, been there done that.

Just remember, Primula will always love you.
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>>589850

This is why I lost The Game too.

Damn I feel so ronery again.
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>>589850
Sorry that women are jerks, but just remember that Demi makes everything better.
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It warms my heart to see so many good people here, it really does. My condolences to the OP.
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>>590295
That wouldn't happen to be Vera, would it?
It looks like her and yet doesn't look like her...
But they both have the same hair and a liking for teddy bears, it seems.
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>>590310
Oh, now I feel bad. But no harm done. Here, OP, have a cute tomboy girl.
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>>590396

Yep, you're correct! That is indeed Vera. :)
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sorry. hope it goes well next time ;3
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OP here, thanks so much you all. It's good to know there's nice people on 4chan.
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That's /c/ for ya. Have a Ringo.
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Why did you get rejected?
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Well, a "No" was enough so I didn't ask for a reason. That would have only made me feel worse.
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>>590513
It's ok. Anon here doesn't even have the courage to ask girls out. :(
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I too have failed with the girls I have fallen in love with. But I'll show them. I'll show them all.
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All I have from my memory wipe.

Rejection sucks hard. Don't let it get to you that badly. She probably doesn't deserve you if you're a great guy and she still said no.

Females really suck lately. And that's coming from one.

Oh. Wait. No girls on the internet.
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>>590487

Why does anyone get rejected?

First you have to understand that relationships are at their core meant to get something from the other person. In order to get someone to actually want to consider dating you, you need to have something they want.

For example, for almost every woman the guy needs to be comfortable with himself and confident. I don't know exactly what you said or how she rejected you, but there are certain things which are intrinsic in the way a girl decides whether or not she will date a guy. For one, you'd need to project an air of superiority. When you approached and asked her, you were probably not confident, you were probably wary of looking her in the eye and you probably didn't speak from your stomach but rather softly than say if you were talking to one of your guy friends.

All of these things led to her viewing you at a much lower perceived value than hers. In fact, just the act of "asking her" out or whatever you did to get rejected you placed too much value on her answer. You basically threw yourself off the boat there without a life vest and gave her all the power. A woman doesn't want that, they want someone who is valuable to them, if you have no value to them they won't consider you, they will reject you...
>> Anonymous
Watch some youtubes of Dick Masterson if you're feeling down about women problems.
>> Anonymous
A good example, especially considering the content of this board is the cat. Take for example the characteristic cat trait, curiousity. A cat will play endlessly with a ball of yarn if you are careful and just string it in front of the cat and never let it hold onto it for too long. The cat will want that string because it's just out of her reach. Women are exactly the same. If there's something about you which they find curious or they can't quite figure you out, they will naturally be drawn to you. Part of this is simply demonstrating you have a higher value than she does, she wants you because you can give her something she wants. Part of this is making sure she thinks you view her at a lower value than yourself, and making sure you demonstrate you feel you have a higher value than her.
>> Anonymous
A great way to do this is to bust their balls so to speak. You'd never think to do this shit, honestly, but I'm helping you all out here, trust me, try it. Say a girl has a soar throat (this happened to me the other day), I simply said, in a lull during conversation, "Man, you sound like shit, what's up with your voice?" She ate that shit up immediately. She slapped my right arm and then I immediately almost instinctual(because I've been doing this awhile and I naturally just do high value shit now) said, "Don't touch me, I'm not a piece of meat." This did two things, first it showed her by insulting her voice that I am not trying to win her acceptance like every other lame guy who interacts with her. Then, the "I'm not a piece of meat" line showed her I don't care if she touches me and I don't view it as some sort of reward. Girls don't even realize this (I've talked to past girlfriends), that they will touch a guy and say certain things just to gauge his reaction. Putting off the move like her hitting my arm playfully, is the best response to this sort of thing. If I had just let her and smiled she'd subconsciously just classify me as some other lame guy who got her interest but ultimately was just easy to manipulate, another notch in her belt.
>> Anonymous
Another great example, I overheard this chick ask these two guys behind her at class today "Do you like Asians?" and she was asian. Of course, these clueless guys said "yes." Wrong answer, I thought to myself. Seriously. I later started up a conversation with her after class, not interested in her at all though so I didn't even have to pretend for her, and eventually she pulled that line on me. I said "No, I usually make them earn my love." Her eyes got big at that answer, she stopped talking, and her eyes like glazed over. It is what I live for now, the moment she just falls into my grasp. I just kept talking, she'd nod or give simple answers, keeping that glazed stare on her face. Ultimately I ended the interaction, on my terms and said, "Here, write your number on this piece of paper," and handed her a sheet of paper (NEVER ask for their number, this is lame every guy does this, giving her paper and pen, expecting it not asking for it, is creative and projects higher value at the same time..) and added on, as she wrote, "Draw a picture of yourself too, so I have a picture to put the name to." (Hasn't failed me yet and also gives me a shot to see how they view themselves in rare cases).
>> Anonymous
Advice for next time, don't EVER ask a girl out, or ask for her approval or any of that shit. If you had the balls to ask her that's great, but so do a bunch of other guys if she's even remotely attractive, and not just weekly, but daily. Beautiful women get hit on constantly so you have to set yourself apart from that average guy. Next time, don't do what you first think because it's probably lame and exactly what every other guy has done. Don't even ask her, tell her. It sounds like it'd never work but women love this shit. Say, you're carrying on a conversation with her alright, as you drawn the interaction to a close say something like, "Hey, I'd love to continue this interaction somewhere else, let's go ____ at ____". No sweat. If until this point you haven't expressed a lower value than her and haven't given her cues as to your lack of value, she won't say no.
>> Anonymous
I can't tell you how successful I've gotten once I realized what makes women tick. It took me years but now I haven't been "rejected" in years. I don't even allow a chance for rejection, the interaction is in my hands at all times.

I don't mean for this post to be mean, guys would kill for this advice, it's really good advice. I am a fellow anon and I browse 4chan often at late night like now for example, and I only want to help you all out. I used to get rejected and not have the courage to interact with women but once you just break out of your shell and push yourself you'd be amazed. Just take care of yourself and just reassure yourself. The worse that can happen, as I'm sure you found out when you are rejected, is you feel bad for a little while and then you get over it.

Good luck anons :D
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Less talk. More pics.
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Please tell me you're trolling. We don't want a guy who "view her at a lower value than yourself," we want a guy who respects us and himself. One of my biggest turnoffs is when I meet a guy, he discovers that I can string two words together, and he immediately has to prove he's smarter than me. That sort of behavior screams "pseudointellectual" to me and makes me reject a guy FAST.

In b4 "no girls on the internet." I'm not trying to start shit, but if that's honestly what you think then I really wonder exactly what kind of girls you're going for. Certainly not ones with any brains.
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What are you talking about? I guess you choose to just accept any guy who talks to you? No, you talk to guys who you have a reason to talk to, and in order to do that the guy needs to have proved he is worth talking to by demonstrating he was a high value. Part of that is making her think you don't care if she's beautiful or if she's smart or if she's (insert whatever every other guy goes crazy over).

If what you took away from the post was that I was saying you need to put a woman down intellectually then you missed my point entirely. Also, like I said, most women don't even realize what they choose guys based on. They will say one thing but still be attracted to another.
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Also, a cute picture for the rejected anon.
>> Anonymous
Yea. Most women don't realize it. But you can be sure>>590652knows.
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>>590652
That wasn't what I was taking away from your post; what I have a problem with is the "Part of that is making her think you don't care if she's beautiful or if she's smart or if she's (insert whatever every other guy goes crazy over)."
A girl who respects herself will care if you think we're smart or beautiful or whatever. It just won't be the biggest deciding factor in our decisions. There are plenty of girls who constantly feel they need to prove themselves to others- it seems to me that this is the type of girl you're talking about, one who will forever be trying to make themselves seem "good enough" for you.
If that's the sort of thing you like, then more power to you. Generalizing that mentality to all girls, however, just won't work.
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>>590672
Maybe it was an exaggeration but it goes on often. Ever met a girl who claims she wants a nice guy but just ends up with guys who treat her like shit? I wonder why? It's because she's attracted to one thing but knows socially she needs to be attracted to another. So she'll have no trouble claiming she wants one thing, but she will naturally gravitate toward what she's attracted to. We internalize these concepts so well sometimes we fool ourselves into believing something we think but won't necessarily do or feel.

Like I said, it's good advice and if you choose to take bits of it and use it then that's your business. It is meant to help the OP out, not for some random girl who decides to troll my post to nitpick, especially not since she's obviously going to trash it because of the nature of the advice.
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I'm honored, anon. I've never been called a troll before.
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You're obviously missing the point. The point isn't that girls don't enjoy those compliments or need them, in fact complimenting a girl is fine but it becomes a problem when you compliment her for no reason. This just screams "I am trying to win your approval." This is exactly what no woman wants unless she's ugly and doesn't receive attention at all, in which case the compliment will be well received and she won't reject you for it.

For example, you could easily do something like this to a girl who is midly attractive:

"You're beautiful sure, but beauty is common, what makes a great girl is personality and outlook on life."

This serves two purposes, you're giving her the compliment but you're also disqualifying yourself from being totally infatuated with her and needing to get her approval. You're also simultaneously forcing her to get her to prove herself to you, which by the nature of the process, forces her to get her to win your approval.

Take from that example what you will, but I'm sure you'll find some way to say "omg this won't work on all women." Also, who the fuck cares if some chick on 4chan says it won't work, I'd trust a woman not on 4chan with the time to be trolling my posts.

I decide to be nice and post in a thread I sympathize with the OP for and this is what I get. Also, to any guys reading this, women will naturally just reject any of this works, but test it yourselves, be deliberate with your actions and realize how simple it is and the reactions you get.

Oh yeah, smile alot. Smiling raises your attractiveness to levels previously unimaginable, trust me on that. Women view guys who smile at them as much more attractive. I'd love to see this female-anon deny this, I've yet to meet a chick who when I told her this disagreed with it.
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I guess no one heeded my message before. Stop talking, or else I'll do something about it.
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Whoa, calm down there. I said from the start that I wasn't trying to start shit; I was merely posting a respectful counterpoint to your point of view because I didn't agree with it. There's no need to get insulted or start insulting me. We disagree; I gave you my reasons why. SERIOUS BUSINESS.

Oh, and:
>Also, who the fuck cares if some chick on 4chan says it won't work, I'd trust a woman not on 4chan with the time to be trolling my posts.
Good day to you too, Mr. Pot.
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Less talking, more cute, faggot.
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ITT: butthurt virgin giving advice to other virgins
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>>590652
I don't want want to start anything either, but honestly, like>>590637I don't know what sort of girl you're aiming at.

True, we don't accept a guy if he doesn't have value to us. But that 'value' differs in every girl's opinion. Personally, I don't find it attractive for a guy to try and make himself better than I am to prove his value; it's petty and immature. Yes, I like confidence. Yes, I like guys who are sure of themselves, who will take the first move. But I don't like it if he holds an attitude like 'I couldn't give a crap whether you're intelligent/pretty, if you're a valuable person, etc.' If a guy tells me "Don't touch me." It isn't enticing. It isn't attractive. It's insulting. It's a put-down.

I'm sure there are girls out there who like this 'hard to get' game, but certainly not all. The best way to get an ideal girl isn't to try and pretend you don't care, it isn't to go out of your way to flatter her. It's to act like yourself, and eventually there will come along a girl that matches up with your personality. If you go about it that way, there's less of a chance that she'll end up hating you one day.
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i like un-confident guys, the quiet ones who are really shy. they always catch my attention and their mystery is sexy.

confident guys are a turn off, personally. Usually it means they are arrogant. but, that's just me.
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>>590751
i like un-confident girls, the quiet ones who are really shy. they always catch my attention and their mystery is sexy.

confident girls are so loud. it's annoying.

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>>590751
Well, see, case in point right here. Everyone differs. It isn't fair to classify how women work as if they all act and work the same. I really hate that attitude that some guys seem to have. Like 'Women all love me.' or 'If you do this, they'll fall for you every time.'
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One, you don't say "Don't touch me." lmfao. I swear you are all so oblivious to normal human interaction. When I say "Don't touch me, I'm not some piece of meat." it isn't serious, it's playful. You say it with a smile because it's a very common thing for a female to say due to the constant scrutiny they undergo based on physical appearance. Therefore it's a turn around, no average guy would say it and risk losing the interaction, he's different, he's worth the time.

Two, the point isn't to obviously display value it's all hidden in the interaction. I tell a story about how my niece wanted me to help her get her ears pierced but I don't because I want her to follow her parents guidelines. Hidden in the story is the value that I care for my loved ones. This isn't rocket science and for a few guys it's natural and second nature. For others, like the OP it isn't so they need to consciously display a high value. It's not about putting down the woman because you're insecure like all you "women" seem to have perceived it as, it's about making sure she understands you are worth her time and have a high value.
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oops, my bad

>>590757
i dislike girls that go after 'hard to get guys'. mainly because of the personality associated with 'hard to get guys' and the mindset that a girl would have to pursue them. =/
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It's nice to see someone who actually has a value for the quiet ones. Most guys I've met like confidence in girls as much as I do in guys...which is unfortunate for me, haha.
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i think you make a lot of worthy points, even with your initial posts. it's just that you make them with a horrible attitude. there is better wording you could have used. =/
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>>590751

That's great it has nothing to do with what I was discussing and actually speaks volumes about self-esteem issues. If you're drawn to "un-confidence" it simply means you want to exploit the fact the person isn't comfortable with themselves. Whether it be because you too are "un-confident" or because you see them as easily manipulable.
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>>590767
"I swear you are so oblivious to the subtleties of human action".

The 'un-confident' quiet ones are where you will find the ones confident enough that they don't have to fake it physically.
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>>590763

Don't be fooled. An attraction for confidence is biologically natural and healthy. An attraction for the "un-confident" as those two put it is unhealthy. Ask any psychiatrist; a person has two driving motivations for an attratction towards "un-confidence". You are either seeking to exploit their "un-confidence" in order that you might gain something easily, or you too are "un-confident" and think they will somehow understand you, which as the quoted points out, isn't always the case.

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Thanks
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>>590768
Keep telling yourself that. That's exactly the sort of thing someone lacking confidence would think, that somehow because you are introverted it's due to your superiority to everybody else and their lack of "true confidence." Oh please.

Besides, your statement inherently is wrong because you're assuming everybody with confidence fakes it. This couldn't be further from the truth.
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>>590770
human emotion cannot be so easily explained, you're "logic" will never be right because love is nothing you can explain with science.

un-confident quiet people FTW.

keep your obnoxious breeders
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Well, I can agree with some parts of some of your posts. But honestly, with the way I've been raised, (And maybe it IS just me,) any form of "Don't touch me." makes me feel really, really bad, and worthless, even if I know it's in a playful manner.

As for your second point, I'm saying, if you have value to a girl, you don't have to try to prove it to her. The value you hold lies in your person, whatever aspect of so it happens to be with every individual girl. With OP, going out of his way to consciously try and prove himself more valuable probably won't help him. There are girls that like shy or under-confident guys.
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>>590779
Love and attraction are two separate things. Come back to the big people discussion once you've matured a bit, sweetie.
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>>590771
i never did have a thing for drawn characters with glasses. =/

>>590770
btw:>>590766>>590756
both me. should you be thanking somebody that you believe exploits the 'easily manipulated'?

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here is the picture i forgot

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>>590780
That's just it, not everybody is good at displaying their value so they need help bringing it out. Telling stories, disqualifying yourself and not worshiping the ground she walks on are all ways to display your value. You aren't catering to a specific woman, you're catering to all women.

I'm going to exclude myself now, I'm tired of trying to explain myself. Try it anons, realize it works, and tacitly thank me under your breath as you watch her smile as she waves goodbye. I only have your best interests in mind, otherwise I wouldn't share my advice, which I've used for years now with success.

All the "women" here trying to cut it down is laughable at best. As I type my girlfriend is reading the un-confident bullshit on ichat and laughing hysterically.
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So rare for /c/. Way to go,>>590786.
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A troll if there ever was. Your girlfriend must have problems, even if she is imaginary of not.

"I'm tired of people claiming they have other's best interest in mind when they are just out to boost their own egos".

Oh wait. I'm on 4chan. And I'm out of pictures. Guess I'll have to call it a night. =/

Op: No worries. A little eroge fixes everything. :3 Until you finish playing it.
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What I'm trying to say, confident person or not, you shouldn't have to TRY to display that value. If you have value to someone, they'll realize it. If not, oh well.

"Try it, realize it works" is exactly what I was talking about earlier. The attitude that your methods of attracting girls are flawless. (This may not be your actual thought process but it sure is what it sounds like.)

As for your girlfriend, her opinions are the opinions of one girl, not every female in existence. Difference exists among people.
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>>590786
Enjoy your right hand.
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Agreed.
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>>590797
Very true. Hopefully it'll go better next time for the OP.
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>>590513
A "No" is a hard rejection? Confidence aside, grow some thicker skin.
>>590741
QFT